And you think that there would be mostly girls on there?runnernda said:
OT: Thanks again, Dr Mark. Your insight, as usual, is brilliant,
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OT: Thanks again, Dr Mark. Your insight, as usual, is brilliant,
I found it pretty interesting, especially the first one about female gamers.
I kinda disagree with a few points, although that's the tomboy in me speaking up. xD I find it just as difficult as males to share feelings and soppy stuff like that, although the other stuff may be true. =P
Most of my friends are male too, although I do have a few female friends >.> I guess it depends on the individual anyway.
Thanks for the interesting read though!
[sub][sub]P.S Don't take my words too seriously.. I'm running on very little sleep right now D:[/sub][/sub]
I kinda disagree with a few points, although that's the tomboy in me speaking up. xD I find it just as difficult as males to share feelings and soppy stuff like that, although the other stuff may be true. =P
Most of my friends are male too, although I do have a few female friends >.> I guess it depends on the individual anyway.
Thanks for the interesting read though!
[sub][sub]P.S Don't take my words too seriously.. I'm running on very little sleep right now D:[/sub][/sub]
Its strange the whole 'female social situation' because my wife (who is not exactly girly) seems to prefer the company of men. I'm not saying that she avoids other women completely as she has quite a few female friends at work but she tells me how other women can get very bitchy and competitive with each other which men don't seem too bothered about, and as long as they (the men) don't see my wife and 'available' (which they don't because I am friends with most of them) then they all seem to have a good laugh and share some real serious stuff.
I guess its also a generation thing - when I was younger it wasn't considered manly to have feeling and to talk about them ment that you were a 'poofter' and would get your head kicked in where as these days I think that alot of that pre-conception has washed away.
Same goes with video games - back in my youth video games were the ultimate geek device and only geeks played them because they couldn't do real games like football or play in the mud. Now gaming is much more socialably exceptable so having knowledge & skill in playing video games can only be an advantage.
I agree that the types of games need to be checked as actions in some games when taken out of context can be bad. In the artical the 2nd post is about a little girl, but generally girls don't tend to go for the violent games which can be put out of context and give impressionable kids bad ideas.
Again its a simple case of being a good parent (or sparent as it was put
) and making sure that the child is getting the most out of the gaming experiance without exposing them to stuff that itsn't approprate for their age.
I guess its also a generation thing - when I was younger it wasn't considered manly to have feeling and to talk about them ment that you were a 'poofter' and would get your head kicked in where as these days I think that alot of that pre-conception has washed away.
Same goes with video games - back in my youth video games were the ultimate geek device and only geeks played them because they couldn't do real games like football or play in the mud. Now gaming is much more socialably exceptable so having knowledge & skill in playing video games can only be an advantage.
I agree that the types of games need to be checked as actions in some games when taken out of context can be bad. In the artical the 2nd post is about a little girl, but generally girls don't tend to go for the violent games which can be put out of context and give impressionable kids bad ideas.
Again its a simple case of being a good parent (or sparent as it was put
) and making sure that the child is getting the most out of the gaming experiance without exposing them to stuff that itsn't approprate for their age.
My mom was like that, sort of. She preferred male coworkers to female, because she said most women behaved too much like cats (she didn't like cats either).ldwater said:
Well, I think that was the whole point of the first question. Is there a problem? If you're happy, then maybe not. Maybe the guys in your life fulfil your emotional needs. I think Dr Mark is simply suggesting that if you feel something is missing, you might be right, and that it's ok to try to fill that need.kementari said:
I have a majority of guy friends, and I'm mostly very happy with them, but I surprised myself when I made friends with one of my mate's sisters. She was really nice and gamed and I was SO HAPPY. I suppose I'd been missing something before and had found it...
I agree that imaginative play is important. I still slay "bad guys" in my living room with my lightsaber.
There should be a girl gamer group! As a female gamer I found this article interesting, I don't have any female friends who game but I've never really thought of that as a negative because I do have a group of good female friends I socialize with on a regular basis. Gaming with only guys is something I accepted as part of gaming and I've never let it stop me from doing something I love. Although I admit I would love to get together my girl friends to start gaming I can't see it happening.runnernda said:
Both my 2-year old and my 5-year old daughters love to play video games, and their platform of choice is the DS. I let them play whenever and whatever they want, and I have found that they do not abuse the gaming time. In fact, they regulate their playing time themselves very well, they rarely play for more than a half hour each time, and rarely do they play more than twice in a day, usually just once a day. Their favorite games on the DS are mostly non-competitive, like The Smart Girl's Playhouse (their absolute favorite), Electroplankton, Crayola Adventures, and Nintendogs.
I think the reason I can trust them to self-regulate their gaming time is because their generation does not see video games as anything special. It is just another playful activity kids do like going to the park, playing with their dolls, or swimming.
I think the reason I can trust them to self-regulate their gaming time is because their generation does not see video games as anything special. It is just another playful activity kids do like going to the park, playing with their dolls, or swimming.
I'm in a similar situation as #1. I prefer the company of males, and I would like to meet more female gamers/nerds/geeks/whatever term you want to use. But I often feel threatened by females with similar interests to myself. Maybe if I could talk more females like myself, and get used to that, I wouldn't feel that way.
I completely agree. I grew up with plenty of female friends, but not a one of them has any remote interest in gaming. In a way it's great because there's no sense of 'feminine competition'. For example - back when I played WoW we had a new female join our guild, and the guys treated her like she was the best thing since sliced bread. It made no sense to the rest of us females in the guild, but that seemingly typical guy response of 'oooh it's a cute sounding girl!' could really ruin a gaming experience..dragonfly said:
On the other hand, having a 'real life' female friend that gamed could be quite refreshing. But what can you do
And Dr. Mark, great article! I'm loving them all so far, well done sir!