A Social Question

[implodingMan]

I'm kind of shocked at some of the people on websites like this where video games are the only thing that they do with their spare time. Personally I think that would be a terrible way to live and it would be emotionally and intellectually stifling.

Is there anything else you can do that will allow you to connect with people? Some of my closest friends are people I met through my school's ski team. I also played volleyball and a few other sports. I'm not what you would call a jock, being active is just fun and you get to meet people.

Even discounting sports there are tons of things I do that aren't strictly gaming related. I play guitar and piano, I draw with charcoal and pencils, I cook...

I don't want this to seem like an "I'm so awesome" rant, its just that I think every person should have multiple hobbies. Just playing video games isn't enough.

 

[Svenparty]

I talk to anyone who has well formed opinions but the majority are devoid of culture past stuff like Video Games. I ask for someones opinion on most topics and they shrug....


So yeah...Talk to people who add something to your life and the rest can DIE

 

[searanox]

The vast majority of the human population, on the order of about 95%, are fucking dredges and wretches deserving of nothing more than your scorn; however, you must also ensure your own privacy and security, just as they are entitled to their own. Therefore, do not seek them out, do not communicate with them unless absolutely necessary and do not attempt to reeducate them unless they show a willingness for it.

 

[Reaperman Wompa]

Try to be a bit more out going but don't try to be best friends with everyone. Keep your main friends and become kind of "acquaintances" with more people. You don't need more than your main group of friends but it helps to have a few extra people to make conversation with.

 

[Ranooth]

You happy with your lifestyle? If so then keep living it.

And you are correct, most people are idiots.

 

[Sgt Doom]

I don't have any friends :'(

 

[Lord George]

I'm happy with my lifestyle that so far nearly everyone I meet has been an inept fool, so its fine to feel that way, just remember you don't think your superior, you know it

 

[xitel]

I used to feel the same way, and in fact I still think a few of the people I meet are blithering idiots. But after working 3 years as a cashier at a grocery store and actually talking to random customers that came through my line, asking them questions about themselves and all that, I came to realize that most people are perfectly fine, and I have no reason to assume otherwise.

If you spend your entire life thinking that only your select group of friends are worth two coins, you're going to be a very lonely fellow when you start losing them. What if you get into an argument with one, and end up discovering an irreconcilable difference? If you are open and willing to meet and befriend new people, then it's not really a permanent loss. But if you only have 10 friends and your mentality leads you to think that everyone but those 10 people aren't worth your time, you are now down to 9 friends, and you'll never have more. Only less.

In the long run, yes, some people out there are stupid. Some of them honestly aren't worth your time. But you shouldn't approach them thinking that. Instead, think to yourself that they may be intelligent, they may be stupid, or they may just be perfectly normal. If you talk to them and you don't like them, then stop talking to them. But chances are, when you talk to them you'll find at least one or two interesting things to talk about, and you can gain some sort of enjoyment out of that. You don't have to make friends with everyone you talk to, and acquaintances are a very underrated thing to have.

 

[floppylobster]

The reason you like your friends and don't think they're ignorant is because you know them, and they want to know you. Everyone else has their own group of friends who talk about their own issues and they're clearly not compatible with yours.

You can find friends anywhere when you need them, if you don't need them right now then fine, but don't think other small groups of people aren't thinking the exact same thing as you. And it's only because you don't know them or share common interests.

(if you want to know how to find a friend, find someone who wants to talk and listen to them. You may have nothing in common at first, but pretty soon you'll have the time you spent together. You may hate them, but if you can tell them what it is you hate about them and they're willing to listen then you'll find you have a friend.)

 

[Beffudled Sheep]

Try hanging out with the other people more.

 

[NXMT]

Meeting new people is fine but don't do it for the sake of doing it. Expanding your circle of acquaintances is always good but you don't necessarily need to be bosom buddies with everyone you come across.

 

[Rolling Thunder]

Don't worry- introversion is not a societal issue, it's simply that you prefer to be that way.

 

[implodingMan]

I used to feel the same way, and in fact I still think a few of the people I meet are blithering idiots. But after working 3 years as a cashier at a grocery store and actually talking to random customers that came through my line, asking them questions about themselves and all that, I came to realize that most people are perfectly fine, and I have no reason to assume otherwise.

