Anyone else feel like this?

[Blow_Pop]

I'm sorry I'm still stuck on the how your girlfriend can take that to mean fuck off and die......that boggles my mind and I know some very religious people and they don't take a phrase like that as meaning that.


otherwise look at it this way you have a girlfriend who feels you are deserving enough of her time. You presumably have friends who feel you are deserving of your time. You have good grades. Don't worry too much about everything else. Be grateful that you have the life you have. I'm still trying to fix mine after fucking it up so terribly.....

 

[6unn3r]

Go find a razor, shave your face, go round to girlfriends house, say "i love you and im sorry", rock her world (optional), go down to driving licence place and complain to the manager not some desk jockey who will fob you off, lastly;

MAN THE FUCK UP!!!!!

Life is hard and it gets no better the older you get. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, put on some happy music and dress up smart in a suit or somthing to make you look and feel AWESOME.

This applies to everyone.

Do it.

 

[SckizoBoy]

I do want her to do things for me. She's struggling with her own stuff too. The fight started over me pointing out (in kind of a bad way) that she wasn't focusing on me hardly at all. I tried to make it sound unselfish... But how do you do that?

I love her to death, man... And I don't want to lose her because I'm being a jerk.

That's probably it... If I read it right, she's got a lot on her mind as well, and is probably being rather irritable. But seeing as how you guys patched it up, she felt bad about the fight as well. Why do I get the feeling you've got someone there who is more similar to you than you realise? Still, that aside, you've been together for a very long time (hell, I've got eight years on you, and my longest relationship was six years, and for someone of my age, that's a very long relationship), so that you guys didn't randomly break up as a result of that argument is indicative of being made of rather stern stuff.

So no, you're not being a jerk, and I think the two of you are at the stage that you'll really know when you are being the jerk of the couple. Having said that, she has done something quite big for you, as you said, she motivated you when you needed it and look at yourself now. If she is indeed struggling with her own stuff, helping her along (even if it is moral support, because that never goes amiss from your partner) will help her help you... if you get what I mean.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

There might be irony here, involving the issue my girlfriend and I had. If there is, I'll let other people point it out.

I'm complaining about feeling like I don't deserve my successes. In short, I feel like I should have a life like you had/have... But I don't.

Do you not get what I'm trying to say? You have a wonderful life, and how about instead of whining about it you apologize to your girlfriend.

Yeah... I did. Three times.

I even wrote a song for her. I'm going to videotape me and my band performing in halloween if we get together, since we're already planning something, and send it to her...

I'm sorry I'm still stuck on the how your girlfriend can take that to mean fuck off and die......that boggles my mind and I know some very religious people and they don't take a phrase like that as meaning that.


otherwise look at it this way you have a girlfriend who feels you are deserving enough of her time. You presumably have friends who feel you are deserving of your time. You have good grades. Don't worry too much about everything else. Be grateful that you have the life you have. I'm still trying to fix mine after fucking it up so terribly.....

Okay, April and everyone who has responded, let me take time to say... Thank you.

If you all need any advice, I'll try to help. I appreciate you trying to help.

I still haven't figured this out, and any words I can get will help.

I don't know what to do, I guess.

 

[Valagetti]

This is what we call adulthood. The crushing fact that screwing up can go downhill fast and your girlfriend can tolerate your self-destructive behaviour and people give a shit about you. I don't really have people who actually care about me, consider yourself somewhat lucky.

 

[Greni]

Typical western society's middle class "life isn't going exactly like I want it to I'm depressed now" type of 'problem'. Go to the war infested Middle East, the hunger ridden African territories or just any place of real troubles. You will feel like you've won the fucking lottery every day for the rest of your life afterwards.

Sorry if that came out too harsh but it's not just you. This shit is everywhere. Spoiled brats of all ages watching celebrities living their TV lives to make sure you go out and buy the stuff they put on the market so you can feel closer to the lifestyle that was chosen for you to mimic.

Also, if your gf gets so worked up about a little swearing during a heated moment she's maybe not ready for a serious relationship. Though I'm no marriage counselor.

 

[Chubbadubs]

I do that, mostly. Only thing is sometimes life gets to me. I try really hard not to let it. One thing about me is when I break down, I don't to a half-ass job of it. I go all the way with emotions. That means I love and hate with all my heart and when I'm down, it's always to this extreme level.

(Emphasis mine)

I hope I don't offend you or anything, but it sounds a little bit like you might be bi-polar. If you always go from feeling "on top of the world" so to speak, to being really depressed; there's a chance that it might be something you should seek help for. Apologies if I misinterpreted what you were saying. I am just snap judging you over the internet after all. Regardless I can relate to what you're saying. I was just diagnosed with depression and exhibited some of the behaviours/feelings you described. When it was at it's worst I stopped taking care of myself because I found it very hard to care.

