A quick question about a possible relationship....

[^Asbestos^]

The issue is pretty unavoidable, seeing as you go to the movies anyways (girl or no girl).

She's given you her number, so call and find out where you stand.

Besides, you have only spoken to her at the movies, which is in public. With a call, she might be willing to spill the beans (maybe thats why she gave out her number).

 

[S.R.S.]

Here goes my super advice:

Flip. A. Coin.

 

[Blahsum]

Ah, I'm going to go the other way here...

I have done a lot of stupid stuff when it comes to women and while you will kick yourself silly afterwards for being stupid, in the end you do learn from those experiences and you become better at understanding the fairer sex. But you could very well regret NOT calling her.

As for your cousin, look, family is family and tends to survive worse things. If they are not married of engaged, then you are not entirely crossing a line here. Just do not get anyone pregnant.

Hey, call her, go have a cup of coffee and get some perspective. Ask her about her boyfriend and try to figure out what she wants. If it looks like she's just going to mess you around, don't do it. If she wants to see you behind your cousin's back, don't do it. But if she is looking for someone new and they break up, it's your prerogative to make a move.

Also, I do not know the status of your relationship with your cousin (though the fact that you didn't even know she's his girlfriend says something), but if you are going to hook up with her, you should tell him. Not to get his permission - it's not his to give - but it is his right to know.

 

[The Heik]

Okay, I know this is another relationship advise thread, but I need advice.

So there's this girl I like who works at the theater near me. I go to movies every weekend (at least once a week) and I see her there almost every time. Whenever I see her, she smiles at me for a long time and will occasionally talk to me for a minute or two about whatever.

I never really thought anything of it. I didn't notice this as flirting or even taking a liking to me whatsoever. I just didn't notice it presumedly because I must be thick.

Well today when I went to a movie, she was asking me when was the last time I saw my cousin (turns out he works there too and they were friends). I said "I don't know, it's been a while"

Then she replied, "well, he's my boyfriend"

I was sort of dumb struck by this since this girl seems very sweet and cute while my cousin is a dick hole stoner who treats people like shit.

I didn't really say anything except for "Oh...uh okay that's cool"

But then she mumbled something really fast and I didn't catch it, then when I asked "excuse me?" she quickly stiffened up and said "nothing" and walked away. Since she was getting my order for a drink, she came back and when I was about to walk away, I asked again what she said.

Turns out, she asked "would it be weird if I gave you my number?"

So, said "No not at all" I got her number and said thank you, but I really have no clue what to do since that's never happened before.

Is she interested in me or does she just want to be friends? And why was she so quick to tell me she was dating my asshole cousin? Am I a total idiot for not seeing this sooner?

Please help.

Well, like I said the last time with your issue of the attached-girl (I think that was you) give her a try. If she's serious, then congrats on a new relationship!

However, if it turns out that she's using you to get back at your step-cousin, then listen to Admiral Ackbar:


BAIL OUT! BAIL OUT!

 

[likalaruku]

In the 90s, I used to go to the theater once a month & only once a year in the 2000s. You must be REALLY easy to please if you can tollerate what's playing 48 times a year.

 

[Mr. Cuddles]

Here goes my super advice:

Flip. A. Coin.

I love that advice.

and hell, go for it man, take it from someone with too many regrets, you don't want this eating away at you if you don't take a chance.

 

[Valiance]

You know, female officers in my WoW guild give out their number to the other officers...it doesn't mean they're trying to arrange to cheat on their boyfriends or a relationship or anything...

It seems she likes you but is very confused what to do about it. Maybe you guys could hang out now and then, see how everything really feels, since no one knows how you'd like or dislike anything until it happens, you know...? And then if it goes well, -then- you have a problem.

 

[yoyo13rom]

I may just be Paranoid, but I wouldn't do it.

No it can't be....can it?

But she seems so sweet

No, this can't be happening to me again....

Dude, calm down. I say you should ask her out, just like a friend at first. The worst case scenario you make a new cool friend or lose nothing but some time while in her company.
Build your way up. Make her feel comfortable with you. Gain her trust. Show her you're an honest man. Then when you feel it's right tell her that you have some feeling for her, but you seem to be receiving mixed messages from her.
Tell her that you, by no means intent to come between her and your cousin(if there is some to come between). Tell her that you like her, but you don't want to cause any problems for her.

