What's your age, and what are you currently most concerned about?

Casual Shinji

Should've gone before we left.
Jul 18, 2009
I'm 31 years old.

And my biggest concern is being a 31-year old virgin with no friends, no job, and no real ability to change my situation. I feel at this point it's gotten too late for me to get into the game anymore.

And I found a couple of white hairs on my head as well. *sigh*


New member
Oct 26, 2009

I just got rejected from my current university to do a PGCE here. It seems to not be enough that I'm on course for a 1st class honours and I already have real experience in teaching. So now I have to apply elsewhere and fast, assuming all the places in other universities aren't filled already. Even if I do get in anywhere else, the tuition is gonna be triple what I'd pay to stay here.

I got one of those reply slips to agree to be in their reserve list. I will of course fill it in and agree but it'd be so much more satisfying to write in block capitals "FUCK OFF" with a big fat marker, sign in and hand deliver it.


New member
Sep 15, 2013
22, and scared beyond belief at my life after university. While all my friends were joining clubs and actually doing shit to put on their resumes I was doing fuck all. Now when I'm applying for vacation work it's really hard to make my resume look good to a future employer.

Hopefully the recommendations my friends at the firms give me can carry me through, but it still keeps me up at night.


New member
Jan 6, 2011
Just turned 20.

Biggest concern? The fact that I have spent the last 5 years of my life doing literally nothing. No college would ever take me, I have no experience in any job, and no practical hobby I could possibly turn into a career.

Reading this thread did not help my feelings on the matter.

TL;DR I'm fucked.

Eclipse Dragon

Lusty Argonian Maid
Jan 23, 2009
United States
I'm 24, I'll be 25 in May.

I'm currently concerned about where I want to go with my career, I have a relevant job to hold me over, but I don't want to be working this particular job for the rest of my life.

I'm also trying to improve my own artistic abilities, since I feel like I've dug myself into a little bit of a hole.

I'm also trying to be more social.
I would also like to get back into martial arts
I would also like to learn a second language.

I'm very concerned about my best friend, who is in a worse situation than I am in pretty much every aspect, he lives with me now after having a very traumatic childhood and I've been trying to keep his confidence up and help him recover the best I can.

I need a machine that stops time.


Elite Member
Apr 3, 2013
21 and concerned about getting an internship that suits me and my planned future career (director/writer/showrunner). It has to be in a French-speaking country too. I studied French for over eight years but haven't really used it outside school, and it *will* go to waste unless I brush it up.

Also a bit concerned about how my general laziness factors into everything, but I'm generally too lazy to care about that.

L. Declis

New member
Apr 19, 2012
I'm 23.

Due to administrative difficulties, I was removed from university. So, I have decided to go and learn in China like I was always planning to.

So, waiting to see if the universities I've applied to will accept me. Also, will I be happy in China? I've lived there for a few months before, but this time, I will be moving there. Properly.

It'll take around 5 years for me to finish everything, which means I'll be 28 before I go onto the job market per-se. I'm lucky enough that I've got plenty of experience in various areas (translation, team leading, teaching, journalism) that I am able to kinda be okay on the job market proper, but there is a large pressure in China for a man for have made an achievement by the time he is 30.

Also, I have a girlfriend here who is wonderful and everything I have wanted and now we face the strange situation of the British bloke moving to China while the Chinese lass will stay in the UK for 4 more years, which we have agreed to try long distance for.

So nothing utterly terrible, but still a bit worrying.


New member
Sep 6, 2011
30. Leaving my well-paying government job in 7 weeks, then moving cross country with no job lined up. I'm doing things backwards.

What I'm most worried about, however, is the fact that my vet is worried about my cat making the trip. He's old and not in the best of health, but still active and happy. So I'm at a complete loss as to what to do and I worry about it constantly.

Malty Milk Whistle

New member
Oct 29, 2011
17, and worried about mental health.
Broke down making a cuppa the other day, so something maybe going on...

also the rising price of freddos.
'Tis a scam I say!

Elementary - Dear Watson

RIP Eleuthera, I will miss you
Nov 9, 2010
I am 25 and I am currently trying to get a deposit together for a house. I am a serial mis-spender, and throw money away on things I later regret, and am now trying to rectify that. Unfortunately this means changing my lifestyle slightly, which also means I will be socialising in my traditional sense less, which finally means that I will have to work out a way of not dissapointing my friends (who I both live and work with) without alienating myself from them...

In this mix as well I am also aware that I am of an age where I may end up meeting someone to settle down with. This is a factor that I need to consider factoring contingency plans for, however have little experience in what scenarios I should be aware of. Something that is playing a big role in my outlook and planning.