Hopefully this was helpful to you in some way. Best of luck to you

 

[Kpt._Rob]

Yeah, I used to feel like that when I was a kid, I think most of us probably did. But as I got older and actually started working for things, I felt that kind of dissipate.

If you want to overcome that feeling, there's one easy thing to do. Stop moping around and start working so that you'll feel like you deserve it. It doesn't really even matter what it is you're working at, just put yourself into something, don't look back, and accept the good things as the rewards you reap.

 

[AquaAscension]

(This could turn into a bit of a whiny rant. Apologies if it does)
Okay, so I've got a good life right now, overall. It seems that way, anyway.

Grades are good, all A's, in AP Courses that'll give me college credit.

I have a band now, and something planned for Halloween.

My girlfriend's talking to me and is overall wonderful.

Parents are being cool for once, and I'm making friends everywhere.

Now comes the complaints.

I *still* haven't gotten my driver's license due to a paperwork screw-up.

(The big one...) My girlfriend and I had a relatively massive fight yesterday night, and I cursed (Okay, I said "You're damn right", but she considers that akin to me telling her to "fuck off and die"), and she went off on me this morning. We're still together, and have turned our relationship back into good territory after I made it into a temporary disasterpiece. But I still feel really really bad about it. I don't want to lose her, and she doesn't want to lose me (I don't think), so I can't complain... But I do feel like a jerk. (*takes a breath*)

While I have a lot to feel good about, I feel like I don't quite deserve it. Mostly in relation to my girlfriend. She's so good to me, but I end up making mistakes... and she loves me despite that.

Basically, what I feel like right now is... Depressed. I haven't slept all month alone (I've taken sleep aids to help me, and even then, sleeping is a struggle. I've had fairly common nightmares as well.) I haven't shaved in three weeks, and I look horrible.

I got all this stuff that I should feel great about, but I don't. I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and never come out, like someone else should have my good things.

/rant

So... I guess my question is... Have any of you felt like this? And have you gotten over it? If so, how?

Yep. That's the short answer. I was having a conversation with someone, and I feel like the line I came up with is germane to this thread: "I have a habit of making my mistakes into nooses rather than twisting the fibers of my pained heart into rope sturdy enough to scale, climb, see and learn something new." The only way you don't deserve what you have is if you believe you don't. Take some time, write a bit, shave, do something that makes you feel good, and try to forget about what you deserve or don't deserve.

If you focus too much on what you do and don't deserve, you'll miss everything that you have.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

I do that, mostly. Only thing is sometimes life gets to me. I try really hard not to let it. One thing about me is when I break down, I don't to a half-ass job of it. I go all the way with emotions. That means I love and hate with all my heart and when I'm down, it's always to this extreme level.

(Emphasis mine)

I hope I don't offend you or anything, but it sounds a little bit like you might be bi-polar. If you always go from feeling "on top of the world" so to speak, to being really depressed; there's a chance that it might be something you should seek help for. Apologies if I misinterpreted what you were saying. I am just snap judging you over the internet after all. Regardless I can relate to what you're saying. I was just diagnosed with depression and exhibited some of the behaviours/feelings you described. When it was at it's worst I stopped taking care of myself because I found it very hard to care.

Hopefully this was helpful to you in some way. Best of luck to you

Aye. Thanks, mate. It's been a gradual decline lately, culminating with a massive explosion.

If you focus too much on what you do and don't deserve, you'll miss everything that you have.

Cliche'd. But true.

 

[Evidencebased]

Why yes I did feel that why, but I knew something was wrong, because you see I have a history of depression, and so does my family.

Now you describe having insomnia, which you self medicated yourself for, and you aren't taking care of yourself.

I recommend you go see a doctor.

Just always remember to tell the voices to fuck off and get back in your cereal.

-sippity snip snip-

This is the part where I input my thought process on why more and more teenagers are getting diagnosed with depression.

1)Somewhere down the line have a mental condition became either trendy, or a reason for someone to act like a complete piece of shit

2)We as a human race are becoming less and less physical. It is a well documented fact that physical activity helps keeps the sads away.

3)Each year that passes just seems to get worse and worse as a whole, and because of the connectivity that we have created with ourselves news travels around the globe in a matter of seconds to every outlet. We are constantly being bombarded with negativity 24/7/365.

Just my thoughts.

...Also probably stuff like "improved recognition of and diagnostic criteria for depression" but yeah, sitting on our collective asses and reading about miserable crap all day doesn't do anyone any favors either.

Though I will say that, when I was untreated and depressed, I wasn't unhappy because my life sucked in any way. My life was (and is) quite good. But I was mysteriously feeling crappy anyways, so I was unintentionally looking for reasons to "justify" feeling depressed -- when nothing went badly for me I'd have crying jags over very small problems, or over the problems of complete strangers, or over the fact that I was obviously a selfish asshole who should cry over the fact that I was crying over nothing. Etc. So the fact that the OP says "nothing bad has happened, but I feel terrible" reminds me a lot of how I felt before being properly diagnosed... When your cat dies and you fail classes it's normal to be depressed; when your girlfriend loves you and life is good and that depresses you then maybe it's time to see a professional.

