You're only a loser if you think you are.
Anyway, you're going to college? That's good. If US college life is anything like the Netherlands, that means that nobody is going to give a rat's ass what/how you were in high school. Teenage angst and teenage bullshit are utterly meaningless now. To quote Tony Blair, although he was referring to something else completely:
"The kaleidoscope has been shaken. The pieces are in flux. Soon they will settle again. Before they do, let us reorder this world around us."
The key component and, admittedly, the hardest part is to take action. You will have to assert yourself. How?
Join a club/students' society. Admittedly, I don't know anything about American college culture, but over here student cities/campuses are filled to the brink with societies of all kinds. Debating societies, student theater cliques, comedy collectives, student sports groups (which are not directly affiliated to the university), knitting clubs, you name it; it's there. Joining one is a great way to get access to a "clique". You're part of the group, you're all sharing a common interest, easy and fun.
Second, to quote Goethe: 'Im Anfang war die Tat'. Or, first there's the action, the thought comes second. You will have to take action, and all actions have consequences. Don't focus on the consequences a priori. First do, rationalize later. To be sure, Goethe's quip doesn't really cover drunken behaviour. When you're drunk and you're about to do something, you really have to think first.
Finally, consider this:
Happiness is worth inconvenience, and the road to happiness will be inconvenient. You will be rejected by girls and by others. There will be many little losses inbetween the few great victories. I'll write it in comfortable bold font: don't panic. You'll be fine.
Anyway, you're going to college? That's good. If US college life is anything like the Netherlands, that means that nobody is going to give a rat's ass what/how you were in high school. Teenage angst and teenage bullshit are utterly meaningless now. To quote Tony Blair, although he was referring to something else completely:
"The kaleidoscope has been shaken. The pieces are in flux. Soon they will settle again. Before they do, let us reorder this world around us."
The key component and, admittedly, the hardest part is to take action. You will have to assert yourself. How?
Join a club/students' society. Admittedly, I don't know anything about American college culture, but over here student cities/campuses are filled to the brink with societies of all kinds. Debating societies, student theater cliques, comedy collectives, student sports groups (which are not directly affiliated to the university), knitting clubs, you name it; it's there. Joining one is a great way to get access to a "clique". You're part of the group, you're all sharing a common interest, easy and fun.
Second, to quote Goethe: 'Im Anfang war die Tat'. Or, first there's the action, the thought comes second. You will have to take action, and all actions have consequences. Don't focus on the consequences a priori. First do, rationalize later. To be sure, Goethe's quip doesn't really cover drunken behaviour. When you're drunk and you're about to do something, you really have to think first.
Finally, consider this:
Happiness is worth inconvenience, and the road to happiness will be inconvenient. You will be rejected by girls and by others. There will be many little losses inbetween the few great victories. I'll write it in comfortable bold font: don't panic. You'll be fine.