So, since Christmas, I've posted two threads on the following subject in the Off-Topic boards to draw amusment from the questionable antics of my mom.
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.255359-So-my-mom-tried-to-get-me-to-come-out-of-the-closet#9552164
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.262692-So-my-mom-still-thinks-Im-gay-A-Follow-Up#9919903
But it's been getting to be too much for me lately. Today on the phone, my older sister told me that our mom tried to tell her I was gay, before my sister changed the subject. This, in addition to my mom's friend making me "promise to never marry a girl" leads me to believe that my mother has been spreading rumors about my sexuality.
I'm not gay. I'm not bisexual. I've never voiced questions. I don't date, it's just not on my list of priorities. I never really considered it an issue. But apparently, at least to my mom, if I'm not out picking up weird guys at the bar, I must be a lesbian.
What do you do when the person spreading rumors about you is your own parent? Every time I've tried to talk to her about anything serious in the past, it degrades instantly into her getting extremely defensive, and screaming at me for half an hour. (I had an interesting childhood...) When it was just her yelling at me in private, I could handle it.[footnote]Not really, I still have a ton of issues.[/footnote] But what am I supposed to do to stop her?
I'm waiting to call home so I can talk to my dad when he gets home. If I'm going to try to resolve this, it might as well be with the sane/non-abusive parent. I just needed to vent a little in the meantime.
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.255359-So-my-mom-tried-to-get-me-to-come-out-of-the-closet#9552164
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.262692-So-my-mom-still-thinks-Im-gay-A-Follow-Up#9919903
But it's been getting to be too much for me lately. Today on the phone, my older sister told me that our mom tried to tell her I was gay, before my sister changed the subject. This, in addition to my mom's friend making me "promise to never marry a girl" leads me to believe that my mother has been spreading rumors about my sexuality.
I'm not gay. I'm not bisexual. I've never voiced questions. I don't date, it's just not on my list of priorities. I never really considered it an issue. But apparently, at least to my mom, if I'm not out picking up weird guys at the bar, I must be a lesbian.
What do you do when the person spreading rumors about you is your own parent? Every time I've tried to talk to her about anything serious in the past, it degrades instantly into her getting extremely defensive, and screaming at me for half an hour. (I had an interesting childhood...) When it was just her yelling at me in private, I could handle it.[footnote]Not really, I still have a ton of issues.[/footnote] But what am I supposed to do to stop her?
I'm waiting to call home so I can talk to my dad when he gets home. If I'm going to try to resolve this, it might as well be with the sane/non-abusive parent. I just needed to vent a little in the meantime.
I have absolutely no problem with gay people, but many people in my area, including my mom's side of the family who she's probably been telling this to, are quite homophobic. Even if it was true, I'd still be upset. It's the choice of the individual, and them alone to decide who knows. But the fact that it's not even true with me just makes this even more screwed up.