Asking a girl's dad for permission to go out with his daughter

[Everin]

So, if you loved a girl and she loved you, but the one condition for you two to go out would be asking her father's permission, would you do it? The reason she wants you to do this is to show you have the courage to look after her, and she's looking for someone that can protect her and asking her father's permission proves this to her, would you do this?
I ask this 'cause when I asked my girlfriend out, I had to ask her father's permission and I did it cause she's worth it, but I was wondering how everyone else would come at this 'problem'. And what do you think about this 'ritual' or thing that some girl's want you to do?

 

[Fleeker]

A girl worth having won't give you ultimatums. She's not the one so move on. Your actions daily will show that. You need to be you and that needs to be enough or its not love.

 

[MikeyW]

I asked my wife's father for permission to marry her. Just went up to him one day and flat out asked him with no warning. Think he was a bit too shocked to give much of a response at all really.

 

[Mrsoupcup]

Depends on the father I would say. Some dads are so protective of their daughters it's gross. Look if you that worried about your daughters vagina just register yourself as a sexual predator and save Chris Hanson some time. As for the "ritual" it really is depending on the family and person.

 

[MikeOfThunder]

It would be a courtesy, nothing more then that. If he said no, wouldn't stop me and I make sure that he knows it really.

 

[KaiusCormere]

It seems pretty archaic to me. I would do it, but I would wonder why it was a big deal. It's a big warning flag of someone who lacks independence as well, so that could be an issue.

 

[emeraldrafael]

I wouldnt ASK for permission. I would say I'm taking your daughter out, if you have a problem, then man up and do something about it.

... What?! That old man wont be running my life with his daughter.

 

[The_Yeti]

I'd have told her to f off, if shes not her own master she's not ready to have a life of her own yet.

 

[Android2137]

As a female of the species, I commend you. Shows real maturity on your part. If I were a parent, a young man requesting permission to date my little one would be a sign of good character to me. (Mind you, it wouldn't be enough to completely dispel all concerns and fears, but it would give me a good first impression.)

 

[SilentCom]

That's a little bit old school, but if she's close to her family then I suppose it couldn't hurt. That way her family will probably accept you to.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

It's a bit old-fashioned for me- I think your relationship shouldn't wholly depend on what her Father says. If he says, 'No', what will she say? : "Well, that's that then. Cya!" Or perhaps that's what she's hoping for so she can have some Shakespearean forbidden love bullshit.

Comes a time in life to make your own damn decisions. You need someone who is secure enough to make decisions for themselves and not string you along with trivial 'tests-of-love'. Want to know why?

THE TESTING WILL NEVER STOP, otherwise.

Edit: How old are the two of you , anyhow?

 

[Just_A_Glitch]

A girl worth having won't give you ultimatums. She's not the one so move on. Your actions daily will show that. You need to be you and that needs to be enough or its not love.

I don't think its unreasonable for the girl, especially if she is under 18 (which is an assumption I'm making here), to want her father's approval.

OT: I'd ask. Its a respectful thing to do, and could get you a few brownie points with her father, which is always good. No girl I've dated has ever cared if I asked their father's permission, but if it was important to them, I would. I don't see it as that big a deal.

EDIT: Damn. A lot of responses are so aggressive...

EDIT 2: Seriously, this thread hurts me.

 

[Goofguy]

I'd go along with it sure, but it doesn't mean I'd like it. The girl may be asking you because she feels as though it's expected of her not necessarily because she has no control over her own life. I know what it's like to have parents with occasionally weird nuances. If entertaining one such as this means I get to be with a girl I really like, then that's fine by me.

 

[Geekiest]

From my experience of friends who have asked or expected that from their boyfriends, it's been more a matter of courtesy to give their family a designated time to ask questions of him so she doesn't have to field all the "What's he do? What's he believe? Who're his parents?" questions and all their crazy cousins on her own. He's the one used to answering those questions for himself, better he do it.

That, and I had one friend who did it so that he couldn't claim they'd never been "really dating" afterward. She had two boyfriends who claimed they'd never really been dating exclusively or anything so after that they had to tell her family or it was a no go. Hard to claim you're not dating if you tell a girl's family you are.

 

[WorldCritic]

I guess I would if I had to. I'd feel unbelievably awkward about it though.

 

[bdcjacko]

pffft, you ask permission to have his daughters hand in marriage, not to give her a date.

 

[Volkov]

A girl worth having won't give you ultimatums.

/thread. If a girl gives you that kind of conditions, toss her to the side of the road, cuz otherwise, sooner or later she'll do that to you.

 

[Addicted Muffin]

ok, if we both love each other....fuck what the father says...even if he disaproves i'd still hook up with her...

So why add in the extra step?