A dilemma for New Years...

[Pr1de]

So everyone knows what December 31 is, its new years ever of course! but thats not where my problem lies. my moms birthday falls on the thirty first and she wants me to go to the clubs with her and my step dad, but this will be my first new years as 21 (in united states) and all my buddies want me to go drinking with them. see now my dilemma? i dont want to let her down but its really hard for me to have that kind of fun with her in the same room. HELP

(yes i am a mamas boy. its my great respect for her for helping me move forward in life while sacrificing her own when i was young)

 

[Astoria]

Why not do both? Spend some time with your mum and then head out with your mates. I'm sure your mum would understand if you asked if it's ok with her.

 

[LawlessSquirrel]

I think you should stay with family for New Year's, you can go drinking for pretty much any kind of holiday or celebration the year you're able to. Trust me, there's many more opportunities than this one, if you want to take them (I personally don't see the point, but that's just me).

So yes, my suggestion is keep the big holidays like New Years and Christmas for family, since there's many more that you can prioritize your friends for.

 

[Pr1de]

I think you should stay with family for New Year's, you can go drinking for pretty much any kind of holiday or celebration the year you're able to. Trust me, there's many more opportunities than this one, if you want to take them (I personally don't see the point, but that's just me).

So yes, my suggestion is keep the big holidays like New Years and Christmas for family, since there's many more that you can prioritize your friends for.

Very wise and very true

 

[Legion]

I think you should stay with family for New Year's, you can go drinking for pretty much any kind of holiday or celebration the year you're able to. Trust me, there's many more opportunities than this one, if you want to take them (I personally don't see the point, but that's just me).

So yes, my suggestion is keep the big holidays like New Years and Christmas for family, since there's many more that you can prioritize your friends for.

I agree about Christmas, but his Mother's birthday is always going to take place at the same time as this celebration so it's hardly fair for him (as a grown man now) to have to give up his own New Year to spend time with family every single year. Not when he would have probably done so a week before at Christmas.

So I'd say go with your friends, you (presumably) spent Christmas with the family, and this is your first New Year you can go out and do whatever the hell you like. I think she should understand this.

 

[New Troll]

I think you should stay with family for New Year's, you can go drinking for pretty much any kind of holiday or celebration the year you're able to. Trust me, there's many more opportunities than this one, if you want to take them (I personally don't see the point, but that's just me).

So yes, my suggestion is keep the big holidays like New Years and Christmas for family, since there's many more that you can prioritize your friends for.

I agree about Christmas, but his Mother's birthday is on the 31st every year (obviously) so it's hardly fair for him (as a grown man now especially) to have to give up his own New Year to spend time with family every single year. Not when he would have probably done so a week before at Christmas.

So I'd say go with your friends, you (presumably) spent Christmas with the family, and this is your first New Year you can go out and do whatever the hell you like. I think she should understand this.

Sounds to me like his mother wants his first "21" New Years as part of her birthday gift. That will be a one time event. I'd say go with family. Friends come and go but she will be his mother forever.

 

[endnuen]

As said, go have a few drinks and start the party with your family. Get a bit drunk with them and have fun. Then you can go meet with your mates afterwards. It will be hilarious to show up at your friends party and everyone is already a wee bit drunk. Yourself included.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

Until I was 30, my decisions on what New Years activities to attend revolved around choosing the ones I considered most likely to get me laid. After I hit 30, I started choosing New Years activities based on which ones are least likely to result in my arrest... so for the past seven years I've spent New Years by myself reading a book. This year I got me a Gaunt's Ghosts omnibus to ring in the new year. Go me.

 

[Legion]

I think you should stay with family for New Year's, you can go drinking for pretty much any kind of holiday or celebration the year you're able to. Trust me, there's many more opportunities than this one, if you want to take them (I personally don't see the point, but that's just me).

So yes, my suggestion is keep the big holidays like New Years and Christmas for family, since there's many more that you can prioritize your friends for.

I agree about Christmas, but his Mother's birthday is on the 31st every year (obviously) so it's hardly fair for him (as a grown man now especially) to have to give up his own New Year to spend time with family every single year. Not when he would have probably done so a week before at Christmas.

So I'd say go with your friends, you (presumably) spent Christmas with the family, and this is your first New Year you can go out and do whatever the hell you like. I think she should understand this.

Sounds to me like his mother wants his first "21" New Years as part of her birthday gift. That will be a one time event. I'd say go with family. Friends come and go but she will be his mother forever.

This all depends on perspective then really.

If his family are close then yeah, I can see what you mean, but at the same time I don't believe any adult should feel restricted or guilty (or even expected for that matter) to put family first. Once you have spread your own wings so to speak then you should be free to see and do whatever you please, family should no longer be an obligation.

Until I was 30, my decisions on what New Years activities to attend revolved around choosing the ones I considered most likely to get me laid. After I hit 30, I started choosing New Years activities based on which ones are least likely to result in my arrest... so for the past seven years I've spent New Years by myself reading a book. This year I got me a Gaunt's Ghosts omnibus to ring in the new year. Go me.

This has to be one of the funniest posts I have read on this site.