Panthera said:
Explain to me how your position does not imply what I said. I'd be glad to discuss the issue if I could see the actual disconnect, but in my eyes, I can't see how your standard isn't asking men to put their own safety below that of women who attack them.
Alright, let's start with context. Let's look at the OP. OP is discussing hitting. Specifically punching "with real violence". So the context of the thread is "hitting", with "real violence".
Now let's look at your post that I originally responded to. I'm even going to winnow it down a bit, to expose specifically what I was reacting to when I quoted you the first time.
And yet, people keep saying that because I'm a tad larger than a lot of women, it's my duty to protect a woman who tries to hurt me.
"People keep saying". You're not responding to anyone, so this an argument you have constructed yourself for the purposes of attacking it. You're clearly not unintelligent, so you know why stuff like "people say" is an absolutely terrible foundation upon which to construct an argument. You said this. If you want to debate "people" pick a quote and debate it. Don't debate the people in your head.
Secondly, "protect"? There is a mile of difference between "avoid inflicting harm" and "protect". I think you're aware of that difference, too, but chose the second word because it promotes this fantasy you've constructed in which absolutely ridiculous things are required of you.
She is the one attacking me, and yet her safety is more important than mine. I am the victim of a random attack, but who gives a damn? I'm a man, she's a woman, her well being trumps mine and the responsibility is on me, not her, to prevent any harm to anyone. If she gets hurt, it's my fault. If I get hurt, it's clearly my fault too since I should have stopped it, right?
"More important". Not even equally important, you got greedy and went straight to "more important". Again, if you see anyone
actually saying this, by all means point them out and we will debate them together. Show me the person saying "The attacker's safety is more important than the victim!". I, and others, have simply stated...repeatedly...that if you are being attacked, you DO have a responsibility to measure and control your response. Remember the topic of the thread? Remember the OP? Remember "Punching with real violence"? That's what you voted "yes" to. The OP stated his poll question different than his OP, but anyone reading the OP is going to be aware of what the OP's position on the question is.
Her responsibility for attacking you is utterly disconnected from your responsibility to control the scope of your response. If this thread was entitled "Is it okay for a woman to randomly beat a man?! Yes/no!? LOL!" we'd be having a very different conversation. But it's not. It's about what responsibility the man bears in that situation. Right? It's right there in the thread title. This "they started it" stuff is kindergarten logic.
No. Being weaker than someone is not a free license to try to hurt people. You are basically arguing that physical strength makes you a bad person, because being stronger than someone means you are so worthless as to have your safety take less priority than theirs, even though you're the innocent bystander and they're the aggressor.
And there's the false dilemma I responded to.
A) You've constructed another argument out of thin air, attributed it to a phantom "you", and torn it down.
B) You've created an utterly fantastical scenario in which women have "free license" to hurt "people", and strong men are "worthless" and "bad people"
C) You topped it off by extending the parameters of the situation. The man is now an innocent bystander, the woman is an aggressor without cause. None of that was in the OP, you layered that in for the purposes of making your position more emotionally appealing.
The victim of assault is not the one who should bear the greater burden to prevent harm, regardless of who their attacker is.
Not greater. Identical. You have the same social responsibility to prevent harm as anyone, including your assailant. Being punched, especially by someone smaller or weaker than you, is not a license to cut loose.
Panthera said:
Perhaps you could explain what you actually think I should do if a woman attacks me, beyond "don't hit". Maybe if I know what option I have that you find acceptable that is also effective at keeping me safe, I can figure out where you're coming from.
Ideally? Retreat or restrain. Just about anything but the "punching with real violence" discussed in the OP. We've already established you think walking away from a woman who took a poke at you is MADNESS.
There you go. There's your explanation. My statement about being done discussing your illusory translation of my position remains. I wrote this for the purposes of clarification, which you requested.