- Apr 14, 2011
You've had one more than me, mate. Although i guess the problem with me is that I'm too quite and passive to really be noticed.
oh I'm sorry...were you talking to me? or anyone else here?BigTuk said:Yeah don't lie ladies , we know the score so don't play that game.
ahhhhh...OP... I thought we discussed that a year ago already...Paragon Fury said:Its hard to see how someone would want to go on more than one date with someone like me though. I don't really do anything that would interest another person, I'm quiet and keep to myself and I'm not particularly attractive or wealthy. Even if someone DID like me, its hard to imagine how it would be difficult to find someone who was like me, but just better (or less bland at least).
...so, OP, let me ask you a question: What did you do since last year when you made this thread? What did you archieve? What new things did you try?Chromatic Aberration said:I'am always slightly amused when people go around proclaiming they are a lost cause and all.
Just to give you a little bit of perspective:
* I'm three/four years older than you.
* I never had a girlfriend.
* I never had a crush on anyone or anything I'd designate as a crush at all.
* I refuse to partake in that stupid "dating-game" anyone seems to be so keen on doing.
* I'm a sexual deviant with an almost exclusive focus on things that are physically impossible.
* I did have sex twice and it bored me.
* I suspect that I have if not one, then several mental conditions that keep me from ever getting close to anyone. Not that I didn't want to, mind.
* I decided the last 6 years that I wouldn't really care about the above at all and just keep going, since, honestly, I really have much more important and much more pleasant things to do than try to worry about that kind of shit that is very likely to be set in stone anyway.
And despite all this, I always knew that I have to keep trying at somepoint, that I have to try and get around these things - at least to some degree - because, well, you'll have to try, right? Even if its just incredibly spotty patchwork. You simply can't win if you don't make a bet once in a while.
So: Lost Cause my friggin ass.
Now get up and do shit - the others have already told you more than enough of what you can and should do.
Also keep in mind what Miyenne said:
...because, you know, you should really ask yourself if you really want a girlfriend or simply someone you can talk and connect to. Because if its the latter you'll have a lot more much less messy, opportunities at your disposal.Miyenne said:Why is everyone so hung up on having someone who has sex with them as their partner? Yeah sex is great and all, but there's so many other ways you can have a relationship with someone.
What a dreadful worldview. I'm very glad I haven't lived a life that suggests, supports or reinforces it.BigTuk said:No one is undateable... but maybe youneed to widen your net. You know what makes a guy dateable... money.
Yeah don't lie ladies , we know the score so don't play that game.
A guy can be the most intolerable bigoted, rageaholic asshole on the planet but so long as his bank account has more than 5 digits and he's free about spending it...he will have a date.
Again, I'm not talking smack it's just an observation that I and many others have made over the years
That's... fantastic actually! Tell him I say well saiddavidmc1158 said:A rather bizarre friend of mine once said "The only type of person who is never going to be able to get a date is someone who is already dead. And that's mostly because they make lousy conversationalists."
Yeah, I have some interesting friends.
High five brotha'.chocolate pickles said:You've had one more than me, mate. Although i guess the problem with me is that I'm too quite and passive to really be noticed.
Sigh.BigTuk said:Go through life with blinders and you won't see most of the stuff around you. Not saying that true loving or friendly relationships don't exist. Just saying that the first step to relationships comes in looking past the flaws of the other person. Men will overlook many of a woman's flaws if she's pretty enough and a woman will overlook many of a man's flaws if he's rich enough.
It's why society has always encouraged men to be 'big earners' and women to be 'pretty' or at least able to cook well. Yeah believe it or not ladies, looking hot is onething but if you can cook a great lasagne ...or a rib-stickin' stew... believe me you will have a man in your life. I mean it's near-impossible to be ugly in the dark, but a bad meal tastes bad even in the dark.
Friend, there's someone for everyone out there, period.Paragon Fury said:No, not radio carbon dating.
I was having a discussion with a friend the other day about how I've only ever gone on one date. He kept arguing that "Of course you'll meet women and go out" and that "everyone goes on dates on has a girlfriend at some time or another". I said that no, even I were to get lucky and get a first date, a second wouldn't happen. I told him that someone like me would be undateable not because of creepiness or being BAD; rather someone like me is just so bland and not interesting that people would rather go out with literally anyone else. He thought it was a silly idea.
I'm not sure it is. So I wonder; setting OBVIOUS things that would make a person undateable like being mean etc. Could someone be just so bland, average (or below average) and uninteresting that no one would want to go out with them? Or, to up the requirement, no one would want to go out with them that THEY would also want to have anything to do with?