Bobular said:
I meant it more like someone adding in a rape scene into a movie just to be edgy or having ethnic characters that talk in nothing but stereotypes. Yeah those things could add value to some works, but if handled poorly then it could end up just being offensive or out of place or make you look like you don't know what your on about.
More importantly, it could put people in danger or actively degrade their capacity to access justice.
Sexual assault (along with domestic violence and child abuse) is one of the most mythologised subjects around. People still believe or assume all kinds of things about it which aren't true, or which fixate on one tiny aspect of what's actually important in these events. (To a certain extent, this could apply to all kinds of things but these are particularly extreme examples).
Spreading misinformation or giving a biased portrayal of rape, DV or abuse isn't just "offensive" (although it is), it actively degrades the ability of people to respond or to make effective judgements. If you keep showing people a false or mythologised image of what these things look like, how are people supposed to recognise when the real thing happens to them, or to someone they know? How are police, who might be called on to respond to these events, supposed to know how to treat someone who comes in claiming to have been raped if their image of what rape is based on movies (which, amazingly, it often is.. even police, when tested, tend to display high levels of rape myth acceptance).
There's a danger in not talking about these things at all, either. Good media can save people's lives, it can help someone to recognise when they're in an abusive situation and to see it for what it is (and escape). It can help someone to realise that they're not alone. It can help someone to be more aware and to look more closely at situations around them which they might have missed or glossed over, but it can also perpetrate wrong assumptions which lead to bad judgements down the line, and those bad judgements can hurt and destroy people.
For the record, this isn't the same as the argument that violent games make you violent. Media doesn't "brainwash" us into behaving differently. Noone plays grand theft auto and suddenly goes out to steal a car, but media can shape our attitudes for better or for worse, and if you're a media creator you probably shouldn't be considering that as incidental to the product you're creating. It's part of it, and it's part of what will make it good or shit, remembered as a classic or dismissed as an insulting remnant of the popular ignorance of this era. I think that matters.