What's a 'deal-breaker' for you when it comes to a possible relationship?

[Reaper195]

You cheated on me? Well, that's just terrible. Oh...you're trying to justify it and are now pointing out flaws in me to move the blame somehow from you to me? Pack ya shit!

 

[CrimsonBlaze]

I'd say a woman that smokes and doesn't keep an open mind about things.

 

[Tiger King]

Virgins
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if I may ask, what is it you find off putting about virgins?

You certainly may ask. I just don't like taking v-cards. I've taken several, and it never ends well. They tend to (not always) get really attached. It can be a good thing, certainly, but it can also be pretty unhealthy. It's just something I'd rather avoid.

If I know the relationship isn't going to last, I don't want her to regret making me her first.

Also, the inexperience is off-putting. That sounds so damn shallow, but I've been in a lot of relationships. I don't like starting from scratch when it comes to that.

Agreed!

I also have weird experiences when I take a girl's virginity. Most of them have started crying afterward, which I can understand given that it's an important moment. But then I had this one girl that cried for like 15 minutes... then laughed for like 30 minutes straight. Like full-on, jolly, full blast laughter at absolutely nothing. It weirded me out.

when she was crying did you ask the question?
"it wasn't that bad was it?"

 

[The Artificially Prolonged]

Smoking - smells horrible, and no one looks attractive with a cigarette in their mouth.
Lack of Intelligence - Doesn't have to be a physics major, just not an air head.
Laziness/Lack of motivation - Girls who cannot do anything for themselves drive me mad in all the wrong ways.

EDIT

-If she's a supporter of Ajax or ADO Den Haag (Yeah, really, I'm bringing in football)

This is the most important factor in a relationship, I cannot believe missed it out. If there a Everton or United fan, I'm sorry it's just not going to work. I don't want my future children growing up in a mixed household.

 

[SkellgrimOrDave]

Being able to see it failing in the future.

Having a good sense of foresight means that it's been almost three years.

Don't do it, you replace intimacy and relationships with hostility and a willingness to replace tenderness with brutality. Because tenderness on your own isn't useful.

Chin up eh?

 

[Obsideo]

Virgins
.

if I may ask, what is it you find off putting about virgins?

You certainly may ask. I just don't like taking v-cards. I've taken several, and it never ends well. They tend to (not always) get really attached. It can be a good thing, certainly, but it can also be pretty unhealthy. It's just something I'd rather avoid.

If I know the relationship isn't going to last, I don't want her to regret making me her first.

Also, the inexperience is off-putting. That sounds so damn shallow, but I've been in a lot of relationships. I don't like starting from scratch when it comes to that.

Agreed!

I also have weird experiences when I take a girl's virginity. Most of them have started crying afterward, which I can understand given that it's an important moment. But then I had this one girl that cried for like 15 minutes... then laughed for like 30 minutes straight. Like full-on, jolly, full blast laughter at absolutely nothing. It weirded me out.

when she was crying did you ask the question?
"it wasn't that bad was it?"

Lol she told me later that the sex was awesome, but she just had a weird emotional overflow.

...I think she was possessed by demons.

 

[exessmirror]

i have a general hatefulness of ppl who cant properly express their opinion if they disagree with my political view and other controversial subjects

 

[Volstag9]

Someone who is overly emotional and/or too clingy.

I'd never cheat on anyone but I want someone who won't cry on my shoulder every other day. The only people I know who currently have feelings for me fits this bill perfectly.

 

[Biodeamon]

religious, or crazy cat person. if i even detect a pinch of this, fuck this relationship i'm out!

pchooooooooo!

 

[Superlative]

Deal Breaker: lack of sexual attraction to men, being a man

everything else can be worked out

 

[TheLiham]

Dealbreakers would be:

Non-smoker or having a problem with smoking.
Doesn't drink
Religious (Never doing that again)
Boring in bed
Sluttyness and being desperate.

Preferably she'd smoke weed too because I can't imagine she'd have too much fun with a bunch of high people if she were sober.

Edit: The dealbreaker would be if she didn't smoke or had a problem with it.

 

[ReadyAmyFire]

Genuinely surprised how many people in here I'd be 'deal-broken' with (or whatever the proper term for that is).

 

[SEXTON HALE]

The one big thing that I really cant stand is everything about everyone.
Other than that I an not really that picky.

 

[Captain Pirate]

- Smoking
- Selfishness/greed
- Dislike of Star Wars or Lord Of The Rings.
- Somebody who wants any goal in life other than to be happy first. I know that seems silly, but I've met people who genuinely want to be rich and successful as a priority, regardless of their own happiness or other peoples.

 

[DefiantGoblin]

The only thing that I'd hold as an absolute thing that puts me off would be smoking and swearing.
I don't know why but I just hate hearing women swear, it just seems so common. It isn't sexist, I'm not too fond of men swearing either, and I can understand swearing in extreme circumstances I just don't want to be with someone who swears in every other sentence.

 

[DocBot]

Being a smoker and a former drinker and party person I am pretty accepting of bad habits. As for a "first impressions" deal-breaker, I would have to say its more of things someone does as a reaction, like:

-If you get water spilled on you, don't freak out, it's water. Calm your jets and let it dry.
-When you meet someone don't do the "up then down" look. You're not here to fight this person, you're here to meet them.
-If you have no involvement/interest/previous knowledge in a conversations don't do the "this is totally random, but..." to change the topic. Sit down, shut up, learn something new.


That's pretty much it. I avoid people that do those things (and if you do all three you are a leper to me.)

 

[ElPatron]

Can't handle different opinions.
Thinks that the only reason to have an "argument/discussion" is to be mad and throw things around (basically can't handle when people expose logical reasons for their opinions and think it's an actual "violent" argument)
Racism
Socialism
Creationism
Vegetarianism

Can't be a smoker.
Can't be a drinker.

Non-smoking and non-drinking guy here. I am curious to know what makes you dislike the people that do.

I don't drink and because of that my girlfriend doesn't drink either, even though I told her it doesn't offend me in any way.

 

[IamQ]

If he...

... smokes.
... drinks excessively.
... uses any of the following words to describe exes: bitchy, whorish, slutty, stuck-up. In fact, please don't talk about your ex, unless it's something I really need to know.
... refuses to meet/interact with my family.
... insists on paying for everything, /every time/.

Wow, you would no longer date someone if they used the "wrong words" according to you? Isn't that a bit too picky, don't you think?

 

[straymatter]

If he...

... smokes.
... drinks excessively.
... uses any of the following words to describe exes: bitchy, whorish, slutty, stuck-up. In fact, please don't talk about your ex, unless it's something I really need to know.
... refuses to meet/interact with my family.
... insists on paying for everything, /every time/.

Wow, you would no longer date someone if they used the "wrong words" according to you? Isn't that a bit too picky, don't you think?

Nope, I don't, and here's why: it's not about the words.

To briefly and incompletely explain...

"Bitchy" and "stuck-up" imply insolence/disagreement. She may well be a disagreeable person. Maybe that's fair. But, hell, I'm disagreeable when I think something is wrong, too.

"Slut" and "whore" imply impurity and carry negative sexual connotations. How many partners is too many? How much sex is too much?

Finally, if we break up, I don't want to be a bitchy slutty whore to his next ladyfriend, because he clearly doesn't respect the inherent privacy of past relationships.