So what you are basically saying is that there are a few assholes out in the world and because you have a small chance of encountering an asshole, the world is overwhelmed with said assholes. Effectively stating in your reply that you must perpetually live in fear because someone somewhere MIGHT at some point call you a Fa**** or a tranny and therefore the world is a terrrible place and we should cull all those who MIGHT have negative opinions or thoughts about us.That's racism (or sexism or homophobia) to the person being subjected to it. 9 out of 10 people you meet on a day can be perfectly normal and nice, but then you're minding your own business and someone decides to hurt an insult based on your skin color at you.
Yeah that isn't how the world is ever going to work. And what do you think goes through a bigot's mind when you snap at them for being a bigot? Furthermore what do you think happens to someone who has a maybe slightly contrary opinion towards a particular culture or group and there get lambasted for daring to think such a thing? Do you think anyone goes, "Whoa, oh my gosh, you're right I am a total piece of shit for thinking."
Christopher Titus is a comedian who had a special in which he spoke a lot of about his divorce. And he said something that really resonates through out this rise of outrage culture. He said, "When my wife was on the stand telling the judge about how I abused and beat her on a regular basis I found myself losing my mind. I had never touched my wife in such a way, ever! I never even THOUGHT of hitting a woman ANY women let alone my wife. But while I sat there in court and has to listen to her lie under oath about how much of a wife beater I was...Well I never wanted to be a wife beater until I was accused of being a wife beater. I wanted to jump out of my seat and say, 'Your Honor! Can I have five minutes to make her not a liar?"'
And that's a lot of what i see happening online when people call celebrities or pieces of media sexist, homophobic, whatever the flavor of "ists" or "phobics" fit whatever narrative that accuser wants to apply.
Like your statement above, I don't doubt that if you are black or gay or trans, you occasionally might hear the N-word or someone mutter something phobic near you. But i don't believe it's as often as people say it is. Because I've gone places with my friends, gay friends, black friends, and never once has there been even a negative glance towards them. Maybe it's because I'm white and I offer them some sort of white protection simply being near them, I don't think so, but let's say that's possible and I have magical anti-racism super powers.
There was a twitter thread I saw where the trans community was upset that Alabama is voting to make hormone therapy and gender reassignment surgery illegal to give to minors, kids basically. And people are going nuts saying that they are voting to murder trans people and making trans people an actual crime, when that isn't the case at all. It's simply to prevent permanent alterations to child who cannot legally make decisions. Yet like most things in the social justice outcries, things have to be over exaggerated and conflated to something that it isn't and what further harms the cause for the LBGTQ crowd is that there is no listening to reason. It's ether a catastrophic hate crime or nothing and there is no inbetween.
When people can't hold reasonable discussions, or come to reasonable middle grounds, you'll ultimately have something like the Senate or state governments make decisions that will best protect the people in the best way they can which is always going to be erring on the side of caution. To protect kids, to protect doctors from lawsuit, and so on.
Here is the article if you are interested. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/alabama-senate-bans-hormone-therapy-surgery-felony-transgender-youth/
EDIT: I think the article has been updated since I first saw it and the law passed the first approval process and now moves to the House for voting.