Thyunda said:
DoomyMcDoom said:
Well to put it bluntly, if she's more interested in you than her boyfriend, let it all come crashing down! He's probably being predictable boring and lazy, and allowing this through his own shittyness as a boyfriend... his problem bro not yours.
Then why doesn't she choose you? Why are you the one-off and he the constant?
I didn't know I was involved in the relationship? Did this just become a fourway while I wasn't looking?
Now I know what you mean though, lemme put it straight, a man can be the other guy, and let her play both sides if he doesn't have the balls to make a demand, I've been the other guy but in all cases I demand that she leave mr boring idiot and tell him why she's doing it, after all dude's gotta learn so he can stop being boring and make his next girl happy to have him for as long as she does.
I used to be a boring stick in the mud general average sweet nice and boring dude, once I realised how my not being adventurous and not being exciting, was causin me to fail hard fucking core, along with my lack of self confidence.
Lemme put it this way, if the guy she's no longer interested in, is being predictable, unfun, boring, or just doesn't stick up for himself as a person apart from her, he's gotta learn to change that.
After all, the depiction of men in happy relationships as whipped and it working just doesn't pan out in real life, your girl tries to make you change in a way that affects you as a man, you dissagree, or you look like a pussy, and women already have one of those, they don't need another one.
If you bring a girl flowers and chocolates once, that can be sweet, if you do it like clockwork it's boring, if you take your girl on a romantic picnic, that's cool, you do it every weekend you ruin the damn experience, guys gotta learn to experiment do new exciting things with their women, because otherwise you get stale, and uninteresting, I'm not talking spontainious trips to hawaii or anything too extravagant, but hell do something different now and again, more often the better.
Also unlike what a lot of people seem to think, most women do not like being held up on pedestals and do not find constant pandering and asskissing attractive in a man, they want to be treated like a woman not as some kind of untouchable goddess, after all the best times in bed, are for both parties to enjoy and take part in, the best times in any goddamn relatable moment are the mutually enjoyable ones... as a man you belittling yourself in front of your woman makes you look like a fool, and makes you look like you wouldn't even want to be with you so why should she...
I guess in a rather round about way I'm implying that even though all men have something to learn in their relations with their partners, some have more to learn than others, and it does neither party any favours pandering to the current boring boyfriend's weakness... Cuz he won't learn, and she isn't happy.
I know it may sound like I want someone to be hurt, but y'know I've learned all my most life improving lessons through pain... Pain is healthy and natural, we all need to learn to cope with it and learn and grow as people.
No I'm not some kind of bigot, I'm not cheuvanistic, I respect women, I just know a lot of guys, treat women "right" instead of right, difference being that some men turn themselves into a bloody doormat, and end up becoming something rather strikingly unattractive in the process, and other men, the ones who know what I'm saying, don't change themselves, don't lower themselves, they respect women, and do so AS A MAN, they relate rather than "understand"
they empathize rather than sympathize with their mate when she is feeling sad, so many other things I could go on and on about for hours, but I've already got a wall of text up so I'll leave it at this.
The difference, is that of men, and boys. Men have relationships with women, boys play at being men having a relationship.