I finally have a lot of pressures from my job. I have subordinates that need to be kept focussed, I have a lot of time being sent away for weeks at a time coming up (traveling stresses me at the best of times) and I have objectives that have been set for me that I need to accomplish in order to ensure my next posting is decent and that I get promoted in line with when I should. Unfortunately some of these involve getting involved with things that will further push me beyond my comfort zone, and will take a lot of my spare time. I need to be involved with a club outside of work, and organise some type of event for that, and I also need to organise an office force development day (read: day out) which within military confinements is a lot harder than it sounds... There is a lot of paperwork involved, and a lot of extra bullshit behind the scenes that would need to be done around my normal job (which is busy) to do!
Then again, my capacity can take this extra work... but things I enjoy doing, like gaming, will have to take a back burner again, which always irks me eventually.

Phew... Glad I got that off the chest! Things always seem more simple when you get it all out there and explain it!


New member
Aug 1, 2008
29, and it depends whether short-term or long term. Short term, the lady is desperately sick - on medical leave for the whole semester - and I can't do anything about it, but it's stressful all the same. Long term, I'm trying to figure out whether to go back to school for a Masters (when I already have a fine job) or move to a new city and try something completely new.


New member
Mar 25, 2013
Getting the score needed from my last year of high-school to get into my specific course is what i'm most worried about at the moment.

From what I've seen, education seems to be all of our problems.


New member
Nov 22, 2013
26 here and my biggest concern is my mental health issues and if I ever will be able to get my life together.

I've never had a job, I have ridiculously good grades from working my ass (and mental health) off in school but that doesn't do me any good in the position I'm in now.
I'm being a parasite borrowing money from my mom to pay my bills.
My self-esteem is really crappy.
AND I must soon apply with a crappy portfolio, far from good enough, to get me into a program that might lead to me actually getting a job that I can stand doing so that I can finally make some money and be able to stop worrying and start living. That is if my mental issues will ever let me do any of those things.
I'm also worried about my health.


New member
Aug 30, 2010
GodofTheForge said:
Headsprouter said:
I'm 19, existential crisis all over the place. Scared of the future. Being lonely, being overcrowded, never being able to express myself, growing old. I feel so vain for placing self-expression on that list, but god, it just seems to matter to me so much, and it drives me insane seeing people with fantastic talents and a great life on top of them. I know it's really scummy, but...well, I don't really know how I can excuse it. It's not hatred, mind you it's just a sort of jealousy mixed with admiration that results in frustration thanks to my overall lack of self-worth.

Summation of my rambling: 19, concerned with life in general. Not going anywhere at the current rate, feeling broken for being unable(????) to do anything about it.
^pretty much this to a T.

I'm 18, going on 19 (though I was born less than a week from the end of '95 so at this point it's interchangeable with recently turned 18). The existential crises kinda come in irregular spurts and I generally just distract myself to stop thinking about it (since nothing really comes from dwelling on it). The future is scary, because I don't know what I want to do, I don't know what I CAN do, and so many people I talk to (adults mostly, because teenagers suck) have such high expectations of me I feel like there's no way I can live up to them if I get any less than a Nobel Prize for some technology which all but solves a major problem of my choosing. I've been lonely as of late. I had friends at my old high-school, but since I switched to a different school (And 2 moved out of state) I've lost contact with the lot of them and haven't really made any new ones. The hobby store I frequented announced their closing out of nowhere on wednesday, so it's significantly less likely I'll ever be able to interact with the people I've met there again (the age gap is a bit of an inhibitor to friendship when the youngest party (me) are still high-school students). I'd explain my family's financial situation, though it really IS a long story. If/when it gets resolved though they might write a book tentatively titled "Godot showed up, and why he took so fucking long", detailing the assorted absurd situations over the almost 5 year (so far) ordeal which, as the title implies, caused it to take much longer than necessary.

Especially with the closing of the local hobby store I fear I'll wind up nothing more than a forum troll waiting for things to happen, as that was the only reliable outlet for social expression and a place to enjoy and improve my painting skills for my collection of minis (because I'm crap at free-hand and I've not got the resources to buy the needed materials for just about any other kind of art). Right now I'm just passing by through school, just doing as little as I can to not fail, waiting to move on to college where I can at the very least take some damn control of my life, because I feel like there's not a goddamn thing I can do right now.

