Worst, or quite possibly the best, or maybe even the most rediculous metaphor I have heard for an erection in the pants in a very, very long time.JemothSkarii said:
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Dont mix up wanting to fall in love with a sex drive although they do often coincide.
I had a friend once who said
"everytime a boy talks to a girl who isnt related to them he is trying to get into her pants."
which i think is often true even if its only on a sub-conscious level but only up to a point....
when you fall in love all your waking consciousness is absorbed by wanting to be with them, to protect them, to make them happy even at your own expense. Which is a kind of obssession, but hopefully in a good way.
Otherwise sex drive is the biological mechanicism that makes you desire intercourse with anyone who superficially looks like a good mate. Which is very shallow, but i think usually in your subconscious.
I had a friend once who said
"everytime a boy talks to a girl who isnt related to them he is trying to get into her pants."
which i think is often true even if its only on a sub-conscious level but only up to a point....
when you fall in love all your waking consciousness is absorbed by wanting to be with them, to protect them, to make them happy even at your own expense. Which is a kind of obssession, but hopefully in a good way.
Otherwise sex drive is the biological mechanicism that makes you desire intercourse with anyone who superficially looks like a good mate. Which is very shallow, but i think usually in your subconscious.
This sums it up. Seriously, it isn't too complicated. Sex drive is wanting to screw something.GamesB2 said:
If your sex drive keeps wanting to screw the same person, then things get a bit more complicated. That could be the beginnings of genuinely caring for them. But let's not get into that, because if we did, I'd have no idea what I was talking about.
mmmm...I love sex 
And sometimes i get horny as hell and want to put my dick into a female. Thats my sex drive. And this happens on a...15 times daily basis. Unless i actually get laid then only about 5 times daily. I miss getting laid
And sometimes i get horny as hell and want to put my dick into a female. Thats my sex drive. And this happens on a...15 times daily basis. Unless i actually get laid then only about 5 times daily. I miss getting laid 
You forgot about one of the key features in to people helping you on the internet.Biosophilogical said:
Describe you gender!!!
Sorry but are you male or female?
Assuming you're straight/bi:-
You see that girl there? You see her cleavage almost bursting out of her top? You start to think "Woah...woah...wow...that's..." and you get that strange feeling in your stomach and you cant take your eyes off of her? You start to slowly get an erection.
That's your sex drive
Assuming you're gay/bi:-
You see that guy there? Yeah, you get the idea...
...what?
You see that girl there? You see her cleavage almost bursting out of her top? You start to think "Woah...woah...wow...that's..." and you get that strange feeling in your stomach and you cant take your eyes off of her? You start to slowly get an erection.
That's your sex drive
Assuming you're gay/bi:-
You see that guy there? Yeah, you get the idea...
...what?
A sex drive is just wanting to have sex, if you haven't experienced this and known it then it sounds like you're Asexual, not knowing what sexuality you're interested in also makes it sound like you're Asexual, if you do feel a sex drive though then a good way to figure out your orientation is to imagine yourself married in many years time and you come home, do you imagine a man or a woman waiting for you at home.
A sex drive simply feels like the desire to have sex. Not even necessarily an overwhelming urge or need, just kinda wanting to. Now sexual arousal, that's a little closer to what I described in the second sentence.
I'm going to skip personal experience and cut straight to advice..
Don't worry. There is no reason you would know about your own sex drive until you've had experiences which help you navigate it. Or, more accurately, there are lots of other emotions which are going to get in the way, so give yourself time to relax and become comfortable.
To take an example, as an adult I'd presume you don't sit around and pretend you're driving a car because it wouldn't feel realistic. Any emotion or thrill you got from driving a car could only be experienced if you'd actually driven a car and could remember doing it. We can sometimes simulate it a little by fantasizing, and that's why porn exists, but ultimately noone knows their sex drive until they start actively testing it through sexual experience.
If/when you start having sexual experiences, you'll probably discover things which you like and things which you don't like. The things which you like you'll remember, and sometimes you'll remember them and it will be hot. That's a sex drive.. it's something you build up through experience and active fantasy, not something which is just there.
Erections are meaningless, especially in adolescence. It's just a purely physiological response which doesn't necessarily have any sexual component at all. Some people will get them a lot and some people won't get them at all, it means nothing either way.
Don't rule yourself out as asexual. Some people genuinely are asexual, but don't let yourself get labelled for no good reason. Sexual desire won't just fall into your lap (heh), you have to take the time to fathom it out. Those little brats who are horny all the damn time have just been sexualized early. Probably by jacking off to too much porn.
Don't worry. There is no reason you would know about your own sex drive until you've had experiences which help you navigate it. Or, more accurately, there are lots of other emotions which are going to get in the way, so give yourself time to relax and become comfortable.
To take an example, as an adult I'd presume you don't sit around and pretend you're driving a car because it wouldn't feel realistic. Any emotion or thrill you got from driving a car could only be experienced if you'd actually driven a car and could remember doing it. We can sometimes simulate it a little by fantasizing, and that's why porn exists, but ultimately noone knows their sex drive until they start actively testing it through sexual experience.
If/when you start having sexual experiences, you'll probably discover things which you like and things which you don't like. The things which you like you'll remember, and sometimes you'll remember them and it will be hot. That's a sex drive.. it's something you build up through experience and active fantasy, not something which is just there.
