On one hand, you are missing out on a very important part of being human, on the other, you save so much time by not being dragged around by your genitals.So, after a wild and downright goofy week of soul searching and reviewing the data of my thoughts and ideas I've built over the past 15 years and I've come to the conclusion that I am not actually straight and am, in fact, aroace (EDIT: aromantic, asexual).
Congrats on your epiphany.So, after a wild and downright goofy week of soul searching and reviewing the data of my thoughts and ideas I've built over the past 15 years and I've come to the conclusion that I am not actually straight and am, in fact, aroace (EDIT: aromantic, asexual).
Again.
Like, thus whole thing is both so goofy and so wildly obvious in hindsight that I'm going to post a thread about this soon. I can't right now, as after a week of bewildered soul searching and a weekend of rolling the idea around and getting a "brain feel" for it, I have been absolutely giddy. I have spent the whole weekend with my first real smile in years, to the point where my face is getting a little sore, and have been bouncing of the walls of both my mind and room.
30 years old, I've spent literally over half of them collecting and assuming stupid ideas, spiraling all out of control in misery and doubt when the answer was as blisteringly obvious as "dude, you have no sense of smell" (or rather, "no sense of sexual/romantic attraction". Trying to quantify a void space in your senses is fucking rough, let me tell you). The funniest part? On top of already having felt this way for most of my life (without the words to accurately describe or even sensations to understand), I figured this out about 2 years ago and completely disregarded it over the flimsiest and abjectly silliest thing I didn't know there was a difference between. And all I can do is laugh at how goofy this has been.
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EDIT: The wizard powers you get for being a virgin at age 30 is the ability to recognize you never needed to to begin with.
OK, so no disrespect but no and no; I've always felt that there has to be more to the human condition than some sweaty id acting as a really pushy wingman and having sex. And it does certainly cut down on all the issues...if you know what's actually happening. Otherwise you could end up like me and be hunting for woozles for over 15 years and jumping at every rustle of leaves (and then finding out that you've been physically unable to see the shade of color the woozle is the whole time).On one hand, you are missing out on a very important part of being human, on the other, you save so much time by not being dragged around by your genitals.
Thanks! The funny part is, is that it can hardly be called one considering I've pretty much known the whole time, but both never had the right way to describe my feelings (I have real trouble expressing them in a way that I feel is accurate to my thoughts, especially while talking), but also that my whole perception of what my sexuality was, was built entirely on what is basically a Three Stooges level misunderstanding of things and how it all fit together.Congrats on your epiphany.
How is he missing out if he doesn't want it? That's like saying a gay guy is missing out by not having sex with women.On one hand, you are missing out on a very important part of being human
You said you were aromantic and asexual. To me aromantic that means you are missing out on the strongest and most intimate of relationships. Now, asexual is a spectrum and I have no idea where you fall on it, you might just have no interest in seeking out sex but can still enjoy it, or you might just not like it at all. Either way, you are missing out on a very pleasurable and possibly intimate activity. But, on the plus side, you don't have to bother with seeking either out, so its a bit of a wash. Eitherway, grats on figuring yourself out.OK, so no disrespect but no and no; I've always felt that there has to be more to the human condition than some sweaty id acting as a really pushy wingman and having sex. And it does certainly cut down on all the issues...if you know what's actually happening. Otherwise you could end up like me and be hunting for woozles for over 15 years and jumping at every rustle of leaves (and then finding out that you've been physically unable to see the shade of color the woozle is the whole time).
No and thats dumb.How is he missing out if he doesn't want it? That's like saying a gay guy is missing out by not having sex with women.
Everyone who isn't bi is missing out on half the sex they could be having.How is he missing out if he doesn't want it? That's like saying a gay guy is missing out by not having sex with women.
OK, so at this point we are starting to get into the meat of what I wanted to talk about, so I'll just put this on hold for now until I get all those thoughts in order, but in the meantime I just wanted to say I believe you are wrong, but are actually closer to getting it than you might realize;To me aromantic that means you are missing out on the strongest and most intimate of relationships.
Now, asexual is a spectrum and I have no idea where you fall on it, you might just have no interest in seeking out sex but can still enjoy it, or you might just not like it at all.
Thanks!Eitherway, grats on figuring yourself out.
He just wants to know if you jork it.OK, so at this point we are starting to get into the meat of what I wanted to talk about, so I'll just put this on hold for now until I get all those thoughts in order, but in the meantime I just wanted to say I believe you are wrong, but are actually closer to getting it than you might realize;