Advice with my friends younger sister

[mjc0961]

Status Update:Leslie Nielson died, it's total BS. Why are geniuses like him and Dio dying, while pieces of garbadge like Nickelback and Michael Bay are alive and well?

If I can completely miss the point of the thread for a minute, because Leslie Nielson, while awesome, was also old. The guys from Nickelback and Michael Bay are not. I mean you didn't expect Mr. Nielson to be able to steal their life force or something did you?
(Sorry, I'm getting tired and when I get tired silly statements like that make sense to me. Anyway.)

If she's bothering you so much, take her off your friend list or whatever on Facebook so she can't bother you anymore (remember, it's a friend list, not "people I don't know but spend a lot of time annoying me" list). And the phone thing, call up your friend and tell him about it maybe. See if he can't keep her from grabbing his phone to text you anymore. Seems simple enough really, and from your story it's easy to see why none of your other friends like her.

 

[Caliostro]

...It's not a real problem if you can solve it with a button press.

"Block this user". Tada.

If she bothers you in real life just tell her to piss off.

If all else fails just go Katt Williams on her ass: "*****, you got this all wrong. We're friends with your brother. YOUR BROTHER. Not you. Invite said "plus one". We didn't know you were coming along."

Most likely she fancies you though, so if you got the patience just talk to her and try to understand what the fuck is she doing. If you don't tell her to go take a long walk of a short peer. Either way, problem solved for you.

 

[Semi-Human]

lol sounds like the typical 15 year old drama queen.

She might like you, if you can put up with the bs that seems to bring out fine.
otherwise just remove her from your friends list and ignore her. Probably no "nice way" to deal with this

 

[Co3x]

just cut down on the attention you give her, like only reply to something like a third of her posts/texts/messages, then it just kinda seems like your one of those people that barely replies to shit online.

I recently had this problem, although not as bad. My kinda friends half cousin (i think, im not even sure) added me on msn and started talking to me literally everytime i was online. I dont even do that with my best friends, and she was talking like we were very close. I just didnt reply much, not too little to seem like a complete dick, just enough that it seemed like i was always busy doing something at the time.

This is what I would suggest, however it does seem like she has a crush on you. So if you want to do the gentlemanly thing (chivalry is not dead I tell you!) then I'd just confront her about it and tell her that you just don't like her that way. But be careful, you don't want to be too nice or too evil about it, if you're too nice it could backfire and she'll like you more. And if you're too evil, why the hell you doing it this way in the first place?!?!

But shootdown's suggestion is spot on for passive aggressive tactics ^_^

 

[Wintermoot]

act like a douche bag towards her and hope she finds a BFF or something

 

[Mistermixmaster]

Good luck! XD

Basically, this.

-sound of music snip-

I see.
I like your poem!

I really can't take credit for this. I just modified a song from "The Sound of Music" which seemed to relate to this particular problem. I'm a little...alarmed that you didn't recognize it immediately. Am I that old? Oh, dear...

Nah, I don't think it has anything to do with how old one is. I mean, even I recognised that, and I haven't even seen The Sound of Music (though I got the general idea of what it's about). Could be worse though, you could be quoting "Casablanca" without any of your friends knowing what the hell you're talking about... not that it has happened to me of course *cough*
_>

On Topic: Allright OP, I see three ways to solve this conflict.
1. Block her on facebook,be somewhat nice to her but a bit more dismissive. The "it's ok you're here 'n' all, but don't you rather want to hang out with your friends or something?"-act should work. At best you'll only be saying "hi" once you're over at their place and she should (hopefully) loose interest. Try turning her attention away from you somehow and onto someone/something else.
2. Tell her to stop "trying to be best friends", as you said, and instead become proper friends. As someone said, she may have a crush on you, in that case you got to decide if you would want to pursue a relationship with her or not, and ask/tell her straight up.
3. Drop any and all contact with her whatsoever. AFAIK you can delete posts from others on your own wall/status updates and such. Blocking/unfriending works too. (A bit cold, yes, but drastic times require drastic measures.)

Use any of these "tips" at your own discretion. I am not in any way responsible for any consequences of this D:

 

[EmzOLV]

Doesn't facebook now have this thing when you can kinda, change what certain friends can see about you on your facebook?

One friend did it to me, so I only see his status updates but none of his friends, yet my best friend can see everything. It's a bit weird. I'm not sure how to do it, or if I've just imagined the whole thing up...

Anyway, I had someone random stalk me but they weren't close to really anyone I knew. In your situation, if it was me, I'd ask my best mate if she's like that with everyone (the mass texting/liking/facebook commenting) and if so I would just simply ignore it from here on out. If its unusual for her, I would maybe take the hint that she had a slight crush and I would just be a little bit more sensitive but still just start ignoring her.

 

[dmase]

And your buddy which is her brother has no advice for you? He seems like the one most likely to help in this situation.

 

[GreyKnight3445]

Well, I can see three things out of this!!!

1.She has no friends and just take it as such, common the kid might be lonely.
2.She likes you, ALOT, so just be nice to her.
3.She's a pseudo-stalkerish girl who stalks everyone who talk to her for ten seconds, (It has become a big problem).

Good luck! XD

Basically, this.

She is 14, going on 15.
dt, it's time to think.
Better beware, be canny and careful.
dt, you're on the brink.

She is 14, going on 15.
Fellows will fall in line
Eager young lads
And douchebags and dads
Will offer her beer and wine

Totally unprepared is she
To face a world of men
Timid and shy and scared is she
Of things beyond her ken

She wants someone
Older and wiser
Telling her what to do
You are 16 going on 17
She will depend on you.

