Seriously though, this is the Escapist, I think we all know what we *really* need after a break-up...a healthy dose of Yahtzee! (and the many other fine men and women of the Escapist of course)
I have just broken up with my girlfriend about 2 weeks ago. well...that is she broke up with me.
We'd only been together about 8 months. I'm pretty sure of what went wrong. Classic case of getting too full on with each other too quickly. Sometimes you can get so involved with someone that you forget all about your own life and thats never a good thing It's really sad because we do have such a laugh together and I miss her real bad.
Haven't been dealing with it too brilliantly. I've broken up with girls before and it's not affected me this much. Can't concentrate on anything...not even games!! Had a bit of a breakdown last weekend and had to cry down the phone to my mum lol. Thank god for mums eh!
Anyway for the last week I have rejoined the gym and been going swimming like th OP just trying to get my confidence back which has been knocked hard. Gonna continue with this fitness theme and go out with my friends more...then a bit later down the line when I'm feeling myself again I'm gonna try and win her back. Can't let her get away she's a top top girl. Next time I resolve to take it slowly.
Well I have been dumped twice by email. Yeah - I got two e-dear-John's.
The first time I was angry as the whole thing was just me beaing led around by my knob, not getting any further than first base and paying for everything. I was in a University tutorial at the time and as soon as it was done, I hit he bar.
The second time I cried then went to bed (I read the email at 2am). I was kidnapped by my housemates the next day and taken out for a day of wanton indulgence (mostly involving food and booze). We had our differences, sure, but those guys really came through for me that day and I thank them profusely!
There's been a variety of responses here, ranging from the mundane to the extreme. I think most of us can relate to this one and it's proving to be a surprisingly rich thread so far.
Thankfully nobody has mentioned violent reprisals yet and long may that continue!
I've never been dumped before, but I imagine I will repress my emotions inside me until I eventually get explosively angry at the guy behind me who won't stop talking about Assassins Creed in German class.
But right after I would imagine I would be old enough to drink, so I would probably buy some affordable Vodka, drink depressingly all night and then kill stuff on a violent game.
errr... let's see. when my first girlfriend dumped me I got really sad that night. got really angry the next morning and listened to arch enemy all day (at that point I was already out of my metal phase). that night I went out with friends and ended up having one of the best nights of my life. after that I was pretty much over her XD
The next two times I was the one doing the dumping and it made me kinda sad. for a day or so. that's about it really.
I sat in shock for at least a week. I mean, I thought everything was going fine. I was good to her, we never had any big fights, and things just seemed to be going smoothly. But then she dumps me because she didn't think I could provide for her in the future.
And after that, I haven't been able to go back to my old self. :/
I'm not sure what I would do now, but the one break up I had...nothing happened. Seriously, in a few days, I had forgotten. Despite how well I interacted with said girl, we didn't stay together long (she was moving provinces), and we didn't build much of a connection. We had great chemistry, yes, but we didn't get enough time to develop a strong emotional connection.
A gallon of ice cream, star wars, steak, and a night with some friends is all I need. Eat the ice cream while watching the movie and probably cry a bit. Then remind yourself that your a man and grill yourself a mean steak so you can clean your body of all that girly stuff. After you enjoy your steak go out and chill with your bros.
4 years later and i'm only just starting to not really think about her any more. In that time, i slept with a lot of girls trying to find what i had with her, but it just didn't happen.
We all have our individual coping mechanisms, it's really not up to any of us to tell you, but to find your own.
This may sound silly, but i very easily could have resorted to self destructive things, but i saw a counsellor, and it really helped.
When my fiance of three years broke up with me I went into my room and didn't leave until I'd completed Persona 3 and 4 (I have an ensuite in my house so I still showered and what not). Then I left my room sat downstairs and rewatched all of Naruto and Naruto Shippuden and became obssessed with Itachi Uchiha and Kaname Kuran again XD
Typically, I get right back out and try to find someone new to spend my time with. It's not always the healthiest thing for me to do, but the boost in self-esteem of being mutually interested in someone always helps.
Beyond that, I typically ruminate and fume over my ex for a good long time, flipping between rage and depression. Usually there are a couple of good fights in there, before I finally realize that they were wrong for me and I'm better off without them.
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