Another girl advice thread...

[Simmons 2.0]

So, you've probably come across hundreds of threads like this so just bear with me

I'm studying Animation in college (I'm 20) and there's a girl on the course who I've become very close friends with. I'm now at that point where I like her and I want to tell her my feelings but I don't want to ruin/spoil the relationship we already have. By that I mean, I don't want her to turn me down and what we already have gets destroyed. This has happened to me many times before and I'm sure to many others.

The problem I have is that I have never been in a situation like this where I'm already very close friends with someone. Before its always been a case of just asking someone out.

Backstory: I started the course in september this year. Then, we only really exchanged a few words. In the past month, we've gotten to know each other more, and in the past few weeks its been a case of use sitting next to each other all the time, hugging and holding hands and worrying about each other (supporting each other) etc. Basically, if you saw us you'd think we were in the early stages of dating. However, thats the problem. We're not. And I want to be. The only thing is that I don't know if she likes me or is just being really friendly.

I'm doubtful becase she's been in the college for a number of years here, I'm the new guy. Also, because we're already close she's shared alot of stuff with me, like family problems and past exs, and friend issues so I don't want to give her more to worry about. I know I'm being a bit reserved here, but I'm just trying to be delicate. My luck hasn't been so good these past few months so I don't want to run in guns blazing.

So yeah, sorry if this sounds disjointed, but the overall story is, we are already quite close, we talk to each other all day on the phone, mostly by texts, the odd phone call, even when we have college days, we spend most of our college time together working etc and helping each other out. And we are always hugging or sleeping/resting on each other etc you get the idea. Lots of touchy touchy in class.

But I need to know if she likes me -_-

any advice, even if its just telling me to get my ass in gear, please, tell me

thanks if you take the time to read this, i appreciate any advice, personnal hints etc etc

EDIT: i gave her one of my t-shirts i have, cause i had two of them. she's just sent me a text saying she fell asleep in it last night 0_0 is this something to worry about or just a massive signal to me?

 

[Robert632]

Y'know, I'm pretty sure she likes you. based on that edit you made alone. Looking at the other parts of your post, I'm certain she likes you. I'd just go for it.

 

[])rStrangelove]

If she told you so personal things about her and was holding your hand already, she really wants to be with you. Being a girl, she's waiting for you as a man to go forth and take the 1st step / say what you want.

Just say it.

 

[Combustion Kevin]

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)rStrangelove]If she told you so personal things about her and was holding your hand already, she really wants to be with you. Being a girl, she's waiting for you as a man to go forth and take the 1st step / say what you want.

Just say it.

this, basicly, no point in beating around the bush, really.

 

[Vegosiux]

I'm now at that point where I like her and I want to tell her my feelings but I don't want to ruin/spoil the relationship we already have.

If that relationship gets "spoiled" by you being honest, then it was a lie in the first place.

You have nothing to lose.

 

[])rStrangelove]

You have nothing to lose.

Right. Basically this:

 

[SweetNess_666]

Go for it it really sounds like she does like you n you guys do sound very cute already so stop beating around the bush and go for it ))

 

[artanis_neravar]

EDIT: i gave her one of my t-shirts i have, cause i had two of them. she's just sent me a text saying she fell asleep in it last night 0_0 is this something to worry about or just a massive signal to me?

Yes this is a massive signal, ask her out.

Disclaimer: I am in no way an expert and everything I say is just an opinion created through the use of the facts given. Any fact that may have been left out could greatly change my opinion and advice.

 

[Galletea]

Yes I have seen a lot of threads, just like this one and my answer is almost always the same:

Ask her out, but be casual about it. Don't blurt out your feelings as that will probably scare her off, but ask her out to dinner. If that goes well, ask if she wants to do it again sometime, and go from there. The t-shirt thing looks like a signal to me, but she could just be a bit weird.