Have you ever had someone give you a handshake and you think "What a weak handshake"? That's not firm enough. Firm but not too firm is saying that it should be firm without crushing or squeezing their hand in an uncomfortable way. Think of clothing. You don't want it to be three sizes too big, but you don't want it to be too small/tight either.lunncal said:I find them awkward because of the interview advice I've been given about 10 times at various points throughout high-school and college. I always wonder if my handshake is too firm, or not firm enough, or lasts too long, or not long enough, etc, etc. It makes me think anyone who shakes my hand is silently analysing it and judging me.
(By the way, what the hell is "Firm but not too firm", exactly? You can't get any more vague than that.)
I really like handshakes, but so few people give good handshakes. It's like they go "A handshake!? Not a handshake!" and in their terror the only thing they are capable of is putting their hand out like a soggy piece of bread for me to shake.