What with most of the site now positively inundated with internal drama, I thought I'd spice things up with some external drama as well. Yes, it's time again for a thread about relationship advice (dun dun dunnnnn).
A few disclaimers first: yes, I know, every thread about relationships exists in the archives, and I could probably find a fairly analogous situation somewhere in there, so please don't say "oh, god, not another relationship thread, there have been hundreds of them, ect." I'm a human being (I think) and would like to have other human beings respond to my issue directly, rather than trying to find a similar fact pattern in the past, so please be so kind as to bugger off if your entire contribution is going to be "grr, this sounds like a problem some other bloke had a while ago."
So, with that in mind, here goes:
I'm a senior in college, about to graduate and take a year off before law school, I'm 20-years-old. As of this moment, I've not found many people at my university with whom I'd want to spend much time. The vast majority of them are hooting dickholes who get drunk with alarming frequency, and who couldn't carry a conversation about anything except sex and sports in a bucket (they wouldn't be able to carry the conversation in a bucket, not that they have sex and sports in buckets).
I'm a Political Science & Public Policy major, so I actually get enough "people saying whatever philosophy they have without any evidence to back it up" in class that I have no interest in it out of class. So, needless to say, my romantic prospects have been thin (except for the times I decided I just wanted a relationship/sex, and lowered my standards drastically).
And thus we come to the Girl. She's smart (a first-year junior, which means she came in a year ahead of where I had), funny, thoughtful, and intriguingly sarcastic and judgmental. She doesn't drink, or party, and despises the people who do. We ended up having a nice conversation for the better part of an hour on Wednesday regarding our comparative experiences in the dorms (where I lived Freshman year, and where she lives now). Ignoring the rocking-the-cradle aspect of it, I decided to call her the next day (Thursday) regarding getting together Saturday (earlier today). I left a message, to which she has yet to respond.
So, here's the question: when do I try back (if I do)? Do I try back tomorrow, hoping for something in the coming week? Do I try back in the middle of next week, for next weekend, or do I blow it off and say "the rude little prat", before focusing myself on work?
The irony, of course, is that if I weren't romantically interested in her, I wouldn't care about calling her back. I'd have done it today, since I don't mind coming off as creepy and desperate with my friends.
A few disclaimers first: yes, I know, every thread about relationships exists in the archives, and I could probably find a fairly analogous situation somewhere in there, so please don't say "oh, god, not another relationship thread, there have been hundreds of them, ect." I'm a human being (I think) and would like to have other human beings respond to my issue directly, rather than trying to find a similar fact pattern in the past, so please be so kind as to bugger off if your entire contribution is going to be "grr, this sounds like a problem some other bloke had a while ago."
So, with that in mind, here goes:
I'm a senior in college, about to graduate and take a year off before law school, I'm 20-years-old. As of this moment, I've not found many people at my university with whom I'd want to spend much time. The vast majority of them are hooting dickholes who get drunk with alarming frequency, and who couldn't carry a conversation about anything except sex and sports in a bucket (they wouldn't be able to carry the conversation in a bucket, not that they have sex and sports in buckets).
I'm a Political Science & Public Policy major, so I actually get enough "people saying whatever philosophy they have without any evidence to back it up" in class that I have no interest in it out of class. So, needless to say, my romantic prospects have been thin (except for the times I decided I just wanted a relationship/sex, and lowered my standards drastically).
And thus we come to the Girl. She's smart (a first-year junior, which means she came in a year ahead of where I had), funny, thoughtful, and intriguingly sarcastic and judgmental. She doesn't drink, or party, and despises the people who do. We ended up having a nice conversation for the better part of an hour on Wednesday regarding our comparative experiences in the dorms (where I lived Freshman year, and where she lives now). Ignoring the rocking-the-cradle aspect of it, I decided to call her the next day (Thursday) regarding getting together Saturday (earlier today). I left a message, to which she has yet to respond.
So, here's the question: when do I try back (if I do)? Do I try back tomorrow, hoping for something in the coming week? Do I try back in the middle of next week, for next weekend, or do I blow it off and say "the rude little prat", before focusing myself on work?
The irony, of course, is that if I weren't romantically interested in her, I wouldn't care about calling her back. I'd have done it today, since I don't mind coming off as creepy and desperate with my friends.
