I tend to agree with the positive reinforcement, i really do, but unfortunately in my experience it can be overdone, with kids expecting a treat every time they aren't bad, which is different.b3nn3tt said:I can't envision a scenario where it would be necessary to hit a child. All that does is teach them that violence is an acceptable answer to wrongdoing. In my opinion, it is much better, the first time something happens, to explain to the child what it is that they have done wrong and why it is wrong. If they do it again, in knowledge of why it is wrong, then enforce consequences, but there is no reason why these have to be violent.
Also, it has been shown that punishment is the least effective means of reinforcing a behavior. Positive reinforcement is much more effective; so it is more effective to praise your children when they do something right than to punish them when they do something wrong, especially if that punishment is physical.
I know everyone is hating on "I was smacked and i am fine" but in all seriousness, for me, it made me respect my parents, not fear them, and as i think i said earlier i was smacked when needed for about 5 years and i have never ever started a fight, and fights i didn't start number in about 4, so i think, in my particular circumstance, the saying does apply.
Finally, as i have been asking others who have entered into this, do you have kid(s)?