Exactly. I'm 20 now, in university in the UK, and have a part-time job working 12 hours a week plus whatever overtime I can do without destroying my social life, and I would personally much prefer to wait until at least my mid-twenties before considering kids. Of course, for that I need a girlfriend, but even so, if I was in the guy's position that the OP suggests I would want my partner to be 100% truthful. If I was that guy and knew my girlfriend had stopped taking the Pill, then I'd just stop having sex with her, or more likely make her agree to me wearing condoms, otherwise no sex. At the end of the day, the guy is still in uni, he's young, and as a potential father he deserves the right to decide whether or not to have kids. The girl is completely in the wrong, and OP, you should make sure he knows (discreetly of course) so he understands the risk that she is putting him and herself through.RAKtheUndead said:Simple answer: At that age, she probably is being selfish, more so on society than on her partner. The world's population is increasing and people are living longer, particularly in the Western world. At the same time, more specialised jobs mean that the onset of productive adulthood comes later. As such, twenty years old is too young in a modern industrialised society to have children. Enough said.
Besides, it's unfair on the potential child too, to be born into a family where the dad doesn't necessarily want it, and where there isn't likely to be any source of proper steady income and thus a fairly low quality of life. He's still a student, after all. You shouldn't have a baby you can't afford to look after, no matter how broody the girl might be...
Bottom line - yes, she is being selfish, and a cold-hearted manipulative ***** too. Simple as that.