Am I wrong in this situation?

[JWRosser]

Basically one of my housemate's boyfriend is pretty much always here. For starters, they seem to be one of those annoying couples who have to see eachother all the bloody time.

He's a friend of mine, but it's starting to piss me off.
He essentially lives here, but he doesn't pay towards rent or bills or anything. He only lives ten minutes down the road. Furthermore, it's little things that piss me off too - like when he refers to the house as "our" house, or asks if "we" have any crisps. Am I wrong to get annoyed? Unless they're just keeping it quiet, my other housemates seem to be fine with it.

Additionally, her dad stays every now and then due to work. It's not a big problem, but in the end it all adds up. Her sister also stays quite frequently. Do you reckon I'm in the wrong or should I say something to her?

 

[Ralphfromdk]

You should just murder them all in their sleep and get new house mates. If that doesn't work, rinse and repeat.


........ What?
Oh come on, you all know that you were thinking the same thing.

 

[Dracowrath]

Deliver an ultimatum. Start sharing the rent or find another damn house.

 

[PleaseDele]

Try your best to get your roommate in a private conversation and bring it up. Just ask for some consideration. After all you haven't been a dick right? Least you could ask for is some consideration.

 

[CityofTreez]

Kick them out and find new mates?

 

[farscythe]

if they're over all the time and eats your food n what not it might be an idea to make them at least pay towards it..

might want to talk it over with your mate before talking to his gf tho (have noticed things tend to get ugly if the gf doesn't like whatever you say n tells her story to your mate)

 

[kuyo]

Someone's gotta move. Him, Her, You. Either that or make it even by way of theft.

 

[Delsana]

Basically one of my housemate's boyfriend is pretty much always here. For starters, they seem to be one of those annoying couples who have to see eachother all the bloody time.

He's a friend of mine, but it's starting to piss me off.
He essentially lives here, but he doesn't pay towards rent or bills or anything. He only lives ten minutes down the road. Furthermore, it's little things that piss me off too - like when he refers to the house as "our" house, or asks if "we" have any crisps. Am I wrong to get annoyed? Unless they're just keeping it quiet, my other housemates seem to be fine with it.

Additionally, her dad stays every now and then due to work. It's not a big problem, but in the end it all adds up. Her sister also stays quite frequently. Do you reckon I'm in the wrong or should I say something to her?

You refer to them as "housemates" not "friends" so how many people are staying at your open-house?

 

[tacotrainwreck]

You are not wrong at all. In fact, it sounds like an entire family is sponging off of you.

 

[Kekkles]

I've been there, when money is tight and every little spend is a pain in the arse, especially when someone's not pulling their share.

I stayed at my girlfriend's for a few months and I did pay my keep, bills, electricity, food, etc. Her housemate had friends around all the time, making a mess and stealing food. They were cunts basically. Which pissed me off as I had been paying for the stuff they had taken when I apparently didn't have to. Also she had another room mate where her boyfriend invited himself to stay around from before I was there and longer. He never payed anything, he always had LONG showers and had his laptop, radio and all his consoles on at once constantly. He was rude and arrogant and to top it off he kept asking when I was leaving. Eventually I was furious, my girlfriend was furious, and I nearly smashed the guy's head in. Instead we moved out.

It could've been worse but we just decided to take our stuff and go. They all left and went back to live at home with their parents after a couple of weeks so it just shows that we were obviously paying the most out of the group.

The best thing to do is say something before it goes out of control, your roommate probably doesn't realise what she's done/doing. It's the only way you'll be able to carry on living there.

 

[Radoh]

If I'm understanding this correctly, you are saying that you haven't said anything yet, but you are wondering if you are in the wrong for feeling annoyed? If this is the case and I read that right, then no, you are not wrong. Talk to them about it and see if you can't work out some kind of deal, just remember that there is more than one solution to any given problem so if one idea gets shot down there's always another way.

 

[Quijiboh]

I'd say before you go delivering ultimatums or whatever, just talk to her about it and say what you think. See what she says, and then decide how to react.