Another Escapist break-up thread

[Baron von Blitztank]

I'm aware you guys will already be up to your eyeballs in threads like this, but I really feel the need to get this off my chest and see what words of wisdom my favourite web community can bring for me.

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So my first girlfriend and I have just broke up. It wasn't a bad break-up by any means. It was a mutual agreement and we're still going to remain good friends, but we've finally decided that things simply just wouldn't work out between us. We finally realised that despite a good few years spent together, we simply had nothing in common with eachother. We're two completely different people with no similar interests, so this meant that we could barely have a decent conversation about anything because neither of us were interested in what the other was talking about. While we thought we could simply just pretend we were, we both knew it would've been a lie so we had to break things up before things got worse.

So, needless to say, I feel like absolute crap at the moment. About the only things I've done in the past few hours is cry, fall asleep, wake-up and cry again. It's taking a lot just to get this out in some way that's presentable.

So... any advice? I'm really not sure what to ask here... I just felt that getting this out in the open would help things.

Any ideas on what I could do to help feel better?
Any tips on how to move on?

 

[Itdoesthatsometimes]

I am sorry to hear that you feel bad. From what it sounds like you had a very responsible break up. Maturity is a good thing, even if it means balling your eyes out for a while. I would recommend just accepting that your eyes are going to leak today. And tomorrow call up a friend or two, let them know you could use their help. Don't try to move on, let yourself breathe.

 

[Lilani]

I had the same sort of breakup with my first boyfriend a few years ago. Based on that experience, I'm afraid I can't recommend much that will really make you feel better beyond just giving it some time. Cry yourself out, feel whatever it is you need to feel right now. It'll take time to find a new pattern of days, but don't just stop doing things. The sooner you re-learn how to be by yourself the sooner it will be behind you. And don't do anything crazy either, the idea isn't to try and fill your life with something bigger or "better" than her. Just how to have normal days without her.