If you spend your entire life thinking that only your select group of friends are worth two coins, you're going to be a very lonely fellow when you start losing them. What if you get into an argument with one, and end up discovering an irreconcilable difference? If you are open and willing to meet and befriend new people, then it's not really a permanent loss. But if you only have 10 friends and your mentality leads you to think that everyone but those 10 people aren't worth your time, you are now down to 9 friends, and you'll never have more. Only less.

In the long run, yes, some people out there are stupid. Some of them honestly aren't worth your time. But you shouldn't approach them thinking that. Instead, think to yourself that they may be intelligent, they may be stupid, or they may just be perfectly normal. If you talk to them and you don't like them, then stop talking to them. But chances are, when you talk to them you'll find at least one or two interesting things to talk about, and you can gain some sort of enjoyment out of that. You don't have to make friends with everyone you talk to, and acquaintances are a very underrated thing to have.

Thank you for posting this. After reading most of this thread I was honestly considering moving on to a different forum, as most of the people here seem to be complete douches. There is nothing wrong with liking to spend time by yourself. I am a personal fan of the quiet weekend at home. There is nothing wrong with keeping your core group of friends. I have been friends with a few people for almost 15 years now.

However, this is not an excuse to be an absolute prick to everyone you meet because they don't share the same interests as you.

 

[Fightgarr]

I used to feel the same way, and in fact I still think a few of the people I meet are blithering idiots. But after working 3 years as a cashier at a grocery store and actually talking to random customers that came through my line, asking them questions about themselves and all that, I came to realize that most people are perfectly fine, and I have no reason to assume otherwise.

If you spend your entire life thinking that only your select group of friends are worth two coins, you're going to be a very lonely fellow when you start losing them. What if you get into an argument with one, and end up discovering an irreconcilable difference? If you are open and willing to meet and befriend new people, then it's not really a permanent loss. But if you only have 10 friends and your mentality leads you to think that everyone but those 10 people aren't worth your time, you are now down to 9 friends, and you'll never have more. Only less.

In the long run, yes, some people out there are stupid. Some of them honestly aren't worth your time. But you shouldn't approach them thinking that. Instead, think to yourself that they may be intelligent, they may be stupid, or they may just be perfectly normal. If you talk to them and you don't like them, then stop talking to them. But chances are, when you talk to them you'll find at least one or two interesting things to talk about, and you can gain some sort of enjoyment out of that. You don't have to make friends with everyone you talk to, and acquaintances are a very underrated thing to have.

Thank you for posting this. After reading most of this thread I was honestly considering moving on to a different forum, as most of the people here seem to be complete douches. There is nothing wrong with liking to spend time by yourself. I am a personal fan of the quiet weekend at home. There is nothing wrong with keeping your core group of friends. I have been friends with a few people for almost 15 years now.

However, this is not an excuse to be an absolute prick to everyone you meet because they don't share the same interests as you.

Most of my friends don't actually share the same interests as me. We're very different in many ways actually. However there are about 15 people in this city whose doors I can always knock on and they'll always be open, welcoming and happy to see me. Despite the sheer number of people I consider my close friends, I actually am close with all of them.

Listen, I went to a university away from my hometown that no one I knew really went to. I'm not a social person. The friends I made here though? They're my family. I used to be really anti-social, I used to think that all people were idiots. I spend time alone, but honestly, you need to go and meet people. We don't have that much time here, we should share it with other people. That said, I'm going to get off this forum and spend time with my "family".

 

[nova18]

God knows I always think like this and Im 2 years older than you.

I'll try to make friends with anyone who will do the same with me.
But I have a few really close friends, and these are the ones that I'll miss when everyone goes their seperate ways.

 

[Shade Jackrabbit]

*shrug* Similar situation for me, but I'd say that you should just be open to getting more friends. Don't search too hard, but try to see if there are any groups with similar interests to you that may be unexplored avenues. (DMing for DnD at our club after school basically got me a cult following.) Only problem may be organization. Don't forget to keep tabs on people or else- excuse me I have to go do something. -_-'