You (the general 'you') will acknowledge that first, yes, because it's a default setting. But if you (still the general 'you') aren't self-centred, then you'll acknowledge that the person you're speaking to knows their own identity better than you do. And the reasonable course of action is then to change if/when you get corrected, and your perception was off.
This is no better than those people who deny bisexuals exist. Their "perception" of me is that I'm just gay or straight and in denial. Is it reasonable of them to just run with this perception and insist it's accurate? Do I not know my own goddamn mind?
I mean, there has to be a limit though somewhere right? You don't just believe any crazy old thing some random person states to be factual just to be polite do you? If your neighbor starts saying that in their past life they were a dragon from space, is it incumbent upon you to be unquestioning about the factual nature of such a claim? And are you an asshole for being skeptical?
I think that's just totally irrational. Most people when told of something unusual will have questions and doubts and raise concerns as a matter of course. It takes someone who is incredibly incurious and indifferent to the world around them to just nod along.
And of this were *actually* the case, Elliot Page would still probably be married to his former lesbian wife. But they aren't, because she *isn't* bi. This is actually the crux as to why this Super Straight shit is garbage: the idea that trans men aren't men and trans women aren't women is transphobia 101 and the rest is just window dressing. It's shit like this that makes me think that cis people should seriously question their gender more often. Not because their gender will change, but because unquestioned perspectives lead to Horse Teeth Logic
Your friend tolerating you being an ass sometimes when his family would not even use his correct name is not the be all and end all of trans relationships.
I dunno man, marrying a guy as a woman who claims to be a lesbian is pretty bi. Getting divorces from guys is not a show of being a lesbian. Half of married straight women also do this.
For your claim to make sense Ellen would have to not have been a guy at some point during which the lesbinan was into that, and then become one causing her to stop being into him. She'd have to have been a woman at first, and then become a man. Not always have been a man, just in a wrong body, and then transitioning that body to match his mind, which is what happened here.
And I wasn't being an ass though. I was being normal. It wasn't a "thing". Even the name thing wasn't a big issue, she was just being considerate to her younger siblings and letting em call her what they were used to, I just used the new name cause that's what I was introduced to her as so it imprinted and it'd feel weird to use a different name all of a sudden like half a year later...much like how it'd feel different to ignore the boobs and start saying "he" all of a sudden. Nobody treated her as a dude and she didn't ask to be treated as a dude, she just didn't want to be treated as a girl in particular. That's the stuff that bothered her, things like being overly polite or minding crude language and guy-talk, she wanted to be part of that sort of thing. It just so happens I treat everyone the same anyways so we clicked because of that and mainly through shared interests. I legit don't care what you are and treat everyone the same so it works out with people who don't wanna be singled out.