Ok Escapists of the world, am I being petty about this?
As a bit of background, my step father and I do not get along. At all. He is just a generally unkind man toward me and I typically try to keep my distance, as does he. It is well established that he and my mother have drastically different experiences in child raising. He has two children who are high-school dropouts, one of whom just had a baby with a teenage ex girlfriend. My step-father does not have a high view of teenagers and the choices they make, which makes sense given his experiences.
So today I'm at his and my mother's home to use their laundry room. I was also watching an Extra Life stream for my favorite Lets Player, who had a facecam on. As I walk away from the computer to get a drink, my stepfather walks by and looks at the screen. He then turns to me and says "what are you doing?" I told him I was watching a videogame commentator. He then asks if the LPer could see his viewers through their webcams too. I said no, the facecam is just for us to see him. He then physically blocked me from the computer and told me "Good. I would have had a serious problem otherwise. You don't want to know what your punishment will be if I find out you're letting guys on the internet see your face. You will not turn on our webcam for any reason" and walks away.
I admit, this comment and the authoritative tone it was spoken in really pissed me off.
Like I said, I understand that he has had issues with teens making stupid decisions, but that's not me. I'm 22. I'm a straight A student and am graduating college this year. I am a pre-law student and am preparing to study abroad in Japan before I go to law school. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination and have more faults than not, but I like to believe that I have a good head on my shoulders. My mother has also always made it clear to my stepfather that she trusts my judgment and wants me to make my own decisions.
So this reaction to me possibly talking to a man on the internet pisses me off. The facecam could be of a friend or a classmate for all my stepfather knows. And even if it's not, I am a grown woman and I have the sense of judgment to be able to make reasonably good decisions. To speak to me like a child and threaten to punish me without any clue of what is going on doesn't seem reasonable to me.
Am I justified in being angry about this? Or am I taking things too personally?
As a bit of background, my step father and I do not get along. At all. He is just a generally unkind man toward me and I typically try to keep my distance, as does he. It is well established that he and my mother have drastically different experiences in child raising. He has two children who are high-school dropouts, one of whom just had a baby with a teenage ex girlfriend. My step-father does not have a high view of teenagers and the choices they make, which makes sense given his experiences.
So today I'm at his and my mother's home to use their laundry room. I was also watching an Extra Life stream for my favorite Lets Player, who had a facecam on. As I walk away from the computer to get a drink, my stepfather walks by and looks at the screen. He then turns to me and says "what are you doing?" I told him I was watching a videogame commentator. He then asks if the LPer could see his viewers through their webcams too. I said no, the facecam is just for us to see him. He then physically blocked me from the computer and told me "Good. I would have had a serious problem otherwise. You don't want to know what your punishment will be if I find out you're letting guys on the internet see your face. You will not turn on our webcam for any reason" and walks away.
I admit, this comment and the authoritative tone it was spoken in really pissed me off.
Like I said, I understand that he has had issues with teens making stupid decisions, but that's not me. I'm 22. I'm a straight A student and am graduating college this year. I am a pre-law student and am preparing to study abroad in Japan before I go to law school. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination and have more faults than not, but I like to believe that I have a good head on my shoulders. My mother has also always made it clear to my stepfather that she trusts my judgment and wants me to make my own decisions.
So this reaction to me possibly talking to a man on the internet pisses me off. The facecam could be of a friend or a classmate for all my stepfather knows. And even if it's not, I am a grown woman and I have the sense of judgment to be able to make reasonably good decisions. To speak to me like a child and threaten to punish me without any clue of what is going on doesn't seem reasonable to me.
Am I justified in being angry about this? Or am I taking things too personally?
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