Pikeperch said:
Without ranting too much, I just think it would be nice if we could acknowledge differences in skin colour or hair colour or accents without needing to be afraid that some self-appointed guardian of justice will interpret it as an attempt to reduce people's value.
Indeed, the term neger used to be the usual way to refer to black people, hell it still is for my grandmother. It wasn't a derogatory term, it wasn't mean-spirited at all.
The key phrase here, though, is "used to be". It carries a stigma today, and while it weren't harmful or racist back around the 60's, it certainly do carry racist and hurtful undertones today. It's similar to how the Neo-Nazi movement "tainted" the Mjölnir-symbol when they began claiming it as their symbol, wearing it as an amulet and using it as a party-symbol, et cetera.
While it of course depends on the person, most people don't really give a toss, there is no doubt that the term neger is genuinly hurtful today, and is becoming synonymous with ******, which was devaluating and hurtful from the start. So, that's why you shouldn't use it, unless perhaps if you are in an enviroment that don't mind and aren't using it as a racist term. It's the polite-thing to do, you don't know if someone simply don't care, or if it's a rather sensitive point for different reasons.
Of course, it's important to remember that the word used to be just a word. I think censoring old books and films or whatnot which came from this era is... Well-meaning but a stupid thing to do. Add a footnote explaining that fact, instead of expunging it from the past. This isn't the 50's anymore, but the 50's weren't the 2010's either. While you mean no harm whatsoever in saying it, thanks to some racist arseholes back in the 90's, quite a few people might think that you do. It's a word that should be used with responsibility.
And honestly, negerboll or kokosboll, they still taste just as good, don't they? :3