Are You A Loner?

[Iron Criterion]

Yes and no.

In social occasions I prefer not take the initiative and will be content with simply hanging back. I also enjoy my own company.

But don't get me wrong, I do like to see my friends, I just prefer the quiet and solitude.

 

[Sonic Doctor]

Yes, I think I am. I have a small, core group of friends but other than that I rarely meet people I care enough about to make friends with.

I would have to say the same. I think it is that I like having a lot of personal time to pursue my own interests, and it seems like too many people think friendship means you have to stay in contact practically every day and know what friends are doing every day.

My core friends and I understand that we have our own lives and time schedules, so we really only meet up in person a couple times a month and then a few times over Xbox Live.

My mom never seems to understand it. Because there are times that I and one of my friends are both busy, and we don't speak for a week or more, and during those times, my mom always asks if I got into a fight with my friends since we haven't been in contact much or at all for that time.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

Nope, not that being alone bothers me too much over a few days but if I don't have social contact for a few weeks I get depressed... I have reasons for getting that way though, I was trapped for what seemed like hundreds of years in a dream where I was the only living thing on the planet that wasn't a plant, not even bugs... and everything was still... and I couldn't wake up, like, I'd "wake up" into the dream again, over and over again, think of the movie groundhog day, but waaaaaaaaay freakier, due to there being nobody and nothing around that's alive, and instead of being that town from groundhog day it's the city in which I live.

That and I spent a hint over 6 years pretty much completely alone... So yeah, I'm totally over being by myself, I'd far rather be hangin with my buddies than sitting by myself in my house alone, or sitting anywhere else alone.

 

[winginson]

I like seeing my friends and having nights on the town etc but I can only have a good chat once about once a week and a good NotT about once a month. Also I have random days where having to speak to anyone at all fills me with rage. Good job I don't work in the service industry.

 

[hurfdurp]

Likely. I need a lot of time to recharge after even small outings with friends. I keep my world small because it's safer and easier, and I really do envy people who have a lot of tact when it comes to socializing. I regret not engaging with more people in High School, because it really is like a boot camp for all of those kinds of important skills. Now I'm someone who is afraid of men and needs four weeks of emotional prep in order to call the bank.

 

[Lt._nefarious]

Yeah.

I have a few friends and hang with them every now and again when the planets align or I undergo frontal lobotomy but I generally keep to myself and relax in my inner sanctum away from the noise and abuse. I think it's mainly to do with being mistreated by my peers not that long ago when I tried to socialize and never having seen the "use" of friends and just generally finding it easier not to worry about birthdays or sharing or being able to tell when they are sad. I guess I just find it easier this way.

 

[deathzero021]

no i am not. been living with my gf for 3 years now and i don't want to think about living alone.

 

[FamoFunk]

I'm a loner, except for being with my other half. I never used to be, I used to have solid friends and was always up for a party or to hang out.

I don't mind, I like being by myself a lot of the time but I do occasionally long for a bit of company with friends.

 

[Broady Brio]

When I was in my early teens, I wanted to be friends with everyone.
When I was a bit older, I wanted to be alone.
Very recently, I'm stuck on the fence.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

I like being on my own as well. I don't actually have any 'friends' because they always believed I wasn't a good friend because I didn't want to hang out every other day, and I don't really see family for months on end - most of the time.

My husband is my best friend and where most of my social interaction comes from. I just managed to find another person I felt was comforting and understanding and not over-bearing and smothering. We both have our alone time and together time. His presence in the house is comforting, but we don't always have to be in the same room at the same time, all the time. Having our own personal space is absolutely essential. Finding a house where we were both able to have our own office was at the top of our priority list,..and will always be.

We've had a long-term house guest with us and let me just say, it's been very uncomfortable. >_>. Especially since he's extremely sociable and likes people to come over to the house. Sometimes I'll hang out for an hour or two if I feel obligated, but then I just slink away and hide in my office to read or play video games. I'm thinking about getting an armchair or something for in here, then it would just be perfect.

 

[Rinshan Kaihou]

Generally, yes. I go out with friends sometimes, but most of my socialization is limited to work (Where I answer phones 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week) and with co-workers. But beyond that, it's on mumble with my game buddies as we hide from zombies in Day-Z and kill other people in Tribes.

 

[D Moness]

I do enjoy being with friends and a loner though i slightly prefer being a loner.

Doing stuff alone makes me not to have take into account what the other wants as (well). Although with good friends it can be even more fun (but then you have to compensate).
For example i had as much fun going alone to the zoo as going to an amusement park with friends.

What i do not understand is why people find it weird when i tell them i go to the cinema alone. I mean you have to be quiet the whole movie(at least i prefer people shutting up while in a cinema) so why should i go with friends if you can not really talk most of the time anyway.
There are much better things to do when you want to socialize with friends. I have a few good friends that i feel is enough.

Typing this i am alone in my room more or less enjoying the piece and quiet(also more or less waiting for "The prestige" to start).

 

[Creator002]

I'm pretty much the same. Even when I hang out with friends, it's usually at their house playing video games. I used to go out a lot, but then I got a gaming PC. Now I see my friends on a, at most, bi-weekly basis.

Biweekly? What are you, Hugh Hefner?

Haha. I meant fortnightly. Once every two weeks. Biweekly was just the word that came into my head when I was writing.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I suppose I do spend a lot of time alone...

It doesn't really occur to me to make plans with people or see people on my time off. To be honest, pure socialising makes me tired very fast.

With that said, if there's an activity involved I can go all day. That's the problem I think I had with my peer group. Somewhere along the way we stopped doing things, our time together just became sitting in rooms rather than doing things...and it didn't suit me at all.

 

[thesilentman]

I am pretty much a loner in public as many people judge too quickly here in the States. I can get along with people but some are just massive dicks.

That said though, I do have a few friends that I make plans with, but I'd, say, take playing something like a solid player game than play a multiplayer match with them in COD or TF2.