To be perfectly honest, what's missing in this forum in general, what's lacking in the human beings here, is any sense of forgiveness. There's a lot of brutality, especially toward people who the self-righteous here feel have done something wrong. There's a lot of cold callousness which I believe the (largely) young males that make up this forum confuse for masculinity, but forgiveness is not to be found.
This lack of forgiveness toward oneself and others not only leads to a lot of ugly posts on The Escapist where the poster believes he is being "strong and assertive" (and noone can call him out on it since they are doing the same thing) but can lead to Nice Guy syndrome, where instead of forgiveness being used as a way to ease social relations with oneself and with women the Nice Guy takes a besieged mentality where his niceness is both the core of his being and the root of his problems.
Nice Guys and forum posters share an inability to admit their own ignorance and limitations, preferring to make statements that fit with the tribal creed (which Nice Guys can't fully do, since they believe that humans are fundamentally bad which their Niceness is solving, and therefore the only tribe they belong to is Nice Guy) rather than ones stemming from personal integrity.
The solution to both the forum poster problem and Nice Guy problem - to denounce tribalism and realize that all human beings are fundamentally the same. You have no obligation to sleep with a woman just because she's nice, and no woman has an obligation to sleep with you just because you're nice. Sex needs to be far deeper and more meaningful than boiling it down to "niceness". Likewise, forum posters should realize that they aren't special, The Escapist isn't special, and they are just people talking to other people, as happily occurs between most of humanity.
