Oh God this is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read.
And as a woman, I find it quite offensive.
And as a woman, I find it quite offensive.
Attraction explained: how to talk to women
- Thread starter hortez the champion of the frozen wastes
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So, you've obviously read 'The Game [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Game:_Penetrating_the_Secret_Society_of_Pickup_Artists]', or watched Styles' [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neil_Strauss] dvd.hortez the champion of the frozen wastes said:
I'd offer congratulations, but some of us figured this stuff out without a book, a dvd, or a 'pick-up artist bootcamp.
hortez the champion of the frozen wastes said:
Actually, everything you've highlighted reaches past the logical processes in a human brain, and MAY trigger an instinctive response of interest, but attraction is not inherently a logical process. I'm sure we could both cite a variety of examples where confidence has little or nothing to do with confidence or looks.
On a side note, if all a man was after was an attractive women, liquor wouldn't be relevant, because women that weren't deemed attractive enough would have been left unbred a lon time ago.
Well, this an interesting thread. As someone who carn't really talk to girls in such a manner to get dates with them i feel the OP is kind of directed at me.
I'm not going to dispute the finer points of the OP's post, because everyone has quite rightly done so already. Instead i question the general usefulness of posting, telling or publishing et al,these step-by-step guides to getting girlfriends.
Doing what the OP recommends comes naturally to some people, and not others, myself included. These are intrinsic personality traits, our own natures which don't really change. Introverted males arn't going to convincingly turn themselves into Casanova's for the night so they can get a girlfriend. It's like expecting a cat to behave like a dog, it simply doesn't happen.
I'm not going to dispute the finer points of the OP's post, because everyone has quite rightly done so already. Instead i question the general usefulness of posting, telling or publishing et al,these step-by-step guides to getting girlfriends.
Doing what the OP recommends comes naturally to some people, and not others, myself included. These are intrinsic personality traits, our own natures which don't really change. Introverted males arn't going to convincingly turn themselves into Casanova's for the night so they can get a girlfriend. It's like expecting a cat to behave like a dog, it simply doesn't happen.
The thing is that people don't follow strict guidelines or rules in terms of what they find attractive or not.
Just as there is no guarenteed pick-up line, there is no guarenteed technique to get people (women or otherwise) to like you.
In fact, by pigeon holing people and trying to follow a procedure (and in this way see the as more of a trophy than a person) you'll just earn resentment rather than love and adoration (do you like the idea of there being people out there researching ways to manipulate you for their sexual satisfaction?).
Just as there is no guarenteed pick-up line, there is no guarenteed technique to get people (women or otherwise) to like you.
In fact, by pigeon holing people and trying to follow a procedure (and in this way see the as more of a trophy than a person) you'll just earn resentment rather than love and adoration (do you like the idea of there being people out there researching ways to manipulate you for their sexual satisfaction?).
I think if you want advice on how to talk to women, a woman should be the one giving the advice.
There's no universal code for men, and there isn't one for women. It's based on the individual in my opinion.
If I like a guy, I'll insult him (in a loving way...), I'll share a few jokes and see if he shares my sense of humour. Another girl might try to emphasise her best assets and constantly giggle at everything he says. I've never bothered with the advice of others when it comes to relationships and I've been in one for the past 15 months, just relax and let nature take it's course.
There's no universal code for men, and there isn't one for women. It's based on the individual in my opinion.
If I like a guy, I'll insult him (in a loving way...), I'll share a few jokes and see if he shares my sense of humour. Another girl might try to emphasise her best assets and constantly giggle at everything he says. I've never bothered with the advice of others when it comes to relationships and I've been in one for the past 15 months, just relax and let nature take it's course.
Maybe he wanted a smaller version of the text, and since it's a wall of text, "TEAR DOWN THIS WALL"!!! I think it's funny!aschere van she said:
As one of the feminine persuasion, I have to say NO to the OP.
You know what happens when you try to play a girl like he suggests? They look at you, then go right back talking to their friends.
Yes, confidence is something that most girls find attractive, but do you know what's even better than that?
Having something in common with her.
You know what happens when you try to play a girl like he suggests? They look at you, then go right back talking to their friends.
Yes, confidence is something that most girls find attractive, but do you know what's even better than that?
Having something in common with her.
Well said! Reading through your whole post and relating it to myself I didn't see anything that I really thought was true. And your whole signs of attraction thing...most of them could be signs of friendship too and not ZOMG she did all those things she must like me.Hiraeth said:
What she said.Lizard Queen said:
I get pretty tired of males on this site starting threads about how to get us to be followed by another thread about how evil and shallow we are. Just like you, we want to be with someone who's company we enjoy. If I don't like one man's company, that doesn't mean I'm shallow or only interested in money/sex/power/X, it just means I didn't like him. Some of that reaction is logical and some is hormonal. Not every man I've liked has liked me back and I didn't consider them to be evil pussy-trolling dogs. Nope, just a guy who didn't fancy me. How about showing us the same courtesy?
What you look like doesn't have anything to do with my comment nonetheless. I wouldn't judge and if anyone else judges than they're just idiots.RAKtheUndead said:
I disagree.
For starters, teasing works.
And the best way to get a good relationship is to start up a good friendship with them, and forget about this 'friend zone' bullcrap. Relationships work on personalities, if it's status or looks (not saying they don't count at all) then 'UR DOIN IT RONG'. If you find yourself in this 'friend zone' myth thing it's probably because you didn't make yourself appear like you wanted a relationship or you had no confidence. Or, they just didn't like you enough to start a relationship with.
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I see why you make this crap up (read my earliest posts if you will), but no one's buying it.
For starters, teasing works.
And the best way to get a good relationship is to start up a good friendship with them, and forget about this 'friend zone' bullcrap. Relationships work on personalities, if it's status or looks (not saying they don't count at all) then 'UR DOIN IT RONG'. If you find yourself in this 'friend zone' myth thing it's probably because you didn't make yourself appear like you wanted a relationship or you had no confidence. Or, they just didn't like you enough to start a relationship with.
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Yeah... no.Cyan. said:
I see why you make this crap up (read my earliest posts if you will), but no one's buying it.
"Man reads The Game, posts a synopsis on the internet" should just about cover it.ColdStorage said:
Actually, the first bit (about what attracts men and women) was pretty accurate in a Psychology 101 sort of way. As for the rest of it... *shrug*.