A small situation...

[Dectomax]

Ok, people of the escapist!

Heres the thing....

A while ago, me and a very nice girl ( Girl A ) Got talking, everything went well and we're on a path to being in a very happy place... Unfortunately, out of nowhere, pops A very evil girl ( Girl B )...

So, I've been talking to both, but at separate levels, Girl A, in terms of Being together...and Girl B in terms of friendship. Here's where the situation develops, Girl B seems to have taken an interest in me and due to my kind nature...( Damn you conscience ) I couldn't tell her I didn't like her, which has lead to her thinking she has a chance...

Girl A and I have arranged to meet in a town, but this town happens to be where Girl B works and lives...(So I'm a bit scared of "Raging-mad-woman-death-scream" if she happens to cross paths with me ).

Now, in all honesty I should probably tell Girl B that I'm already seeing someone, but said kindness and the fact Girl B has a few self-esteem issues prevent me from being able to do that...( Conscience Blah blah blah... ).

So, What would you do in my position? also to add discussion, have you ever been in a similar situation?

 

[AfroTree]

run for the hills and never look back man

OT: Explain to Girl A..and hope for the best dude, you never know, might get lucky and she might understand..and even like you more for it, what with being such a nice guy an' all :3

 

[delet]

Just tell girl B that while you're still friends, you're with someone else... Not all that difficult, neh?

 

[Dectomax]

Just tell girl B that while you're still friends, you're with someone else... Not all that difficult, neh?

If it wasn't for the fear of her jumping off a bridge or going crazy I would, but as said...Self-esteem issues may make her on a bit of the..weird side?....


As for the run for the hills option? Don't worry, already planned for that!

 

[The Undoer]

Avoid women like the plague! They have cooties!

Nah, Girl B will understand if she cares, mebbe explain you'd like to go with her but you can't do it on your conscience whilst with Girl A?

 

[The Procrastinated End]

Umm isn't saying "I'm actually with someone right now" better then showing up randomly with that someone?

 

[Dectomax]

Avoid women like the plague! They have cooties!

Nah, Girl B will understand if she cares, mebbe explain you'd like to go with her but you can't do it on your conscience whilst with Girl A?

Lol I would much prefer to be with Girl A. As much as I hate to admit it, I'm a tiny bit shallow, and Girl B isn't really up my street!

As for avoiding them, That's why I signed up for military service! Alot of time away from them! I'd take being shot at over a woman's wrath at something not being right any-day of the week!

 

[delet]

Just tell girl B that while you're still friends, you're with someone else... Not all that difficult, neh?

If it wasn't for the fear of her jumping off a bridge or going crazy I would, but as said...Self-esteem issues may make her on a bit of the..weird side?....


As for the run for the hills option? Don't worry, already planned for that!

So by not telling her that you're seeing someone and risking her seeing you with someone, you think that'll make it better? Just tell her out right, but make sure it's blatantly clear that you still care for her.

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

Ok, people of the escapist!

Heres the thing....

A while ago, me and a very nice girl ( Girl A ) Got talking, everything went well and we're on a path to being in a very happy place... Unfortunately, out of nowhere, pops A very evil girl ( Girl B )...

So, I've been talking to both, but at separate levels, Girl A, in terms of Being together...and Girl B in terms of friendship. Here's where the situation develops, Girl B seems to have taken an interest in me and due to my kind nature...( Damn you conscience ) I couldn't tell her I didn't like her, which has lead to her thinking she has a chance...

Girl A and I have arranged to meet in a town, but this town happens to be where Girl B works and lives...(So I'm a bit scared of "Raging-mad-woman-death-scream" if she happens to cross paths with me ).

Now, in all honesty I should probably tell Girl B that I'm already seeing someone, but said kindness and the fact Girl B has a few self-esteem issues prevent me from being able to do that...( Conscience Blah blah blah... ).

So, What would you do in my position? also to add discussion, have you ever been in a similar situation?

That's not kindness. Actually, that's pretty mean, because you're just leading her on. Tell her the truth and get it over with, trying to ease the blow of something by lying never helps.

 

[Dectomax]

Umm isn't saying "I'm actually with someone right now" better then showing up randomly with that someone?

I'm not technically with Girl A, we're just on very good terms and if things pan out, I will be with her soon. Sorry if I didn't make that clear.

 

[Dectomax]

It's not really lying? Because I like her...but not to that degree. As I stated, her self-esteem issues have me a bit wary about telling her in case she does something stupid...

 

[manythings]

Are you sure it is kindness and not you being a little *****? The quickest way out is through. I think you might be overvaluing yourself friend, this isn't a wacky sitcom where girl B will start stealing your shoes because you got a girlfriend.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

Refusing to tell "girl b" that you're not interested in her and especially not telling her that you're already seeing someone... these aren't acts of kindness. They're acts of cowardice, and whether you'll admit it or not you know that in the long run you're just hurting her more by holding back the truth.

Life sucks and sometimes you have to do shitty things you really don't want to do. That's a part of living, and the longer you wait, the worse it's going to be when the truth finally comes out.

 

[Colodomoko]

Find someone that Girl B will fall in love with and forget about you I guess.

 

[atalanta]

Which is kinder, telling her she's a terrific friend and you're glad you know her, or knowing she's into you and leading her on because you don't want her to be mad at you?

It's nice that you're trying to spare her feelings, but seriously, letting her think she has a chance when she really doesn't is cruel.

 

[Dectomax]

Are you sure it is kindness and not you being a little *****? The quickest way out is through. I think you might be overvaluing yourself friend, this isn't a wacky sitcom where girl B will start stealing your shoes because you got a girlfriend.

Actually...I'd start fearing for my life, let alone hiding my possessions! She is a bit crazy...

 

[Thaius]

That is a tough situation.

The easiest way to do this would be mentioning in passing one day that you have a girlfriend. Just in casual conversation. If she talks to you about it, that's where it gets tough. Just explain that it's not anything wrong with her, that it's a simple matter of compatibility, not a problem on her end. That's always an awkward conversation, but with your kindness, she should be able to sense your sincerity.

Good luck, man.

 

[Dectomax]

Which is kinder, telling her she's a terrific friend and you're glad you know her, or knowing she's into you and leading her on because you don't want her to be mad at you?

It's nice that you're trying to spare her feelings, but seriously, letting her think she has a chance when she really doesn't is cruel.

True, What I find difficult about the situation is I didn't help it in the first place, I went over her house and watched a movie with her because she had a bad day and other stuff...which is because i do try to be kind...even if I am a completely evil scumbag liar..sometimes?

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

Fuck her "issues". Tell her you're in a relationship, but be nice about it.

Good luck, bro.

 

[OneOfTheMichael's]

Puch girl B in the face and leave her, then burn anything in common with her.