Alcoholic parent

[ma55ter_fett]

I would NOT confront him if I were in your shoes. Because of the behavior you have described (mainly the stalking and turning up on your doorstep) I am inclined to beleive that it would not turn out well, I think he would either get violent or make threats of violence.

Discuss your feelings with your mother and sister, if you are truely concerned about his behavior then chances are they are as well.

Personally...

I would sugest haveing a restraining order placed on him, given his behavior the three of you should be able to agree to that course of action.

Thanks, threats of suicide would be more likely though he's done that before. I'll take that advice and have a look around.

Anytime, I hope it all works out to your satisfaction.

 

[JRShield]

I'm no expert on this matter, so I would suggest you seek advise from someone who is.

But if I where in your shoes, and loved my father despite of his shortcomings, tell him you don't want him to die. Cause if he goes on drinking like this, it won't end up great.

 

[SantoUno]

If your father is anything like mine, all I can suggest is to not treat him the way he wants to be treated. I would show how much I hate him for drinking, and maybe he will stop.

Sorry, but to be honest I never solved this problem, with my father it's unsolvable, so all I do is resent him, show him that he is dead to me for being like that.

Best you not listen to me.

 

[gim73]

Ignore the problem and it should go away.

 

[headshotcatcher]

My aunt died.
My mom started drinking.
Mom has drinking problems.
Got drunk every night.
Parents Divorced.
Mom drank herself to death.
Moms dead.

that about sums it up.

Right and the Thread Starter's benefit from this post is?

Sorry, but your situation might be bad, but youre not really doing anything useful by posting that here..

 

[AkJay]

My aunt died.
My mom started drinking.
Mom has drinking problems.
Got drunk every night.
Parents Divorced.
Mom drank herself to death.
Moms dead.

that about sums it up.

Right and the Thread Starter's benefit from this post is?

Sorry, but your situation might be bad, but youre not really doing anything useful by posting that here..

You making a counter-post to my post wasn't useful as well, so I guess you have no right to talk, eh?
I saw the thread title "Alcoholic Parent", so i shared my story.
My best advice to you OP is to give them a "No or Go" option: If they don't say No, then they have to Go.

 

[funguy2121]

Few things can grab an addict's attention and wrench him to his senses faster than the disappointment in his/her child's eyes. You are the perfect person to confront him, perhaps even more so than your mother.

Dealing with it when it's his problem is also a very good defense against becoming an alcoholic later in life, so show ya balls, man.