Erections are meaningless, especially in adolescence. It's just a purely physiological response which doesn't necessarily have any sexual component at all. Some people will get them a lot and some people won't get them at all, it means nothing either way.
Don't rule yourself out as asexual. Some people genuinely are asexual, but don't let yourself get labelled for no good reason. Sexual desire won't just fall into your lap (heh), you have to take the time to fathom it out. Those little brats who are horny all the damn time have just been sexualized early. Probably by jacking off to too much porn.
Check your "wank bank" whatever you find yourself "investigating" more is your sexual preference. Of course there's always the possibility that you're bi. nothing wrong with that, just means you go both ways
I'm male, and to clarify to everyone on this thread, I find people of both genders to be physically attractive (well, I find them attractive if they actually are attractive), but it's never been a "Let's get it on" kind of thing, more just me being aware of the physical qualities of other people (a phenomenon I think most people experience, regardless of sexuality, but that's a whole other can of worms which I'll put in a spoiler)whiteM1lk said:
My theory is that everyone is physically and socially attracted/repelled by everyone else (which is how people discern who is attractive within their own gender, and therefore likely to attract desired mates of the opposite gender (which I believe stems from the idea of opportunistic reproduction (not all the desired mates will "get it on" with the attractive friend, so you would be there to catch his/her metaphorical run-off/excess/overflow/etc))). A similar 'survival standard' applies to social attraction and has led me to believe that, while we all experience physical and social attraction to others, they are not the same as sexual attraction. Sexual attraction, in my theory, would be a result of the total physical and social attraction reaching what I call the 'Sex-theshold', which is basically the ease you have in experiencing sexual attraction; so an asexual would either have an impossibly high sex-theshold meaning they never find someone who ranks high enough/is perfect enough, demisexuals (I think that's the term) would place more value on social attraction, and everyone except asexuals would just have a different sex-theshold, which would determine how 'horny' they are.
So yeah, my current view is that I'm asexual/demisexual, have a high sex-theshold or have repressed my sex drive.
So yeah, my current view is that I'm asexual/demisexual, have a high sex-theshold or have repressed my sex drive.
An interesting theory, but if you've never tried anything sexual or actively self-explored, how would you know?Biosophilogical said:
I say this with the nicest will in the world and based on personal experience. I once thought I was asexual, or at least that sex wasn't for me, then I actually started having sex and what I wanted from people crystallized very quickly. In fact I became a bit of a **** for a while and only settled down quite recently.
There is so much sexual variety that ruling it out just because you can't fantasize about something you have no experience of anyway is potentially a little self defeating. I'm not saying you're not asexual, but you might end up regretting your insistence unless you're prepared to push the boundaries.
I have a very minimal libido, I've found. Always have.
Still, it's kind of a weird burst of energy for me when I feel sexually tense. Like I can't sit still at all 'til sex hath been wrought.
Still, it's kind of a weird burst of energy for me when I feel sexually tense. Like I can't sit still at all 'til sex hath been wrought.
A sex drive is the urge to have sex, whether it comes out of nowhere or is a response to seeing someone attractive.
Looking or thinking about a girl [or what have you] and you get a boner?
Sex drive!
Start really getting into any sexual activity?
Sex drive!
As for why it may seem repressed or you haven't identified it within yourself yet, many biological reasons can diminish its magnitude/regularity.
Or perhaps you just haven't felt a prototypical instance yet: a REALLY strong urging from falling in love or being physically close with someone. Once you know what it feels like at its strongest, you should be able to pick up on it when its weaker.
Looking or thinking about a girl [or what have you] and you get a boner?
Sex drive!
Start really getting into any sexual activity?
Sex drive!
As for why it may seem repressed or you haven't identified it within yourself yet, many biological reasons can diminish its magnitude/regularity.
Or perhaps you just haven't felt a prototypical instance yet: a REALLY strong urging from falling in love or being physically close with someone. Once you know what it feels like at its strongest, you should be able to pick up on it when its weaker.
You're right, I can't know, but at the same time, short of a progressive chemical analysis of every active human brain on earth (or close to), no-one can truly know. For all we know, most of the people on this thread might have various neurological cluster-fucks that lead to similar results to an actual sex-drive. I mean, between social pressures such as movies, games, books, television, parents, friends, etc how do you know that what you feel is a natural hormonal progression? Isn't it possible that your brain has seen what everyone else is doing and basically created a psychological shortcut to produce similar results to actual sexual attraction? Your brain (or anyone's brain really) could, instead of releasing sex-drive chemicals, have a form of shortcut hardwired in, so instead of a chemical attraction you have a socially induced one that mimics it, instead of releasing endorphins as a direct result of sexual arousal, you might see a girl you know others find attractive and you've effectively tricked your body into an erection and into releasing endorphins as two separate reactions, rather than a one being result of the other. My point is, because everyone is different, and because we have so many social pressures to 'be this' or 'do that' how can you determine which theory is correct or which feeling is actually genuine or which people are genuinely experienceing something as opposed to a socially-instilled 'desktop shortcut' or 'psychological scenic route'.evilthecat said:
Basically, although my theory is merely speculation, thinking that what you feel is what you should feel is purely speculatory, which is half the reason I made this thread: to see if everyone perceived a sex-drive in the same way.