Unrecognized homosexuality is one of the main causes of ED in young men. My views are hardly ignorant.
While latent homosexuality could cause erectile dysfunction, it is hardly "one of the main causes", and it certainly isn't anything close the 99.9% probability you (ignorantly) stated.cmdrmonkey said:Unrecognized homosexuality is one of the main causes of ED in young men. My views are hardly ignorant.
my ideas are try to relax an hour or two before you have sex don't sechdule sex? well do it for this try to meditate before have her give you a massage or take a shower together try some yoga for couples maybe take a day and spend together trying to (you may have tried these already) or maybe go on a week vacation when a break from school comes up go with her just to take a break from everything and spend it with herqazmatoz said:Hey Escapist community, I've got a problem that I need some help with.
Lately I've been depressed with aspects of my situation in life, and have been getting extremely stressed out by school work. It's to the point where it's really effecting my ability to perform sexually with my girlfriend.
I've tried explaining performance anxiety and the effect of stress on sexual performance, but she won't listen. She thinks that since I can get off to porn that I should be able to perform during sex. She thinks the problem is with her and me not being attracted to her anymore. She then says that even if it is stress that's causing my problem, that I should be able to forget all of that and be able to perform anyway when I'm with her.
It's just making me feel like even more shit. I can't perform because of stress and depression, and not being able to perform causes a strain on our relationship, and that causes more stress on me. It's like an endless cycle of anxiety.
She just told me that she wants to stop being physical with me because it's pointless and just making her depressed. I know she's not trying to be so cold, but it's like she doesn't even want to try to understand where I'm coming from.
I love her, but I don't know what to do. Sigh.
Huh, someone caring on the internet? Weird... I must investigate.Caramel Frappe said:If I can be of anymore help, please do PM me. I shall be here for you and listen to whatever you have to say. I do hope things become alright for you which in the end I believe you'll make it out of this mess. Props to you for sharing, which I contributed by caring *smiles* :}qazmatoz said:Snip