 

[krazykidd]

Go find a razor, shave your face, go round to girlfriends house, say "i love you and im sorry", rock her world (optional), go down to driving licence place and complain to the manager not some desk jockey who will fob you off, lastly;

MAN THE FUCK UP!!!!!

Life is hard and it gets no better the older you get. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, put on some happy music and dress up smart in a suit or somthing to make you look and feel AWESOME.

This applies to everyone.

Do it.

This omg this . I couldn't word it better , hell i bet half the people on this site would trade lives with OP in an instant, i know i would .

OT: man up , hold life by the balls and tell it to fuck itself , it's not as bad as it feels.

 

[Kurea]

Wanna trade? I'd be glad to have a life like that.
Seriously, seems to me you've got it relatively well off. Perhaps a little soul-searching and perspective-seeking might help you to realize where you're at. I'd also recommend shaving, getting yourself cleaned up, maybe going out with some mates, buy some new clothes, do something unusual for you, something weird. Your girlfriend may be important to you, but remember that she isn't you, just a facet of your life. There is no "cosmic accountant" out there to decide who deserves what, so rather than feel unworthy, you might as well make the most of it. Live an incredible life, that others might realize they can do the same.

I'm sounding like a self-help book now, so I'll stop.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

I do want her to do things for me. She's struggling with her own stuff too. The fight started over me pointing out (in kind of a bad way) that she wasn't focusing on me hardly at all. I tried to make it sound unselfish... But how do you do that?

I love her to death, man... And I don't want to lose her because I'm being a jerk.

That's probably it... If I read it right, she's got a lot on her mind as well, and is probably being rather irritable. But seeing as how you guys patched it up, she felt bad about the fight as well. Why do I get the feeling you've got someone there who is more similar to you than you realise? Still, that aside, you've been together for a very long time (hell, I've got eight years on you, and my longest relationship was six years, and for someone of my age, that's a very long relationship), so that you guys didn't randomly break up as a result of that argument is indicative of being made of rather stern stuff.

So no, you're not being a jerk, and I think the two of you are at the stage that you'll really know when you are being the jerk of the couple. Having said that, she has done something quite big for you, as you said, she motivated you when you needed it and look at yourself now. If she is indeed struggling with her own stuff, helping her along (even if it is moral support, because that never goes amiss from your partner) will help her help you... if you get what I mean.

Wow. That's... Thank you, brother. For a random fellow on the internet, you've summarized my relationship and provided a hell of a lot of insight about what's going on.

Side note: I don't understand why people want to trade lives with me. It probably sounds like I've got everything figured out, but I really don't. If it seems like I do, it's because of my girl. I'm a high school senior who lives in Ass End Of Nowhere, Illinois. It's not worth it, guys. Trust me. XD

 

[Riccan]

snip

I am in a similar position in acedemics. I am also able to talk to anyone and am generally liked by a decent amount of people. People ask me for advice and come to me for a good laugh when they're down. I have several ambitious ideas for the future and am slowly bettering myself as a person.

I have beaten the ever-loving shit out of myself to get here. I have had to rip doubt and fear out of mind and have tried to destroy whatever sadness and hate that may arise within me.

Everytime I feel like life is too much, I try to rationalize. If that doesn't work, I look in the mirror and try to think of goodness and hope. When that doesn't work, I literally punch myself in the cheek as hard as I can. Why? It knocks me out of whatever cloud has enshrouded my mind. I regain my composure. I make myself better everytime. Suffering forces us to make decisions that can change who we are.

You view yourself as undeserving of what you have. Tell me, have you really suffered enough to feel that? Maybe, purely suggestion, you need to find some time (atleast an hour), sit in ure silence (or the closest to) and think. Think about how you got here. Think about how others view you. Think about how you view yourself. Find what about you that you despise, that you hate, and tear it out. It may be immidiate or it may take time, but it will help; even if it sucks at first.

I don't know if that makes any sense, but it is late here and I am tired. Best of luck to you and solving your problems.

 

[omega 616]

I said "You're damn right", but she considers that akin to me telling her to "fuck off and die"

Please be a hyperbole ...?

I am 22, I have never had a long term job, never had a girlfriend, no social life, live alone, haven't seen my mum in about month, haven't seen my brother in about 3 weeks, haven't seen my nan in months 3 and the rest of the family don't speak to us (me, my bro and my mum) ... feel better?

I am not saying I have a bad life, I have a good gaming PC, a PS3 and loads of DVD's etc etc etc. What I am saying is get some perspective and man up.

Being all whiny and "woe is me" is just going to piss people off, especially those who actually do have it rough.

Why, yes, I am a fan of tough love! How did you guess?