Again, I am glad they fired Raimi's ass. After the stunt he pulled with Spidey 3, it's good that they are going for a reboot. I agree with many of your tips Moviebob: No hot stars under 30, no bad stuntcasting....and if the final battle takes place in the gym on dance night....let the Jonas Brothers be crushed underneath rubble....and have Spidey take the public(but not criminal) blame for not saving them in time.
Personally, I will be happy with a reboot because it means that there is a chance, albeit a small one, that they can do it better. A better Peter Parker, a better Spider-Man, a better MJ. Tobey was ok, but I was always uneasy with the creepy kid from Pleasantville being Peter. Have Spider-Man make his jokes and run his mouth off....with mechanical webshooters. Have an MJ who doesn't IMMEDIATELY come off as a social-climbing whore....if she needs to be one, ease her into it, don't thrust it into our faces.
Ultimate Spider-Man is a great series (though I have read it much post issue 100ish), you have a younger, more vital Aunt May; one who can still whoop Peter's ass if need be when he comes home late. You can deal more with Peter's exploration and joy involving his powers....the "Go web, go!" bit was nice, but then hit too heavily into uncle-death drama and never let loose. Instead of Peter being a photographer...have him be the web designer for the Bugle, show more of the psuedo-father figure thing that he had going with Jonah after Uncle Ben died.
I am having great optimism for the new movie. Let Raimi go back and do another Evil Dead, or keep working on Legend of the Seeker. There, he has both the money and the power(along with Tapert) to do what he wants creatively, without pissing off people who pay him to do something and he doesn't.