215: Grinding the Dating Scene

[Irishanime]

Well glad to hear things worked out for ya. Personally ill stick to meeting my dates in the real world. I dont plan on relating my intimate life with RPGs. Thats like the episode of Seinfeld where George starts getting turned on from lunch cause he mixes food and sex and things just get weird. So yea gaming and sex life are and will forever be separate parts of my life. The most compelling reason i can think of to keep them separate is simple for me. When i realize im just "grinding" in an MMORPG thats when i stop playing so lets not get the two mixed up shall we?

I can agree for the most part here. I like meeting people in the real world. A lot of times people might try to act differently online than in person. It just seems too weird to me. I DO, however, game with my boyfriend. I love playing co-op games with him and it is a lot of fun. We have been together for three years now and it is so much fun with him. We even picked up a fighting game to pick the most ridiculous characters and goof off. I don't say that I "grind" too much in a games, but adding a dating service....not my cup of tea.

 

[CapitalistPig]

Well glad to hear things worked out for ya. Personally ill stick to meeting my dates in the real world. I dont plan on relating my intimate life with RPGs. Thats like the episode of Seinfeld where George starts getting turned on from lunch cause he mixes food and sex and things just get weird. So yea gaming and sex life are and will forever be separate parts of my life. The most compelling reason i can think of to keep them separate is simple for me. When i realize im just "grinding" in an MMORPG thats when i stop playing so lets not get the two mixed up shall we?

I can agree for the most part here. I like meeting people in the real world. A lot of times people might try to act differently online than in person. It just seems too weird to me. I DO, however, game with my boyfriend. I love playing co-op games with him and it is a lot of fun. We have been together for three years now and it is so much fun with him. We even picked up a fighting game to pick the most ridiculous characters and goof off. I don't say that I "grind" too much in a games, but adding a dating service....not my cup of tea.

That's great! and totally normal. That's a couple's hobby. I like to go hiking and camping with my girlfriend. But that's the best part even though you are interacting in the virtual environment there is still the real element along side it. After all what are my hiking and camping excursions if not an escape from reality? They are environments not normally a part of my life; You see where I'm going with this? all other hobbies follow this same trend if you think about it. I guess the point is your use of the tools. If you use it as a way for meeting people and then meeting them outside the virtual you will probably have much more success then having the dating experience be entirely in the virtual setting. But that contains a large element of "DUH" factor.

On a none related note, about people acting differently online I'd say I'm even guilty of that because the internet is a zone of escapism. Why be myself if I don't have to? Its not that I'm insecure or seeking a particular outcome but its dream space where I can take on a personality that simply is not my own to see what its like. I wouldn't use this argument to go be creepy on the internet but it's interesting psychology none the less. Which is why your parents told you growing up don't talk to strangers on the internet. its just not in good taste (for the most part. I know that the world has found internet dating successful and would beg to differ all day about my opinion on this. And thats great too.)