Are looks really *that* important?

[LadyMint]

Well, humans are naturally visual creatures and for those of us who can see, we have knee-jerk reactions to the images we're presented with. As far relationships go, I believe looks always matter, but a person's spectrum of acceptable appearances can vary by the individual. Personally, I usually say "looks don't matter" to me but in truth, I know that if I can't look a guy in the face there's no way we're going out on a date. I just have no easily described vision of who is acceptable.

 

[Jennacide]

It's encoded in our DNA to be like this. Being shallow is letting your predispostition do all the talking and not supercede it's judgement with forming your own opinion. Like, I don't care how attractive a guy is, if he tries to walk all over me or be a dirt bag, I won't stand for it.

 

[Alandoril]

I can't really be certain. Women just look through/around me so I've never been able to judge for myself.

 

[dagens24]

I could meet the nicest, friendliest and most personailty-compatible woman in the world but I still would not engadge in any type of romantic/sexual relationship with her if she were hideous. I wouldn't be able to. So yes, looks are important.

That being said I also would engadge in any type of serious romantic relationship with a knock out gorgeous woman either. Sure, she may be nice to look at and the sex might be great but at the end of the day I'm going to be spending 95% of my time with her not having sex/admiring her beauty, so there has to be something else there.

The moral of the story is that both looks and personality are important. The ratios may differ on an importance scale depending on who you ask, but they are both important. An ugly girl may have to make up for her ugliness with a great personality and a girl with no personality may have to make up for it by looking great and being great in the sack, but at the end of the day they have to posses both qualities.

Skimming over this, I sound aweful but the truth hurts I guess. And this isn't just for women, the same can be said for men.

 

[Light 086]

Everyone one is shallow... I mean would you date someone who's got all the gorgeous features of Sylvester Stallone(without the fame and cash, lol)?
I know I wouldn't.

 

[Mr. Bojangles]

I currently "like" three people.

One is no looker but she's smart and funny and an all around nice person.
The second is, in my opinion, beautiful and also has a brilliant personality.
The other person I like is really cute and has the BEST PERSONALITY EVER! Seriously.

Yes I like good looks, but personality is the most important thing.

Fortunately I have friends with both.

 

[ComicsAreWeird]

looks arent everything, but they play an important part in attraction. When i mean looks i mean the way the person presents themselves, not just what nature gave them.

Example: A girl can be a bit "ugly" or out of shape, but if she presents a confident and sensual attitude, if she´s dressed in a way that fits her nicely and is generally mindful of her image, she can present herself as someone who is attractive.

 

[Jonluw]

Yup. I won't consider entering a romantic relationship with anyone if I'm not attracted to them. And I am sure the same is the case for pretty much everyone else. End of story.

Please note that I said "I'm not attracted to them". Me being attracted to someone doesn't necessarily mean they are generically attractive.

 

[Lord Beautiful]

Personality is lovely, but it isn't what gets me erect.

 

[Delock]

It significantly impacts the early part of any relationship, but it's not everything, and can actually be bypassed to a certain extent, but this requires the person in question to not be truly noticed at first (such as a person making a comment/joke that draws you into a conversation). There are also certain boundaries of comfort that each person has (that can be exceed both by being around a very unattractive person as well as someone who is much more attractive than you are normally used to being around), but there are a lot more factors than just visual ones that are involved in the first judgment process (including smell, voice, movement, expressions, etc.).

You can get used to a person over time, and eventually befriend them, but probably this means that a romantic relationship will not happen, or that there could be future issues if it does (remember, I'm also talking about people you deem too attractive as well, as this can mess with your mind).

No looks aren't everything, but yes they are important.

 

[FamoFunk]

Personality is lovely, but it isn't what gets me erect.

So... you'd only fuck "good looking" people? Not someone who has really blown you away with personality, but isn't really a looker (not hidious)

 

[martin's a madman]

The only thing that makes a friendship different from a romantic relationship is wanting to have sex with the person.

If you don't find the person physically attractive enough to have sex with, then it's only a friendship.

 

[runnernda]

Looks are important, but they're not everything. They're generally what initially piques your interest, of course, but I don't care if he's the best looking guy on the planet if he's as dumb as a block of cheese. But attraction is really important in a relationship, and if you can't stand the sight of the person, it's not going to be much of a relationship. I don't think looks matter in friendship, though.

 

[YouBecame]

To be honest, yeah looks are something to consider. I don't mean that looks are a substitute for personality, but to be helplessly attracted to a partner isn't something that people can deny is a boon to a relationship.

And yes, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is true. The key in looks is that they attract your partner, and thats as far as looks counts IMO .

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Looks are something I consider. I think everyone considers them when it comes to the first impression. However, personality and intelligence are more important... Even if they aren't the first thing that one assesses about a person.

 

[saruman31]

Yes but money are still more important.

 

[jam19th]

Ok so this is going to sound really bad but I can promise you it's not a troll.(also I am not butt hurt over woman or anything like and no I am not ugly.)

Looks are 100% of all human interactions. Personality and all that other stuff means nothing to anybody being honest.( having tons of money helps but only in getting tail not in finding love) You can have the great everything else but if you are not good looking it wont mean a thing. Every ugly person you see with another ugly person that claim that they love their partner would leave them at the drop of a hat for anyone even a bit more attractive.How would I know this? simple I EASILY took someones GF and I didn't even break a sweat. (Mind you this was in HS when I was a super A-hole.) Now this could have been the rare exception or if I am correct it is the norm and all ugly people have done is just settle with the first person that agreed to go out with them and marry them. So whats the point of this rant?

LOOKS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT INVESTMENT YOU CAN MAKE IN YOUR LIFE. Spend cash if you have it to attain even a "good level" whether it be working out,eating healthy, learning to be awesome ( Napoleon Dynamite said it best even if he was just joking around and an idiot " girls want guys with skills" this is spot on), or in extreme cases going under the knife, point is just do it.

Lol forgot to make a point. To even let your great qualities shine through you need to be attractive. You can do it without them but it will be a very steep uphill battle and nothing will help you get up it faster or easier then being attractive. For guys the better looking you are the easier it is to talk to a woman, but more importantly it will get them to WANT to interact with you. at least for me nothing beats the feeling I get when a pretty girl looks at me and smiles or looks away fast when our eyes meet only to have her sneak glances at me while I am pretending not to notice. Nothing helps your self esteem like that will.

So in summary good looks gets your foot in the door and as we all know that the key to everything in this world first starts with getting that foot in the door.

 

[Odbarc]

If looks weren't important, I could date.

A bad personality is what kills relationships though. Nothing's worse than someone who annoys the hell out of you.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Are you kidding me? Of course looks are important. Anyone who says that they don't matter is a liar. No one is going to sped their life with someone they think is hideous.