I think that pretty much sums it up.
OT: try talking with her mate, I mean i have a person like that and I think she is just looking for someone she can go to, even though she`s kinda stalkerish when it comes to me and her being online and her mentioning her new boyfriend over a county away.
talk to her, you might be surprised.

 

[Paksenarrion]

Good luck! XD

Basically, this.

-sound of music snip-

I see.
I like your poem!

I really can't take credit for this. I just modified a song from "The Sound of Music" which seemed to relate to this particular problem. I'm a little...alarmed that you didn't recognize it immediately. Am I that old? Oh, dear...

Nah, I don't think it has anything to do with how old one is. I mean, even I recognised that, and I haven't even seen The Sound of Music (though I got the general idea of what it's about). Could be worse though, you could be quoting "Casablanca" without any of your friends knowing what the hell you're talking about... not that it has happened to me of course *cough*
_>

SNIP

I know what you mean! There comes a time in a person's life when they *have to* quote Casablanca, or they'll regret it. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of their life.

 

[TheWwwizard]

So she has terrible social skills and is attracted to you. If she's too annoying tell her to leave you alone if you can live with ignoring her, do that. If you like her ask your friend if he has any problems with you going out with her. Doesn't sound like too much of a problem though...

 

[PinkiePyro]

first off tell the friend who is the girls sibling then tell her she is creeping you out then block/unfriend her

If she contunes to stalk you tell an adult eather her parents or yours..

if that does not work then you probly have a real stalker on your hands file with law enforcement for harassment

 

[spartan1077]

So here's what you have to do. If you can't send her on her way, create ways that you can ignore her. When your friend texts you, make sure he uses a capital for every third letter or something, and change it every week so when he texts you and your stalker his sister texts you, you're able to figure out who it is and ignore your friend friend's sister. Aso, when planning different events make your friend lie who he is going to hang out with or something like that. This girl has a crush on you that will only either develop more if you give her attention, or crash and burn into an obsession if you give her more/less attention. The easiest thing would be to sit down with her and say,
"I'm 16. You're too young. This is my girlfriend *proceeds to make out with girlfriend*"
That was a joke so don't do that but do let her know that you are not and can never be attracted to her.

 

[chainer1216]

Good luck! XD

Basically, this.

-sound of music snip-

I see.
I like your poem!

I really can't take credit for this. I just modified a song from "The Sound of Music" which seemed to relate to this particular problem. I'm a little...alarmed that you didn't recognize it immediately. Am I that old? Oh, dear...

Nah, I don't think it has anything to do with how old one is. I mean, even I recognised that, and I haven't even seen The Sound of Music (though I got the general idea of what it's about). Could be worse though, you could be quoting "Casablanca" without any of your friends knowing what the hell you're talking about... not that it has happened to me of course *cough*
_>

SNIP

I know what you mean! There comes a time in a person's life when they *have to* quote Casablanca, or they'll regret it. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of their life.

very, very true.

OT

i'm fairly sure she likes you, it seems like no one likes her, and kids that age need people to be friends with, and you gave her a good first impression, so she's latched onto you. and the "what a fail" thing might just because she's trying to fit it, trying to be "one of the guys" ball busting is a sacred tradition among teenage boys, it may be something she's observed.

my advice? try actually hanging out with her, not her brother, just her. she'll probably see that her feelings for you are all in her head...or she'll actually genuinely like you, at which point *shrugs* i dunno, thats another topic to post about.

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

I don't think that blocking her and telling your friend about it will hurt his feelings any. If I were in your position, I would've told her to fuck off by then. In no vague terms.

 

[Swaki]

Dude, hit that.

if thats not an option, talk to your friend, back when i was your age my best friends sister did the same thing with me, except she was 8 and there was no facebook, i just talked to him about it and he asked her to stop, and it worked, its as easy as that, if she keeps bugging you after that just talk to her yourself.

 

[PrimoThePro]

Does your friend know your other friends hate her?
If yes, tell him you hate her, more people arrayed against her, the more your friend will fight back if she tries to tag along. If no, tell all your other friends you also dislike her. This way you can collectively tell your friend she is a *****.

Does she comment on all your friends' status' too?
If yes, then your best bet is to get them all to block her at the same time. May hurt her feelings for a bit, but the gap is 2 years, she has other friends. If no, she may have a "thing" for you. Very creepy. Best course of action in this case is to tell her straight up to leave you alone.

Finally, is your friend's relationship with his sister good? Are they close?
If no, no problem. Sever all ties with girl, you win. If they have a kinda good relationship, you want to rationalize with him, tell him your your side of the story, maybe he can talk to her for you. If yes, their relationship is good, things get tricky. No doubt he will defend her, and likely your friendship will be jeopardy. Debate to take an easy route, losing both friend and his sister, or a tougher route where you essentially do all you can to placate your friend while extricating yourself from any outing that may include this girl.

 

[Skorpyo]

While I have no advice other than "Annoy her away", I DO believe I've found her long-lost twin:

Just imagine it saying "What a fail". Oi.

 

[no oneder]

You should try to talk to her, tell her what annoys you. Then, date her briefly, a month should do; BUT date her secretly, behind everyone who knows her, so whenever she shows off about being with you, you can feign ignorance and she will end up looking stupid in front of her friends and family.

 

[Zaik]

The best way to drive a female away is to find the particular part of them that they are insecure about and give them nonstop crap over it any time you come in contact. Easy targets are weight and breast size, you get bonus points for complaining about things others see as socially acceptable, such as painting themselves orange, draw on eyebrows, retarded finger/toenail colors, any hair color they dye their hair after they did it(point multiplier if you suggest a color and then immediately mock it afterwards), etc.

Get creative.