A Social Question

[L33tsauce_Marty]

See I live a easy, calm life. I go to school, get good grades, come home, and open up my steam games to find what to accomplish that day, or just hang out with my friends. I'm a bit worried on how my outlook to other people is, let me explain.

I have a small group of dedicated friends, but everyone else...well can just bugger off to me. I find almost all people around me complete idiots that are just flat out ignorant. I talk to them sure, but at the end of the day I could care less about them. Right now I think that my best friends (the close group of friends) is the only people that I can talk to properly. Do you think I should continue my life the way I am, or maybe embrace the other people that I avoid? I've been wondering lately because I can feel a bit alone at times.

 

[ThePoodonkis]

Nah, I do the exact same thing. I don't mind doing it, but it's up to you whether or not you do find other people to hang out with.

 

[ioxles]

Do whatever you want I guess, just don't be an idiot.

 

[L33tsauce_Marty]

Do whatever you want I guess, just don't be an idiot.

Thats what I'm trying to avoid.

 

[Washboard]

Its good to have a small group of freinds ("its better to be well known by 1 person than known by many" and all that), but there is nothing bad about knowing lots of people, since i came to uni i have several large groups of good freinds, and tbh i couldent be happier

My advice is to stick to your freinds, but in general say yes to more social situations, say if someone you dont know very well invites you to the park or a party or something.

Also if your school has a common room or something you may want to to mixing it up a bit in there

 

[prefectimo]

See I live a easy, calm life. I go to school, get good grades, come home, and open up my steam games to find what to accomplish that day, or just hang out with my friends. I'm a bit worried on how my outlook to other people is, let me explain.

I have a small group of dedicated friends, but everyone else...well can just bugger off to me. I find almost all people around me complete idiots that are just flat out ignorant. I talk to them sure, but at the end of the day I could care less about them. Right now I think that my best friends (the close group of friends) is the only people that I can talk to properly. Do you think I should continue my life the way I am, or maybe embrace the other people that I avoid? I've been wondering lately because I can feel a bit alone at times.

I am similar with the friends thing but I like to be alone. I would say that if you want to truly reach out and care about more then just your close group of friends do it, else continue on the way you are.

 

[rossatdi]

It depends, if you want a healthy normal adult life it probably wouldn't be a bad thing to work out how to be nice a little bit more open minded. If you want a good career then you need a good CV and its hard to get a good CV with a small group of friends (I know, trust me!).

After all some people go to college, get jobs and move.

 

[DannyBoy451]

See I live a easy, calm life. I go to school, get good grades, come home, and open up my steam games to find what to accomplish that day, or just hang out with my friends. I'm a bit worried on how my outlook to other people is, let me explain.

I have a small group of dedicated friends, but everyone else...well can just bugger off to me. I find almost all people around me complete idiots that are just flat out ignorant. I talk to them sure, but at the end of the day I could care less about them. Right now I think that my best friends (the close group of friends) is the only people that I can talk to properly. Do you think I should continue my life the way I am, or maybe embrace the other people that I avoid? I've been wondering lately because I can feel a bit alone at times.

My life, word for word.

Either we're both unbelievably awesome, or we have deep emotional issues.

 

[L33tsauce_Marty]

It depends, if you want a healthy normal adult life it probably wouldn't be a bad thing to work out how to be nice a little bit more open minded. If you want a good career then you need a good CV and its hard to get a good CV with a small group of friends (I know, trust me!).

After all some people go to college, get jobs and move.

Oh I still talk to them, and I don't flat out ignore them or refuse to go to parties or anything. I have a decent reputation where I am so I'm not living in a box.

 

[Avida]

*snip*

Used to have this, one question, how old are you?

 

[L33tsauce_Marty]

*snip*

Used to have this, one question, how old are you?

16

 

[kdragon1010]

Sometimes the ignorant masses will surprise you so don't close off to all of them. That said I too hate the bigger general population of the human race.

 

[Crystal Cuckoo]

There's nothing wrong with what you have now- but it doesn't hurt to be a little more social
Having a few best friends is good because you know that they'll almost always understand you...

 

[Avida]

*snip*

Used to have this, one question, how old are you?

16

Im 16 too, and prehaps its just my area when but with the transition into 6th form and as such the removal of the idiots everyones personality and social habits have changed dramatically - i used to have a small group of freinds but now i've branched out a bit and its one of the bst decisions ive made IMO.

My advice - take a minuit to think about your freinds, if you are perfectly happy stick where you are, if you are above content stick with them, but make an effort to chat with random new people every now and again. If you are conent or below, you should be searching for some new people. Hope that helps in some way.

 

[Taizan]

It's good to keep a small group of close friends because, as mentioned, they will usually be the ones to understand you, but it's also good to talk to other people as well.

Maintaining a healthy balance is good, so that you aren't too isolated from everyone else, but also that you aren't trying to be really close to too many people. It just doesn't work all too well.

 

[Metonym]

An interest profile would help..hobbies? (besides video games).


You could actually find ALOT of books that is written from this
"pov" so your feelings is nowhere near unique and is a staple as far as
western litterature goes. Many Authors write about this "problem" especially
in their youth.

Basically it´s a type of life experience everybody has at one time or another and sometimes it could be really hard even getting on the "same page" as other people let alone groups of people.

If everything fails just ignore them, but the fact that you are talking "at them" my also be a part of the problem it self.

 

[L33tsauce_Marty]

An interest profile would help..hobbies? (besides video games).

Oh I was on the swim team, so that helped me get to know people.

 

[Baby Tea]

Do whatever you want I guess, just don't be an idiot.

Thats what I'm trying to avoid.

I'd say the same as the above, in that 'don't be an idiot' for me means just be kind and polite to people. A lot of people don't 'care', in the traditional sense, about anyone else other then family or friends. But 'not caring' shouldn't give way to being rude 'just because' or something like that.

I used to approach everyone with a very cynical attitude, and in some ways I still do, but I also approach them with respect and kindness, unless they can give me a reason not to be either...but for me, even if they do I see it as a 'patience' challenge and I'm nice anyways. But that's me.

Just being generally nice and respectful to people you meet randomly is a great way to meet people you didn't know before, and an even better way to get to know someone you thought you 'knew'. Heck, I met my wife that way!

 

[Hyoscine]

I remember feeling that way at school and college, and it's not the worst of outlooks really. As you get older you'll get better at finding common ground with people, as will most people around you. There's more to everyone than you'll find at first glance. For now though, you're getting good grades and chilling with mates you really get along with, and that's fine. If you do feel like expanding your social circle though, the fact you might still feel lonely sometimes doesn't mean it isn't a worthwhile thing to try.

 

[NewClassic_v1legacy]

I speak from experience when saying that's a good way to feel really isolated really quick. Unless you're really lucky, and all of your friends go to the same college/university that you do, then your friends are going to start being whittled away. If I tried to call all of my friends from when I was sixteen, two are living out-of-state and married. Another goes to a really nice university in the northern US, and several are various parts in-state at least 3-5 hour drives away just to see them.

Oh, I'm also four hours away from my hometown myself.

Unless you can really be okay with having a fresh slate starting at university, and not knowing anyone, that's your call. Personally, I'd say poke your nose around more. Hell, since I've abandoned this, I actually regularly talk to several Escapists through Skype and IRC. Er... I digress.

In my experience, life's more fun with more friends. I'd say open up, more options are never a bad thing.