Awkward situation!

[Rancid0ffspring]

Right... erm bit of an awkward one! I was at work today sitting next to a colleague. Not known each other too long as its a new job but we were both in the same training group. Whilst I'm on a call I get a note passed to me saying quite simply 'I like you'.

Now I'm a guy... & so is my colleague. Couple of weeks back I was at a friends Halloween party who also works at the same place & was also in the same training group. I thought said colleague was just being friendly but on closer evaluation of the night he was being a bit more 'huggy' with me, Now coupled alongside todays note... Well I think you get the idea. I'm not sure if he thinks I'm gay... hell until today I didn't think he was.

I'm a very accepting person. I don't mind how people live their lives wether it be religion, sexuality or social views. However I've never had to deal with this situation before & I'm unsure what to do. He's a good bloke & this won't effect my wish to be friends with him. Do I ignore it & pretend it never happened? Do I say something & risk hurting his feelings? Anything else that may be a good idea?

Be advised any negative feedback about homosexuality will be politely responded to with advice violate yourself with something rusty, sharp & infected with siphilis. I would like some informed or experienced opinions on this matter.

 

[JRCB]

Well, if homosexuality doesn't float your boat, you should probably tell him. Things could probably get more awkward if it continues.

 

[Timotei]

Let him off the hook this time. If it continues, then it's something you might want to think about.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Have you tried telling him you're not gay? If you just ignore it he may think you didn't understand him, meaning he may become more and more blunt with informing you about his feelings.

 

[JoshFTL]

You should just tell him straight up that your not gay, but also mention that you dont mind him for being gay and even coming on to you (No pun intended). Another thing you should tell him is not to be embarassed and that it will have no negative effects on your friendship, if he is understanding enough he will accept that and move on.

 

[Thaius]

Just tell him you're not gay. It's not a matter of feelings in this case, it's a matter of lifestyle: there's no way he should be offended by that, since it has nothing to do with whether or not you're attracted to him, it simply has to do with the fact that you're not attracted to men as a whole.

 

[Cxizent]

If it were me, I'd tell him that I wasn't gay, because being homosexual is different to me, and therefore inherently worse. Generally I'd just like to give the feedback that it's a negative thing. Any polite advice in response to this post is welcome.

 

[Amnestic]

Ask him if he's boned any hot ladies lately.
Have sex with him.
Hire him a stripper.
Hire yourself a stripper.
Ask him if he's boned any hot men lately.

In any particular order you wnat.

 

[Cherry Cola]

Just tell him you're not gay.

 

[Kriptonite]

Just gently tell him you're not gay but you do appreciate the offer.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Just be blatantly heterosexual around him, like hit on ladies and talk about boobs and how great they are right in front of him... or with him. You will probably get the right idea pretty quick. Or next time he says that he likes you just do the female thing and say "Oh thanks."

 

[Guy32]

first, confirm that he sent the note.
Then,let him know that you're not gay.

 

[Rancid0ffspring]

If it were me, I'd tell him that I wasn't gay, because being homosexual is different to me, and therefore inherently worse. Generally I'd just like to give the feedback that it's a negative thing. Any polite advice in response to this post is welcome.

Thats not a negative response. I was thinking more along the lines of anyone saying beat him up or say something nasty to him.

As for responses on a whole it would most likely be best to just say outright I'm not gay but also that i'm not affected by these events & would like to remain friends. I guess I just needed another opinion on the matter

 

[Evilbunny]

Just tell him you're not gay. If he's sane he'll understand and stop.

 

[zidine100]

first off are you absolutely sure that note was from him, there isnt a hot girl in your office is there who could have walked past while you were on call? Because lets just say, it could get really more awkward if you confront it about it and its not him.

 

[Lullabye]

Just gently tell him you're not gay but you do appreciate the offer.

No, just tell him your not gay. forget the appreciation part, that just sounds awkward.

I don't swing that way sunshine.

 

[Dahni]

casually mention a girl you think is hot or something like that.
he should take the hint from that.
if he doesn't, you're gonna have to clearly say that you're straight & that you aren't interested.

 

[Chipperz]

I got lucky when I was in a similar situation - I can't even remember what the circumstances were, but the topic was anal sex and my only sentence was mentioning to my mate "It's OK, you're safe. I prefer a uterus."

I later found out he was gay and it's been hinted he had a thing for me. Try the "I prefer a uterus" line.

Also... Who passes notes at work? It's not primary school!

 

[ethaninja]

Right... erm bit of an awkward one! I was at work today sitting next to a colleague. Not known each other too long as its a new job but we were both in the same training group. Whilst I'm on a call I get a note passed to me saying quite simply 'I like you'.

Now I'm a guy... & so is my colleague. Couple of weeks back I was at a friends Halloween party who also works at the same place & was also in the same training group. I thought said colleague was just being friendly but on closer evaluation of the night he was being a bit more 'huggy' with me, Now coupled alongside todays note... Well I think you get the idea. I'm not sure if he thinks I'm gay... hell until today I didn't think he was.

I'm a very accepting person. I don't mind how people live their lives wether it be religion, sexuality or social views. However I've never had to deal with this situation before & I'm unsure what to do. He's a good bloke & this won't effect my wish to be friends with him. Do I ignore it & pretend it never happened? Do I say something & risk hurting his feelings? Anything else that may be a good idea?

Be advised any negative feedback about homosexuality will be politely responded to with advice violate yourself with something rusty, sharp & infected with siphilis. I would like some informed or experienced opinions on this matter.

Just be straight with him man (excuse the pun).

 

[Rancid0ffspring]

first off are you absolutely sure that note was from him, there isnt a hot girl in your office is there who could have walked past while you were on call? Because lets just say, it could get really more awkward if you confront it about it and its not him.

Yes deffinetly. He was the one who passed it to me & the only other person that was present in the area was a married pregnant Indian woman.

As for the solitary hot girl in my office.... If only