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There is also a darker side to some female gamers, one that I am fully aware that Ms. O'Reilly partakes in. Many women, perhaps who are unpopular, unattractive, unsuccessful or just plain bored in real life, finding themselves suddenly popular for their biological sex, are able to take advantage of the situation and use their femininity to gain in-game benefits. Sometimes men play female characters for this very reason. It is important to note that it is hardly the case with all female gamers, and sometimes only appears to be true when it is not. I have actually written an entire joke blog about it (worldofkuroe.blogspot.com). Unfortunately, for many people it is not at all a joke, but a reality. Ms. O'Reilly engaged in this sort of male player manipulation through one of our other applicants (who notably was not her boyfriend). As another female player and apparently a "confidant", she would talk proudly to me of how she could make this other applicant log in and out at will. I will not elaborate on her actions here, as it seems inappropriate, (although I might add a bit about this in my blog!), but I will say this: she was using him for her own cruel entertainment. While Ms. O'Reilly might complain about guilds that have "no-girl" policies, she unfortunately is a part of the problem. No guild wants drama, and tragically, that is precisely what she is selling. I regret to inform you that your "angel in the guild" is hardly an angel at all.
As for sexual harassment within video games (I will have to be careful how I word this, I suppose) - it happens occasionally, but more often than not most of these jokes are intended in good fun and humor. Is it sexual harassment when one guy in a guild calls another male a "fag"? Techincally, by real life work enviroment standards, yes. However, MMOs are a completely different community, contain completely different concepts of what is "mean", "harassing", or otherwise "inappropriate", and should not be regarded in terms of one's expectations for behavior within a community in the "real world." The average MMO player base is somewhere between 18-25 years old, largely male, and extremely competitive. For a comparison that a non-gamer might understand, it's like sticking a whole bunch of college football players in one large auditorium, tossing a few women in the room, and handing everyone a loudspeaker. MMOs give absolutely everyone a voice - by removing them. But the conversation, as you might imagine, is usually one of insulting/playful/competitive and occasionally cruel banter. The girls that find themselves thrown into this mixture have to make a conscious choice to either partake in the community, or leave it. It is *NOT* "unfair" - it is simply a community, and as with any other community or organization - if you don't fit in, you leave, or you tell people you don't like it and ask them to change, and anticipate that there is a chance they will not. If someone was asking Ms. O'Reilly if she was a "screamer", there is a good chance it was probably intended as a joke. If a male asks a male in the game "are you gay?", they don't actually expect an answer, nor want one. As a female you have to learn to either laugh at these jokes (as the males do), make a return joke (ex. "Oh yeah, my neighbors called the police once because they thought my boyfriend was murdering me"), ignore it, or, if it really offends you, you TELL that person: "Hey, I find that sort of question inappropriate, could you not ask it?" People are people, and don't always know what may or may not offend someone. Most "harmful" things spoken are in a sense of good humor, albeit a humor not everyone has a thick enough skin for. However, in general, when you ask nicely that people not treat you a certain way, even in a video game, more often than not they will comply. And if they don't, well - there is always /ignore, or the previously mentioned option of simply logging out. MMORPG is short for "Massive Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Game." The idea is to partake a community outside of the "real life community." That is the game. If you do not enjoy the community, and thus the game, why play it?
As I said, you probably should have researched your subject a bit more carefully and interviewed more than one person for your article. Unfortunately your writing presents itself like an extensive poll when in reality it is only a case study of one female gamer, and a bad one at that. It is biased, uninventive, poorly researched, and tries to turn a player skill issue or perhaps a player base issue into a "women's right's" issue, which it is not. Ms. O'Reilly would do well to learn how to hit her "greater heal" button and move away from area effect damage, rather than doing interviews for ill-informed e-journalists.
- Azule, 70 draenei priest of Mal'ganis