Baah!! Major Step Forward!

[Fishehh]

Okay, So I have decided that I want to ask my best friend. She is the most beautiful girl and has the best personality of any girl I've ever met. Now, for argument's sake, I'm going to call her "Katy". Now, back in 8th gr. I "dated" (if you can even call it that at that age) her best frIend "Meg". My other friend "Kyle" dated "Meg" soon after we split.

Me and "Meg" were not very good together, but neither were "Kyle" and "Meg". Recently, though, "Kyle" dated "Katy" and was a real dick during the breakup. I'm looking for advice on how to go about this without asking her out too Forwardly and scaring her as she is very shy. "Katy" (The one I'm going to ask out, incase your lost) is about a year older and extremely shy as already mentioned.

And I know I'd like to date her and not just be friends as I can not stop thinking about holding her when she is sad, laughing with when she is happy and enjoying the rest of our lifes together (yes I'm one of those guys that thinks about marriage even before dating someone)

(P.S. Written on my iPod at 2:54 AM spelling mistakes and incoherent sentences will be fixed later.)

Thank-you!

 

[Instant K4rma]

If you don't want to be too forthcoming about it, get her into a situation where you are both comfortable. Find some time where the two of you can be alone and uninterrupted, and calmly talk to her about your feelings for her. Nothing big or flashy. If she really is as shy as you say she is, making a 'scene' of it would be a mistake, to say the least.

Though I'm no expert on relationships (as several of my own have proven), so my advice may not be all that helpful or reliable.

 

[Istanbul]

And I know I'd like to date her and not just be friends as I can not stop thinking about holding her when she is sad, laughing with when she is happy and enjoying the rest of our lifes together (yes I'm one of those guys that thinks about marriage even before dating someone)

With the exception of the "enjoy the rest of our lives together" part, you just told us what you need to tell her. Be honest and straightforward with her. Everyone appreciates the opportunity to have a clear idea of what's in front of them, and she'll be grateful for your openness and clear communication. (Unless she's *critically* shy, in which case that's a level of social maladjustment that she'll need to sort out before she's relationship material.)

That said, BE WARNED.

Once you've tried to take this step, there's no going back. You're giving up your friendship in hopes of something better. You'd better be pretty sure that she reciprocates your feelings - something you should already know if this person really is that close to you - before you take this leap. If she does, tread softly, as a shy person can be put off from doing what they want to do by social pressures. If she doesn't, be happy with what you have! You'll learn as you go through life that having friends is one of the best things in the world, and it's better to keep a good friend throughout the years than it is to turn your friendship awkward (and then nonexistent) by taking a bad risk.

So, you tell me: does she feel the same about you?