I'd like to claim I am special, however I think maybe people don't pick on me just because I am pretty much insane.
During Primary School, I was bashed almost every day by three bullies. Looking back I now realise the actual social structure of our whole year. These bullies were not the biggest or the toughest kids, no the biggest and toughest were the cool kids, and they didn't really bother picking on people. These three bullies were the fat kid, an ethnic kid and a pasty white guy. Want to know what the common factor was? Abusive parents and siblings.
I consider bullying to be a learned behaviour, one that is shaped by similar actions derived by others. Let me continure with my story, so there's the three bullies, and they pick on a few different kids, not just me. One day, the kid with ADHD in our class tries to befriend these bullies so that they will leave him alone, he then proceeds to really violently harrass a few kids to show them he's the same, and then he picks on me...
...I snapped and severly beat him until he lost concious infront of 100 other school children.
Want to know how it felt? It felt horrible... I was crying so hard that the teacher didn't even punish me. I went back to class and everyone treated me like even more of a freak. So I went up to the weakest kid in our year, someone who had no friends and was an outcast because he was a religious guy, and I asked him to play handball. We didn't become friends, but I did make friends with some of the other outcasts in our year, the smart kid (now a uni bludger loved by any girl that meets him), a guy who wet his pants until he was 10 (now owns his own electrician company and models), the guy who loves dinosaurs (this guy became a bit of a stoner, but now is getting married and is happy).
Anyway, so then comes high school,
I was forced to go to a different all boys high school in year 8, where I didn't know anyone.
The first thing I did was walk up to the group of tough kids and told them I wanted to be friends, (yeah insane right?) some of them laughed but no one reciprocated. Then I walked up to the goth group (they were pretty scary too), one of them was picking on a guy from the nerd group sitting next to him. I proceeded to sit inbetween them. I sat silently until the goth lost his mind and was yelling at me, who are you? Are they your friends new kid, are you going to be in their group ******? I looked him dead in the eyes and said I don't have any friends, and I don't belong to any group, but that if I did join a group it wouldn't be to take **** out on others.
After that, because I was usually hanging out in between them, I made a few friends with the nerds and the goths and eventually they merged into one group, ah and the new group just decided to one day sit where the tough kids usually sat... this led to a conflict between this new group and the tough kids. The story goes that I beat one of them in a fight and it earned respect so we all became friends (That's not the truth). The truth is that one of the tough guys remembered that I said I wanted to be friends, he started a fight with me to try and make sure that both groups stayed together so I had friends (they had started to grow apart). Only because I was so used to taking a beating, he couldn't easily knock me down, so when I hit him back, he took a dive so that the fight would end. Apparently it's the only time someone had considered hitting him back.
So the end result of my schooling involved 3 different social groups forming a larger group that provided a lot of mutual benefit.
-Because of long lunch lines, the nerds had a system in place of sending runners from class to get lunches first so everyone in the group could eat early, and because they were smart the maths for what everyone owed was always done correctly. (They were also tipped $1 per lunch per day)
-The goths provided a joint knowledge of both fantasy and a sort of macho reality styles meaning that they were the most social in between the groups. The violent nature of the individuals in this group amped up the intimidation of others who would pick on the weaker kids.
-The tough kids provided physical protection for the other groups, tho the nature of this support was usually verbal.
-The last support came from the nerds and goths reteaching concepts to the tough kids, by doing this they refined their own knowledge as well as helping out others.
The really ironic thing is, even though I hung around them a lot, I never really joined into any of the groups and still had very few friends... but I'm kinda like that. Apart from that one time, I was never bullied in high school.
A lot of people tend to refer to me as the quirky, crazy or eccentric guy. And most of the people I know keep in contact with me via games and stuff, even the ones I'm not friends with.
I don't think I'm superior, I think that I'm weird and someone that probably could have made a ton of friends but chose to still be a loner. I like being a loner.