BiscuitTrouser said:
TAKE IT AWAY XKCD
A single tear of pure joy is rolling down my face as I type.
Giftfromme said:
Hello again!
Congratulations, you've discovered that bullying women into having sex with you by adopting a controlling attitude or playing on personal insecurities sometimes works.
The real question to ask yourself now is "why do you need to do it?" If women have so much agency and can choose whether to sleep with you,
why do you need to bully or deceive them to get into their pants?
The answer, unfortunately, is that PUA types genuinely believe that women
as a whole actively like this and respond to it. That they're exploiting "natural loopholes in female psychology" or whatever other bullshit rationalization disguises the very simple truth that if you bully people you can sometimes get things from them, but that doesn't make you a stud, it doesn't make you every woman's fantasy,
it makes you a bully.
A few years ago, I got involved in a community in which various kinds of casual sex are quite normal. All my adult relationships have been open relationships, and I've never wanted for sex or intimacy with other people, often people I'd consider way out of my league. You know what I learned? That actually, the best way to get people to want to have casual sex with you is to be genuinely
casual about it. If you lie, cheat, bully and treat people like possessions in order to fuck them,
that is not being casual, that is you going to inordinate amounts of effort for a pathetic reward at someone else's expense.
And no, I don't mean faking being cool and aloof. I mean being honest, straightforward and openly careful not to be misleading or hurtful, you know, like a confident human being who understands what you want and is able to handle another human being's emotions without turning into a wreck or a creep. Like the kind of person who isn't going to judge them or cast them aside or treat them like a notch on your bedpost, not because you're faking (because then you still have to live with the fact that you're a antisocial jerk) but because you actually are that person. After all, what's the point of sleeping with someone you don't actually like, even "casually"? You may as well stick your dick in a pig.
This is not me talking as a pro-feminist or a gender theorist, this is me talking as me. Basically, the PUA community lied to you. They don't understand women (or men) because they don't understand that both women and men are individual people just like you or I and respond to positive and negative things very similarly to the way you or I would. They have hopes and dreams and desires and insecurities, not "loopholes" and "strategies".
You can live your life predating insecure teenagers and vulnerable women and pretending you're not one step from being a sex offender, or you can actually make the prospect of sleeping with you desirable.