Ever since I finished high school over a year ago, I've noticed just how much people either didn't give much of a crap about me, or how much life just caught up with them and they became too busy.
I was never a popular person (not that I wanted to be), but from middle school up until early high school I had a pretty large number of friends. I'd talk and hang out with all of them, and had a decent social life. However once late high school rolled around, that list of people I used to like grew very small, very fast.
I had people who I was friends with for years quit talking to me, and eventually ignoring all my interactions for reasons ranging from disagreeing with my opinions, to garbage excuses like "we don't talk much anymore".
It's become quite depressing. Don't misunderstand, I'm very thankful for the small ring of friends I have now, they've quickly become some of the best I've had, but it is a bit disheartening to see people I once cared about just leave, most of the time with no warning or reason.
My problem is that I secretively care too much. I've always cared about people in general, to varying degrees, especially people who shown me kindness in return. It's not that I want to be the center of attention or to be popular among a lot of people, I just like knowing there are people who accept me in general, and that I can get along with.
It does infuriate me when they give a reason like "we don't talk much anymore", as if it's 100% my responsibility to do so, as if they couldn't try to contact me every once and a while. It's lately led me to believe that they really just didn't care in the first place and just wanted an excuse to get rid of me.
I understand life gets in the way, but it just seems like friends want to get rid of me.
It's my understanding that this is fairly normal for something like this to happen after high school or college is over, or am I wrong about that? Admittedly I'm not sure what this thread can offer other than a way for me to vent a little bit.
I was never a popular person (not that I wanted to be), but from middle school up until early high school I had a pretty large number of friends. I'd talk and hang out with all of them, and had a decent social life. However once late high school rolled around, that list of people I used to like grew very small, very fast.
I had people who I was friends with for years quit talking to me, and eventually ignoring all my interactions for reasons ranging from disagreeing with my opinions, to garbage excuses like "we don't talk much anymore".
It's become quite depressing. Don't misunderstand, I'm very thankful for the small ring of friends I have now, they've quickly become some of the best I've had, but it is a bit disheartening to see people I once cared about just leave, most of the time with no warning or reason.
My problem is that I secretively care too much. I've always cared about people in general, to varying degrees, especially people who shown me kindness in return. It's not that I want to be the center of attention or to be popular among a lot of people, I just like knowing there are people who accept me in general, and that I can get along with.
It does infuriate me when they give a reason like "we don't talk much anymore", as if it's 100% my responsibility to do so, as if they couldn't try to contact me every once and a while. It's lately led me to believe that they really just didn't care in the first place and just wanted an excuse to get rid of me.
I understand life gets in the way, but it just seems like friends want to get rid of me.
It's my understanding that this is fairly normal for something like this to happen after high school or college is over, or am I wrong about that? Admittedly I'm not sure what this thread can offer other than a way for me to vent a little bit.