Awkward situation!

[ethaninja]

If it were me, I'd tell him that I wasn't gay, because being homosexual is different to me, and therefore inherently worse. Generally I'd just like to give the feedback that it's a negative thing. Any polite advice in response to this post is welcome.

Perhaps don't be so blunt with him and leave out the second part.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

Tell him the truth. If you're attracted to him, then say so. I don't believe in sugar coating it, so be sure to make it a nice clear message. And if you are willing. Maybe you can still be friends

 

[Enzeru92]

Just tell him cause either way its going to be awkward for you and if he's fine with that then you guys can still be friends

 

[Rancid0ffspring]

Also... Who passes notes at work? It's not primary school!

It's hard to talk at work sometimes. It's a call centre. I'm kind of guessing that he's not fully out yet either.

 

[cleverlymadeup]

ignore it for now, if he persists then politely tell him your not gay.

there are two great options for this

you could say you prefer 2 innies and not an innie and and outtie on a person

or my personal favorite and will probly get a laugh. i call it the Silent Bob reason cause i got it from him.

tell him you aren't gay because you just can't figure out what to say to a gay after he's jizzed in your mouth.

that will usually get a good laugh out of them and make him a bit less nervous of being rejected

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I would say break it to him gently that you don't swing that way.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

Friendly honesty is likely the best solution, as it often is. Also...notes? How old are you guys!?

 

[MrDarkling]

*MEGA SNIP*

Hey man I've had this issue before with a friend, Do you know how I solved it?
It's quite an odd solution but while you have posted this thread for some advice, I asked a friend for some advice when I needed it for the same situation.

In the end I decided to just show the guy the conversation I had with the friend who was giving me advice, so in other words I pretty much showed him that
1.) I wasn't into that sort of thing
2.) He noticed I cared not to hurt his feelings

So...All I'm saying is consider showing him the thread you have made if you have no other choice, He may understand just like this friend of mine and acknowledge that you care.

 

[Hungry Monkey]

Okay we can end the thread now...there's been about 30 posts all saying the same thing

 

[Mcface]

Tell him your not gay before he tries giving you a handy at the urinal.

 

[Gmano]

Right... erm bit of an awkward one! I was at work today sitting next to a colleague. Not known each other too long as its a new job but we were both in the same training group. Whilst I'm on a call I get a note passed to me saying quite simply 'I like you'.

Now I'm a guy... & so is my colleague. Couple of weeks back I was at a friends Halloween party who also works at the same place & was also in the same training group. I thought said colleague was just being friendly but on closer evaluation of the night he was being a bit more 'huggy' with me, Now coupled alongside todays note... Well I think you get the idea. I'm not sure if he thinks I'm gay... hell until today I didn't think he was.

I'm a very accepting person. I don't mind how people live their lives wether it be religion, sexuality or social views. However I've never had to deal with this situation before & I'm unsure what to do. He's a good bloke & this won't effect my wish to be friends with him. Do I ignore it & pretend it never happened? Do I say something & risk hurting his feelings? Anything else that may be a good idea?

Be advised any negative feedback about homosexuality will be politely responded to with advice violate yourself with something rusty, sharp & infected with siphilis. I would like some informed or experienced opinions on this matter.

Don't ignore it, that will just make him want you more. Flat out tell him that you arn't into the whole loving another man thing.

 

[Kriptonite]

Just gently tell him you're not gay but you do appreciate the offer.

No, just tell him your not gay. forget the appreciation part, that just sounds awkward.

I don't swing that way sunshine.

Well yes, you don't need to add the appreciation part but do not say "I don't swing that way sunshine." unless you do want any friendship to end.

 

[Klepa]

Just set a picture of Jessica Alba as your desktop background.
Let him see it.

Or talk about women, in his presence. Mainly about how attractive you find some certain specimen. You know, what straight men often talk about.

 

[Purple Shrimp]

hope he posts on this forum and sees the thread

 

[Pegghead]

Maybe the note was from somebody else, or maybe he just likes you as a friend. Don't say anything yet, and if it keeps up then maybe do something like...bring in a picture of you (And if you're in a relationship) and your girlfriend to put on the desk.

 

[Glerken]

I'd tell him your straight...
If you just ignore it he'll think you may be interested.

You might want to clear things up with him before it gets more awkward...

 

[Emperor Inferno]

Haha, I've had a lot of gay guys hit on me. The first time was as wierd and awkward as you're describing, but now, it just rolls off my back. Here's what I do, it'll work for you, too. Tell him calmly that you're not gay, and you're sorry. Don't be mean, don't get pissed, and don't act like he's a digusting freak. Just say something along the lines of "look, I'm sorry, I'm not gay. I don't have a problem with you being gay, but please don't hit on me. It's uncomfortable, and it's just not gonna happen."

 

[TheTaco007]

casually mention a girl you think is hot or something like that.
he should take the hint from that.
if he doesn't, you're gonna have to clearly say that you're straight & that you aren't interested.

Yeah, just point out one of your colleagues to him and see what his reactions are.

 

[Rancid0ffspring]

Ok thanks for all the feed back people. I'll be speaking to him today & the plan is as follows.

1) Subtly enquire if the note was deffinetly for me
2) Explain that I'm not gay but do appreciate the sentiment
3) Ensure him that I still think he is a friend

Have a good day all. I'm going to deal with my awkward situation

 

[Captain Blackout]

I hope I didn't miss the poster, because I see a critical fail. If he mentions sex first, he's committing the same mistake men have made towards both men and women for all the years there have been men and women: Sex first.
Ask if the notes for you, from him, then ask why. Smile while you ask. Then respond politely as needed and you'll make a friend (or ward off a stalker, wins either way)

EDIT: Damn, waaay too late......