Asking a *friend* a question

[Railgun88]

Ok, my friend (friend with benefits), wanted to mess around. Now, I'm not very experienced, and she is much more experienced than I. Knowing this it makes me feel very nervous. So I can't decide if I should ask her if she new that she would have to guide me. I know she was talking to one of my ex-fwb, and I don't know whether or not she knew she would have to take the lead. So the big question is, should I ask her whether or not she knew this.

Sry for the wall of txt. Any advice appreciated.

 

[ultrachicken]

Several things:

1. Four sentences is not a wall of text.

2. I don't see how it's important.

Also, sorry for the pending lecture: When you orgasm, a bonding chemical is produced in the brain, meaning that you become more attached to your partner, like it or not. Friends with benefits is sticky business.

 

[pyrosaw]

I think you should tell her before hand. If you don't feel like doing this, then do your best. That's all I can really say. Also, wear a friggin condom!

 

[Railgun88]

I already know to wear a condom thanks, I don't want kids or an STD. I know better than that. It's just the fact that it feels really weird to ask her this. We've been friends for a good time now, like 2-3 years, but I just don't know how to approach her with this question.

 

[khaimera]

Don't say anything yet. Just have fun and move things along gradually. Also, you can just go at her pace, it usually works if you're nervous about what to do. After a few times, then get advice from her. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

 

[Railgun88]

Don't say anything yet. Just have fun and move things along gradually. Also, you can just go at her pace, it usually works if you're nervous about what to do. After a few times, then get advice from her. Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

Thanks, and I will.

 

[default]

Well you aren't asking for sex advice from what I can tell, which is good, because only your own experience makes you better!

Don't say a word about it mate, it will just make it awkward and uncomfortable. Just go with the flow and figure it out on your own

 

[SwagLordYoloson]

You stick you aim for the landing strip and guide your plane in, remember to slow down before landing you don't want to crash.... yet.... When taking back off make sure to pull out quick....

/relating sex to how to pilot a plane

OT: Get a teacher, $100-200 for a lesson

 

[BonsaiK]

Ok, my friend (friend with benefits), wanted to mess around. Now, I'm not very experienced, and she is much more experienced than I. Knowing this it makes me feel very nervous. So I can't decide if I should ask her if she new that she would have to guide me. I know she was talking to one of my ex-fwb, and I don't know whether or not she knew she would have to take the lead. So the big question is, should I ask her whether or not she knew this.

Sry for the wall of txt. Any advice appreciated.

I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. What you'll find is that as soon as you get together between the sheets it'll be fairly quickly apparent to her that you're not experienced, and then she'll start guiding you anyway. No need to even mention it unless the topic comes up.

 

[pubbing]

Why do you have to be guided in the first place? Do you not know how it all works? Have you never seen a porno? Since this is your first go I would probably do what pleases her and not focus so much on what will please you. You know where her clitoris is right? Just get to work on that thing and all will be good.

 

[Railgun88]

Why do you have to be guided in the first place? Do you not know how it all works? Have you never seen a porno? Since this is your first go I would probably do what pleases her and not focus so much on what will please you. You know where her clitoris is right? Just get to work on that thing and all will be good.

No, it's just that I didn't know what she wanted or liked. However thanks guys, she was actually very pleased last night. After it all got started I quickly picked on what she wanted.

 

[khaimera]

Why do you have to be guided in the first place? Do you not know how it all works? Have you never seen a porno? Since this is your first go I would probably do what pleases her and not focus so much on what will please you. You know where her clitoris is right? Just get to work on that thing and all will be good.

No, it's just that I didn't know what she wanted or liked. However thanks guys, she was actually very pleased last night. After it all got started I quickly picked on what she wanted.

Awesome!!!! Glad to hear it went well.

It goes to show that things usually work out better than we think they will. You'll get even better with time and as long as you pat attention to what the woman likes/wants you'll always do great.