Of course thanks to therapy and a bit of medication I've become more comfortable with my situation (still not certain how we could afford it but I'm not complaining). In a couple of small was I do have at least a bit more control in my life as of late. It's awkward to get started on a new good habit or an effort to learn something new, or even just get out there to do SOMETHING, but I'll tell you right now the difference between "I've got nothing to offer the world, no talents, and no skills of any worth" and "I'm learning how to do something new and interesting, even if I'm mediocre right now" is MASSIVE. In a good way.

And yes that last paragraph does contradict those prior to some degree, but I bounce in and out of depression/existential crises. Not bi-polar, but it swings. I still stand by what I said in that last paragraph though.



Or maybe that's just youthful naïveté speaking. Haven't lived long enough to tell the difference. Still a hell of a lot better than self-pity though. And it feels nice to pour your thoughts/feelings out there under the illusion someone is listening. (OH! now I get why social media is so popular!)


New member
Mar 19, 2009
By God, you all sound so responsible worrying about school or work :p Not that college isn't a worry for me, i'm starting a course next year and it's weird to suddenly have ambition after a lifetime of being confused (also I probably should have spent the last three hours E-mailing people and important stuff but whatever).
But mostly i'm worried about my social life, over the last few months I think i've managed to fuck up most of the friendships I had and i'm only just starting to realise that now, I should probably be working on making new friends but i'm not entirely sure how I did that in the first place and also i'm pretty lazy and i'm the type to complain about it but then not actually do anything, i'm worried that when I start college next year I won't talk to anyone and i'll just be the weird lonely kid all over again and also i'm really dreading the coming Summer because it's alright to not be doing much when all your friends are in school but I don't want to spend three months cooped up in the house wishing things were like they were a year ago *sigh* thanks for the space to rant, it was very therapeutic :p
Oh and i'm 17 if the teenage angst didn't tip you off ;)

Greg White

New member
Sep 19, 2012

Mostly worried about what to do when I get out of the Army next year.

Getting a job shouldn't be too much of a problem(have most of my tech certs and my fiber splicing training), it's just a matter of getting one where I want(preferably somewhere in GA or FL) and at a decent enough salary.
Oct 10, 2011
17, soon to be 18. I'm worried most about what I'm going to do with the rest of my life.

I feel that I would be content with most any living conditions, but I'm probably going to a community college. I also would like to cut all ties with my family when I graduate high school, but I know how much that would hurt them. I just don't know what I'm going to do.


Dire Penguin
Aug 3, 2008
ClockworkPenguin said:
The phD situation is similar in the UK (unless you're super rich and can pay for it yourself). The most common funding method is through research councils, who give uni departments enough cash for x number of phd students.

So far, x has never been greater than 3, and is rarely as high as that. I had an interview today where they said there was quite a bit of choice of what sort of research you want to do (along the old triangle of simulation, result analysis and hands on "sawdust and soldering" work) , because they have far more projects they want to do than they have places for students to actually do them.

The interview I had before that I was told not too feel bad if I wasn't immediately given an offer, because the best candidates will get picked by several institutions and leave openings at the ones they reject. I think that interview might not have been very successful for me.
Still, you've had interviews at least, which must mean you've got a decent shot. The application period only ran out two weeks ago for the positions I applied to, so they haven't quite gotten to that point yet. I know one of the positions had 113 applicants though, so I think I can consider myself lucky if they notice my application at all.

I actually considered applying for a phd studentship at Loughborough University in the UK, but I only found out about the position a few days before the application period ran out, so I couldn't manage to scrape together enough time to make a decent application.

username sucks said:
17, soon to be 18. I'm worried most about what I'm going to do with the rest of my life.

I feel that I would be content with most any living conditions, but I'm probably going to a community college. I also would like to cut all ties with my family when I graduate high school, but I know how much that would hurt them. I just don't know what I'm going to do.
Out of curiosity, if your relationship with your family is at a point where you want to cut all ties with them, how come you care so much about hurting them?

Yuno Gasai

Queen of Yandere
Nov 6, 2010
I'm 23.

My primary concern right now is moving out, but that ties in very closely with another of my concerns - dating.

In an ideal world, I'd like to settle down with someone and be able to move in with them - it's much more appealing to me than moving into a house occupied by people I don't know and who are unlikely to be respectful of my weird and wonderful working hours. (The exception, of course, would be if I ended up living in a household with dedicated night shift workers - but then the household environment would be a different kettle of fish entirely).

I simply can't afford to move out on my own, and my parents are nice enough to allow me to stay in the family home rent-free, so busting my wallet just for a bit of extra freedom seems like a dumb idea just for the sake of moving out. It would most likely be much more doable if I didn't have a car to pay for, but then I wouldn't have a job, so I'd be in the same position regardless.

I'm sure something will come up, I just have to be patient.