I don't think I'm making my point clear here, but that's exactly what I would do.
I was in an similar situation 2 times. The end game for me was that I have gained to good friends(of the opposite sex) for life which both promised me that if things don't work out in their current relationships, then they're willing to try something serious with me, too.
Well one of them still gives me the impression she would like a 3-some, but I'm pretty sure that her boyfriend would never agree(nor do I).

 

[Ben Legend]

Her Boyfriend's your cousin?! Why didn't you tell me this in PRIATE?!

She's using you man, to get back at your Cousin or something!
It's a Trap!

I believe this may sum it up.


http://img262.imageshack.us/img262/7351/admiralackbar2jl1.jpg


But, OT: Why not text her and just get talking to her, get to know why she gave you her number?

 

[no one really]

Wait, wait, wait.... She TALKED to you??!?!?!?!?!?! õ.Ö
She is obviously in love with you. Club her down and bring her to your cave!

 

[Ekonk]

Wait, wait, wait.... She TALKED to you??!?!?!?!?!?! õ.Ö
She is obviously in love with you. Club her down and bring her to your cave!

Hello there, mister unhelpful!

OP: I've got no idea what to do. Don't ignore her existence at the very least. Get to know her; you're not obligated to get in a relationship right away you know.

 

[MicrosoftPaysMe]

I want to delete this but idk how

 

[Cody211282]

I would go for it but wait until his stoner ass gets dumped

 

[no one really]

Wait, wait, wait.... She TALKED to you??!?!?!?!?!?! õ.Ö
She is obviously in love with you. Club her down and bring her to your cave!

Hello there, mister unhelpful!

OP: I've got no idea what to do. Don't ignore her existence at the very least. Get to know her; you're not obligated to get in a relationship right away you know.

Ok, I'm sorry. But EVERYONE has problems of thieir own.
In my honest opinion, I think she just talks to you because she dates your cousine.
many people I've never seen before, just suddently start to talk to me like the've known me their whole life. But it allways turns out they are dating someone from my family, working with someone from my family or is in the same school as someone from my family

 

[MicrosoftPaysMe]

I was sort of dumb struck by this since this girl seems very sweet and cute while my cousin is a dick hole stoner who treats people like shit.

hahahahahahaha this made me laugh soooo hard. Thats like the story of the world though. Let me guess, your cousin is like 2 years older than the girl, he probly doesn't have a car,job,or money. Yea that wont last but I got some entertainment out of this.

o yea, I bet the girl knows your cousin and her wont last or maybe shes about to break up with him so I would just keep being nice to her until shes single the pounce like a cheeta cuz the girl probobly doesn't go long without finding someone else. So basicly just be thier for her.

 

[MicrosoftPaysMe]

How do I delete a post???

 

[floppylobster]

If a girl likes you you should know. If you don't know or are unsure then you can be pretty sure she doesn't like you enough. The right girl would not have said 'nothing' when you said excuse me. Do what you want but don't go in thinking this could be anything other than a short term relationship at best.

 

[Infinite Betsy]

Dude, honestly...put your hormones in check. All this crap can't lead to anything good but a lot of bullshit drama. And that never is fun in the end...so don't even bother with the situation. Just keep it as a confidence boost and move on.

I have to agree. Regardless of what she was going for in telling you that she's your cousin's girlfriend, it doesn't lead to anywhere good. It sounds like she is definitely interested in you, but she also might play some head games. Maybe she doesn't even mean to, but that's just normal to her. That's just my guess.

It is a nice confidence boost. I wouldn't try to make it much more than that.

 

[MicrosoftPaysMe]

So everyone who smiles and talks to you is flirting with you?

Nowadays if someone doesn't curse you out and light you on fire they must be in love with you and want to make 11 children with you all named Carl and Steve [small/]even the girls[/small].

 

[Aloran]

I'd personally talk to her more via text or phone call. If she's planning on using you for revenge you'd find out soon enough. Get to know her better you know, before jumping into anything. And then when the time comes to "be in a relationship" if she's still going out with your cousin, then give her an ultimatum.

From what you've said, you haven't spoken to her that much, so actually finding out what she's like as a person would be a good idea first.

I'd say go for it, but be careful.