if she's still living with mommy and daddy, then asking her father's permission might be reasonable. but... that probably also means she's a teenager, which means i wouldn't be interested in the first place.
Asking a girl's dad for permission to go out with his daughter
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I'm an adult now, so no.
Even if I was still a teen, no. What's the point? I'd make her ask my mom for permission to date me, to get a taste of how ridiculous it is.
And if the dad said no, then what? Do you date anyway because you mutually wanted to, making the whole thing an exercise in futility? Or do you call it off, proving that she really couldn't have been that into you anyway, and it never would have worked?
Even if I was still a teen, no. What's the point? I'd make her ask my mom for permission to date me, to get a taste of how ridiculous it is.
And if the dad said no, then what? Do you date anyway because you mutually wanted to, making the whole thing an exercise in futility? Or do you call it off, proving that she really couldn't have been that into you anyway, and it never would have worked?
I don't think i'd be interested in a girl who has to have her father decide if I can take her out but if I did i'd have no problem with it.
It would depend largely on how much I liked the girl. If it was someone I really liked and thought she might be the one, then yeah, maybe. However, if it were a girl I just asked out because I got the chance, then probably not. I'm not one to jump through hoops just because others want me to.
Bottom line, only if you know she's worth it. And whatever you do, don't let him demand any more of you. I can't imagine what that could be, but if he puts any more provisions on dating his daughter, don't do it.
*side note* I was talking to a Japanese student at my school about dating. I told her about this societal thing and about how some families won't let their daughter even go out with a guy until they've met him and approved of him. It was really odd to her, because as I already knew, in Japan you don't introduce someone to your parents unless you're basically planning to marry them.
Bottom line, only if you know she's worth it. And whatever you do, don't let him demand any more of you. I can't imagine what that could be, but if he puts any more provisions on dating his daughter, don't do it.
*side note* I was talking to a Japanese student at my school about dating. I told her about this societal thing and about how some families won't let their daughter even go out with a guy until they've met him and approved of him. It was really odd to her, because as I already knew, in Japan you don't introduce someone to your parents unless you're basically planning to marry them.
I would if I felt it was worth it, but I think the idea itself is still a bit...stupid. Why should I have to ask someone's permission to go out with their daughter? It's her damn choice. And even so, asking for permission to date just seems a bit...childish I guess. Like, that proves nothing, just that you're not really a nervous speaker. To me at least.
I'd never date a Muslim girl owned by her father, so I don't think this problem would ever really come my way.
That depends. If a girl made daddy's approval a necessity for pursuing the relationship, than I wouldn't instantly drop it, but if her dad wasn't accommodating, I would not bend over backwards to make him happy with me. After all, while your parents are always going to be a big part of your life, they shouldn't have final say on who you are with. If you are willing to let them do that, I interpret it as weakness of character, and I'd likely find it a turn off.
Still, that's me speaking in generalities and hypothetical relationships, not making a comment on your situation. Hope your relationship goes well.
Still, that's me speaking in generalities and hypothetical relationships, not making a comment on your situation. Hope your relationship goes well.
It's not a matter of getting ownership away from her father. It's more or less about introducing yourself, saying "Hi, I'm Bob, and I would like to date your daughter." It's a bit more polite and gentle than "Hi, I'm Bob, and I'm dating your daughter. Deal with it."Pain Is Inevitable said:
Yes.
Because I am quite charismatic and can get people to believe me. I wouldn't abuse that trust, but I can still get it better. I am also not much of a threat to anyone, so I have been trusted with more things in the past.
I don't really see any problem with the idea personally. Some people are old-fashioned.
Because I am quite charismatic and can get people to believe me. I wouldn't abuse that trust, but I can still get it better. I am also not much of a threat to anyone, so I have been trusted with more things in the past.
I don't really see any problem with the idea personally. Some people are old-fashioned.
Did you know that in Puritan colonies of the early America's young courting couples who wanted privacy in the small quarters of a cabin would whisper to each other through a long wooden tube called a courting stick. Some couples could actually sleep together, if they were fully clothed. It was a practice called bundling. Although this lead to some creative definitions of "fully clothed". Sometimes unexpected pregnancies resulted from the practice and they were called bundle babies.
What I'm saying is you should talk to her through a tube and dry hump her in her bed if you are serious about tradition.
What I'm saying is you should talk to her through a tube and dry hump her in her bed if you are serious about tradition.
you do it for marriage(only ceremoniously) and that's it...
I'd never ask the dad before DATING... that's retarded. I have no idea I'll stay with this girl, why waste the man's time?
I'd never ask the dad before DATING... that's retarded. I have no idea I'll stay with this girl, why waste the man's time?
Well a few things...
First off, I can't say that her making you ask her dad is a good thing. If he was making you ask him, that would be a different story. Regardless of what I think will happen once you actually date this girl, and this "ritual" the key to getting on a Dad's good side is to be respectful of him and his daughter (without being a ass licker) and also being pretty jovial and easy going...ya know...so he doesn't think you are a ass licker who is gonna do something bad to his girl the minute he turns his back.
That being said...never date a girl behind her parents back when they explicitly tell you not to. Just trust me on that one.
Don't bend over backwards for this girl either. Trust me. Especially if you are in the high school/ middle school age range. Not worth it. EVER.
First off, I can't say that her making you ask her dad is a good thing. If he was making you ask him, that would be a different story. Regardless of what I think will happen once you actually date this girl, and this "ritual" the key to getting on a Dad's good side is to be respectful of him and his daughter (without being a ass licker) and also being pretty jovial and easy going...ya know...so he doesn't think you are a ass licker who is gonna do something bad to his girl the minute he turns his back.
That being said...never date a girl behind her parents back when they explicitly tell you not to. Just trust me on that one.
Don't bend over backwards for this girl either. Trust me. Especially if you are in the high school/ middle school age range. Not worth it. EVER.
I wouldn't ask but I would have the respect to introduce myself, if people see that your a nice guy( dressed nice, polite, respectful) they give you a lot of freeway to do whatever.
no
because for starters this is an outdated chauvinistic tradition that comes from the believe that women lack the mental capacity to look after themselves.
This also would be a wake up call for me, i don't want a girl who thinks she needs protection and wouldn't be happy with someone stuck in this mindset.
because for starters this is an outdated chauvinistic tradition that comes from the believe that women lack the mental capacity to look after themselves.
This also would be a wake up call for me, i don't want a girl who thinks she needs protection and wouldn't be happy with someone stuck in this mindset.
Wow, she's old-school. I wouldn't go out with someone like that on principle, simply because if they have those sort of values where they considered that actually important, they're probably not the girl for me. I like low-maintenance girls who don't need a guy for "protection" or "looking after". The type of girls I like are more along the lines of "let's go out - fuck what my parents think, their opinion isn't important to me".Everin said: