An irritating start to my tuesday.

[Cazza]

I stopped talking to a friend about a year ago because I was doing all the work. I would start the talking & asking to hangout. They blocked ideas I suggested. I just decided I must of not been an important friend. I was right they haven't contacted me in that time.

I have a bit of a problem with one of my closer friends in the reverse situation. To me they are a very good friend but they are always busy. Whenever I call up they are working that day or doing something with differnt friends. I gave up calling them. So I let them contact me when they want to hang out. Its about everyone 2-3weeks. I feel so bad about how they always do the work.

Though with the closer friend we didn't talk for about a year when we in highschool (yr12) we went to differnt schools. We were just so busy. After that I rang them up and we started hanging out like nothing had happened. A mark of a true friend.

If your friend can't accept that they didn't try as much as you. It's time to move on.

 

[RatRace123]

Nah, I'm very rightest. I like my right shoe more than my left, the same can't be said for gloves though.

And in relation to your real question. I've never had that happen to me, while I'm sure that I lost friendly acquaintances since I dropped out of contact with them after school, I still do keep contact with my close friends, and no matter how long we go without talking we always jump back into it.

 

[AnarchistFish]

Your situation was pretty much the same that I had for a while. In the end, I just couldn't be bothered anymore, and stopped trying. It's strangely liberating actually.

 

[Yopaz]

I stay in touch with those friends I care about, even though we can't usually get together more than twice a year or with some luck 3 times. Outside of that we don't communicate that much. I'm not that close to anyone outside that circle of old high school friends except for my university friends which I meet all the time.

Also your problem is that you expect that your friend is aware that you're not contacting her because there's nothing to tell her. A healthy friendship requires some upkeep and if you just suddenly drop out she is likely to think that you ignore her for some reason. If she's insecure and not sure if she's done anything wrong she wont want to contact you because that would make things awkward if you really are ignoring her. In any case taking up a friendship that is about to drop requires more than a simple text message. If you had called her and told her you'd just realized that it's been ages since you talked things could have turned out differently.

 

[SonOfVoorhees]

I hate it when some one txts "Hey whats up?" You tell me, you were the one that txted, atleast mention something about your day or how your feeling or something. Also why, after 5 minutes, did you start wondering if they are ignoring you? Thats kinda needy if you think that after only 5 minutes of her not replying and you cant see why she would be annoyed at no contact for 3 months?

People are strange. If you want to communicate there is email etc If you want to remain in contact it doesnt take much, a short email. Maybe she sees your friendship as meaning alot more than you do. But then there could be other stuff we dont know about.

 

[Autumnflame]

ive got friends i may not see for months at a time but we are still the best of friends.

people that just want you to do all the effort aren't worth your time

 

[Artemicion]

If I don't talk to someone after an extended duration, we're usually done being friends. Though if we catch up it's all cool. I like long distance relationships. They're easier.

 

[Appleshampoo]

I lose touch with people all the time.

Mostly because I have nothing to say.
I've spoken to people I haven't said a word to in years over teh inturwebz and I've never gotten that kind of reaction, though. Usually they're a lot more friendly.

Same here.

I can go years without talking to someone and just be like 'Hey, whats up?' and we carry on like we last spoke a few days ago. Never have I gotten anyone go WAT DA FUK?!

But I don't really talk to people much as I just don't know what to say. I get bored of the 'Hey, how are you? What you been up to? *Silence*' style conversations that happen all the time.