Some people's concept of lack of sexism is tantamount to benevolent sexism, so I really don't know which side of the debate the person worrying about you shooting girls would fall on. What I do know is that a lot more people would mind if you groped a woman than if you shot her in a game like Horizon (even if the game also allowed you to grope men too), and that's the other side of the same coin you're describing.You pointed out less than .001% of games
And, as people have done previously in this thread, there are WAY more negative representations
You know what was really cool about Horizon? Sometimes you shot a bandit, there was a female yelp at being shot. I think a negative stereotype of men is that they're the ones being disposable henchmen. Horizon did it different.... but that doesn't wipe away the decades of men being treated that way. Nor is that stereotype magically non-existant in current games based on Hoizon.
Hell, I pointed this out to people and I got a comment to the tune of, "You want to shoot girls?"
People think you viscerally are doing something you wanna do in reality in that case, but they're able to see the shooting as something nobody normal would ever wanna do in real life so they wave away the concern of people being shadowy serial killers, plotting while they play games.
To me, implying what in not as many words is "so you wanna sexually assault women?" is not at all different form the comments you were met with, but this sort of deranged presumption is met with respectful consideration if not fawning approval, and that's all kinds of insane.